The Potential State Podcast

We all prefer to leave things open and not commit. That way we postpone conflict, intimacy and maintain control.
But this vagueness creates personal and relational problems and tensions.
The Solution: being explicitly uncomfortable.

In this talk I explain why we keep it vague and how can we dare to become more uncomfortably explicit. Examples are included from the clinic and my life.
Tips are given how to be more explicitly uncomfortable.
Recorded live on FB.

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As kids there were no mistakes. Through the years we become scared of making mistakes and failing. That leads to issues of control, perfectionism and anxiety.
Yet the truth is that there are no mistakes!
 
In this talk I'll share creative attitudes towards mistakes from the world of theater improvisation, NLP and psychotherapy to show a new way to look at mistakes.

Examples will be given from the clinic and my life with Galit Romanelli. As always, practical tips will be given to help you start enjoying mistakes!
Recorded live on FB.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
https://medium.com/@assael
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
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https://twitter.com/assael

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Life is serious.
Relationships are difficult.

You need a place to verbalize all the crazy that you are feeling and thinking in a way that will be generative and fun.

In this talk, I explain how to do it with examples from the clinic, workshops and my marriage with the ever-playful Galit Romanelli​.
Recorded live on FB.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
https://medium.com/@assael
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael


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Most of us deflect and stonewall ourselves from our partner's constructive feedback or pain. Over time such defensiveness can hurt your relationship.
The solution?
LET IT LAND. Also called Accepting influence.


In this talk, I explain how to let your partner's positions affect you in order to enrich your relationship. Examples are given from the clinic and my life with Galit Romanelli, as well as practical tips on how to do it.
Recorded live on FB.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
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https://twitter.com/assael

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What do you do when you arrive at your hotel and EVERYTHING SUCKS?
How do you not let reality ruin your (and your kids) experience?

Join Galit and Assael as they demonstrate how to use Play to save your disaster vacations.

Link to the original episode of Play as the lube of life:
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/244426/1910906-play-is-the-lube-of-life-on-vacation

The clip from Inside Out "Thanks for ruining Pizza, San Fransisco":
https://youtu.be/O_b2W0Vfbv4

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
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We all test our partners, hoping they will either pass and validate our choice, and/or fail and help us feel better with ourselves. Whatever the test is, the secret is to admit it playfully so the test can help you actually increase intimacy and vulnerability.

In this talk I explain and give examples on how to use tests to graduate to the next level of your relationship.
Recorded live on FB.

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://twitter.com/assael

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Most of us have a problem with our physical size (weight, height, look, features). We usually overcompensate by belittling ourselves or being condescending. Not owning our size, actually stops our PERSONAL growth.

In this talk I explain how to own your size, through examples from the clinic and real life.
Recorded live on FB.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://twitter.com/assael

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Not knowing how to change is a great defense mechanism that not only protects you but in the long run can hurt your self-esteem as well as your relationship.
In this talk I explain why and how not knowing hurts you and your loved ones. Examples and tips are given on how to start knowing and daring to share your (not) wanting.
Recorded live on FB.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael

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We all have three brains that allow us to be rational, sensitive human beings.
 
But under stress or conflict we lose one of the brains and regress to early Homo Sapiens defense survival mechanisms.

In this talk I explain why and how this survival mindstate unfolds and its impact on your relationships. Examples are given from the clinic and parenting. I also share how you can utilize your whole brain to move from survival mode to being fully engaged in your relationships.
recorded live on FB.

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Come read our blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships

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Most of us live rather grey lives, without too much excitement. 
The routine of life is hard sometimes.
We wonder if our life could be more exciting, like the ones we see in the movies.
But we can all access the rock star life!

Come learn why you should live it, how you can achieve it through examples from workshops and my family.
Practical tips will help you rock on today!
Recorded live on FB.

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