The Potential State Podcast

Life is Hard.

It's like a long game full of rules and regulation that you need to follow in order to "win". Play can help it be much more easy and fun.

Come see how and why LUBE IS THE LUBE OF LIFE through examples from coffee shops, the clinic, my marriage, parenting and more.
Practical tips on how to lubricate the game of life are given.
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Do you or your loved ones speak in past tense (I realized, I though, I discovered, I reflected...)? 
If so, that type of communication is often a defense mechanism that keeps you safe and less vulnerable, but also kills the possibility of synergistic, co-created relationships.

In this talk I explain why people do this and the impact it has on intimacy and communication. Examples from the clinic and workshops illustrate how the move from past tense to PRESENTENSE can actually change dynamics.

Practical tips are given to help you dare to broadcast live in your life.
Recorded live on FB.

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Does your partner disappoint you by not celebrating your achievements? Do they sometimes even discourage, mock or belittle your personal or professional growth?

 If so, then no need to be insulted, surprised or disappointed. 
 The solution is simple:
 STOP WAITING FOR THEIR APPROVAL!
For most partners, they resist your growth because they are part of your system.

In this talk I explain why the people who love us the most, often stop our growth. Examples illustrate how this unfolds in the clinic and my life and practical tips are given on how to deal with this truth.
Recorded live on FB.
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 *** And check out my wife Galit Romanelli's amazing project that is rocking our life and hopefully the world: www.mothermilk.org

"For he who holds a hammer, the whole world is a nail." (Maslow)

We all have core beliefs about ourselves and the world (for example: I'm damaged good, the world is dangerous place, kids are a burden, anger is bad). They all originally served and protected us. Over the years, some might have become limiting and constraining through the years.

In this talk I describe how these core beliefs are adopted, how they serve us and when is it time to refresh them.
Examples will be given from the clinic that demonstrate how these core manifest in relationships.
Practical tips on how to change your core beliefs are detailed.
Recorded live on FB.


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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
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Do you (or your loved one) often flood the conversation with strong feelings, traumas or dramas?
If so, that is called Spewing and although it has gains, it is actually detrimental to your relationship.
In this talk, I explain why it is better to open a shutter instead of spewing. Examples from the clinic and teaching illuminate the negative effects of spewing. Practical tips on the art of sharing will help you deepen your relationships.
Recorded live on FB.
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Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw

You shadow (the parts of you that you hide) is always bigger than you are. This shadow points to your next growth, inviting you to own your shit and be bigger. 
If you run away, deny or dissociate from it - the shadow will just get bigger. The best way to work with your shadow is to face it and lean into it - resulting in your true light shining brighter than every. Come see this concept in a simple and powerful way. 
Recorded live on FB.
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Check out the video of this episode to see the visual effects of the shadow: 
https://youtu.be/gbqoZLnprNs

Do you keep expecting your loved ones to do or say things and they keep disappointing you?

That is probably because you are at the earlier stages of the wanting spiral: Wanting, Expecting, Demanding, Asking, Wishing, Baring. Come hear how to move upward in the wanting spiral in order to feel more understood, loved and differentiated. Examples are given from the clinic and my life about the different phases of the spiral and its consequences. Practical tips will send you up the spiral in no time!
Recorded live on FB.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
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We all want to protect ourselves and our relationships, so we tend to keep things vague by over-verbalizing (and not conveying a clear stand) or not communicating at all. This leads to mind reading, reactive, symbiotic dynamic that is a huge WASTE TO TIME AND ENERGY. The solution? TALK IN NUMBERS.

This talk explores why people purposely keep their opinions and feelings vague in their intimate relationships and how communicating in numbers can help. Examples from the clinic and my life are given and practical examples will help you increase the honesty and intensity of your relationships.
Recorded live on FB.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael

Do you or your loved ones tend to be Surprised, Insulted or Disappointed when you two encounter heat, tension, constructive feedback or conflict?
If so, then you are experiencing The Holy Trinity of Blocking: Surprise, Insult and Disappointment.
In this talk I describe why people choose these reactions, what they gain and lose from these behaviors and how this trinity can be avoided. Examples from the clinic and my life are described throughout. Practical tips are given that will help you escape the trinity to a new era of differentiated love!
Recorded live on FB.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael

We all love the G.S.D. (Get Sh!t Done) people at work. You might even be that person. And yet many times we are not the G.S.D. person and resist telling our partners "I got it.". Why?

In this talk I'll describe the different reasons we resist managing projects or aspects of our personal relationships and the prices we pay for it. Examples are given from my life and the clinic. As usual, practical tips are given on how to be more often the G.S.D. person in your relationships.
Recorded live on FB.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael