The Potential State Podcast

We've all been in this scenario:
Your partner asks or remarks to you on something that you don't want to do. 
Since we're scared of disappointing them and want to avoid a fight,  we "smokescreen" our truth and placate them. This often leads to heaviness, lack of play, mind reading, and tension.

The solution?

 “IT'S THAT IMPORTANT TO ME.”

In this talk, Galit and I unpack why using this sentence playfully with ownersh!t, can help you become more authentic and open with your partner.
Examples are given from the clinic and our life.
Practical tips will help you speak this simple truth effectively in your relationship.

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How many of you have heard and internalized the feedback that you're "too much"?
If so, how has that impacted your life?
Every day we work with women (and sometimes men) who have internalized this limiting belief and its negative impact on their lives.

In this talk, Galit and I breakdown the gains and losses of this core belief, through examples from Galit's life and the clinic.
Practical tips will help you soften this core belief and be your fullest self!

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So often couples engage in an unconscious competition who is suffering more in the relationship.
This dynamic results in more arguments, less vulnerability, and even a breakup.

In this talk, Galit and  I describe this dynamic, the reasons behind it, and the damage it creates.
Examples are given from our marriage and the clinic.
Practical tips will help you soften this dynamic in your own relationship.

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
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Why is it that when our partner tries to change their behavior, we so often shoot it down, claiming its "fake"?
Because often we have this dichotomous thinking (Eithor) that if our partner doesn't do it naturally then they're faking it.
But every new behavior will feel somewhat fake because if it was natural for us, we would've done it already!
What is the solution?
To soften our Natural/Fake Eithor.

In this talk, Galit and I explain how this Eithor is created and how it prevents couples from growing and evolving.
Examples are given from the clinic and our marriage.
Practical tips will help you become more open and positive about the behavioral change of your partner.

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http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
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We all have tense periods where we tend to interpret anything and everything our partner says or does as negative, insulting, hurtful, or aggressive.
The Gottman researchers call this dynamic N.S.O - negative sentiment override.

This lethal dynamic has a snowball effect that is hard to stop, and can lead to deep resentment and breakup.

In this talk, Galit and I explain the reasons and dynamic of NSO through examples from our marriage and the clinic. Practical (somewhat surprising) tips will help you minimize NSO in your relationship today.

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
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Dating today is not easy.
Singles are getting tired and confused as to how to date in the 21st century, COVID, apps-filled era.
Yet we believe the dating scene should be approached from a completely different angle:
instead of going on dates, choose to see them as PLAY DATES, where your goal is to be yourself and fun.

In this talk, Galit and I offer our top ten (somewhat surprising) practical dating tips that will help you be more yourself and more vulnerable in your (play) dates.

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
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The media puts a lot of pressure on us to have wonderful, multi-orgasm, wall-socket sex.
But in reality, in a committed long-term relationship, mediocre (maintenance) sex is inevitable.
This causes many couples (especially men) to avoid sex and even doubt their relationship.

In this talk, Galit and I unpack the truth about maintenance sex and share why it is crucial for happy relationships.
Practical tips will help you enjoy mediocre sex (while still aiming for great sex).

Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources every week!
Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
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Do you feel like you are more emotionally intelligent and somewhat superior in your intimacy skills than your partner?
Do you feel like your partner is nagging you and never happy with the level of communication and feelings you express?

If you answered yes, then you might be in the Intimacy Queen/King and Emotionally Disabled dynamic. This dynamic hides the fact that BOTH of you are essentially avoiding mature intimacy through your specific roles.

In this talk, I explain how this dynamic evolves and how to change it through examples from the clinic.
Practical tips will help you soften this dynamic in your own relationship today.

Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources every week!
Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael

For many of us yelling is a sensitive issue.
We inherit from our families of origin certain beliefs and attitudes about yelling.
Yet sometimes, yelling is a sublimatory expression of feelings, frustrations, or even excitement.
What is the difference then? How can we distinguish and work with yelling?

In this talk, Galit and I unpack this topic through examples from our marriage and the clinic.

Practical tips will help you better work with yelling in your relationships. 

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael

We say sorry all the time (or not enough) in our intimate relationships.
But often we confuse between the different types of 'sorry' we use. This often leads to more conflict and stress than forgiveness and closeness.

In this talk, Galit and I share the four types of Sorry we've distilled in our life together, using examples from our life.
Practical tips will help you distinguish which sorry to use in different scenarios in your relationship.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael