The Potential State Podcast

People are different and so misunderstandings and ruptures are unavoidable.
Therefore, disappointments are natural and unavoidable. Many of us avoid expressing and hearing of our partner's disappointment with us.
This usually stems from a fear that disappointment leads to abandonment.
Yet disappointment is actually a wonderful tool for individual and relational growth!

In this talk, Galit and I unpack disappointment and why it's a crucial feeling in relationships, through examples from our marriage and the clinic.
Practical tips will help you reclaim disappointment in your relationships for deeper intimacy and growth.

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We all react to our MAP of the world and not the objective world.
In NLP we say: The map is not the territory.
Our map of the world is shaped by our sensory preference (visual, auditory, kinesthetic, audio-digital). Conflicts and tensions in relationships stem from differences in sensory preferences.
Learning to recognize your own and other's maps of the world can help you improve your relationships.
In this talk, Galit and I explain the different sensory preferences and how they affect intimate relationships, through examples from our life and the clinic.
Practical examples will help you become more aware and flexible in your communication.

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A lot of us were taught that "wanting is dangerous" therefore we develop a core belief that "ambition is dangerous" and we either avoid being ambitious or alternatively feel guilty for being ambitious.
But Ambition is a healthy feeling that can help you live the life you've always wanted.

In this talk, I break down ambition, and through examples from the clinic and my life, show how it can be reclaimed.
Practical tips will help you reclaim ambition in your life today.

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
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We all get bored and judgmental in our life and our relationship.
This is a natural effect of growing older.
Yet it is possible to prevent these feelings.
How?
Curiosity.

In this talk, I explain how curiosity can prevent and minimize boredom and judgment, through examples from the clinic and my life.
Practical tips will help you increase your curiosity today!

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
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It's natural to keep score in our intimate relationship. Yet if it's too rigid it can limit your personal and relational growth.

 In this talk, I explain why this happens and how to change it through examples from the clinic and my personal life. Practical tips will help you soften the scorekeeping in your life, so both partners can start winning. 

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
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In each Eithor episode, we tackle a different core dichotomy that limits people's growth.

Most of us have a core belief that we can either be playful or responsible. We inherit this core belief from our families of origin and enact it in our lives. This either/or dichotomy (What we call an EITHOR - an internal golem that limits you) hurts your ability to grow and hurts your intimate relationships. In this talk Galit (my wife) and I explore how this EITHOR manifests and how to change it.
Examples are given from the clinic and our marriage.
Practical tips will help you soften this Eithor in your life today.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
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We all have secrets. That's natural.
But what limits our growth and relationships is the shame and guilt they cause.
But what can we do about it?
In this talk, I share the ways in which secrets can hurt your development and prevent your intimate relationships from deepening.
Examples are given from the clinic and my life.
Practical tips are given how to safely diffuse secrets from the toxic effect in your life.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
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We all have a love tank. When it's empty we feel unloved, angry, lonely, and become passive-aggressive. In short, empty love tank=bad relationships.
The secret to a good relationship is filling up each other's love tank.
How do you do it?
Firstly, you must recognize what you and your partner's love language is. Then you must learn how to speak in their love language.

In this talk, Galit (my wife) and I discuss the theory of The Five Love language by Dr. Gary Chapman, using examples from the clinic and our marriage.
Practical tips are given to help you learn to recognize your own love language and better fill your partner's and children's love tank.

For more information on the five love languages check out: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

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http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
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Most of us try to avoid deep feelings of pain, anguish, and despair.
Yet by blocking those dark feelings (which I call the 1-3 feelings) you are also blocking your ability to feel deep ecstasy, joy, and elation.

In this talk, I explain why the key to your deep joy is in your pain, through examples from the clinic and my personal life.
Practical tips will help you gently explore your pain to re-connect to profound joy.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael

"There's no comfort in the growth zone and no growth in the comfort zone."

Do people in your life want more from you?
Are they excited and invested in your development and growth?
Most of us don't have a 'more' space in our lives where we are challenged to evolve and mature by the people around us.
In this talk I explain why having a 'more' space in your life will help you develop beyond your comfort zone.
Examples are given from the clinic and my personal life. Practical tips are given how to start creating a 'more' space in your relationships.

www.potentialstate.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
http://podcast.potentialstate.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw
https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState
https://twitter.com/assael