Let's face it - relationships can be challenging. You see the world one way; your partner sees it another. As a result, conflict can abound. In this episode, Certified Enneagram Facilitator Dr. Kelly Wright joins us to discuss how our Enneagram number or type can help us better understand ourselves and how we interact with those around us.

At 4:00, Kelly explains what the Enneagram is, the nine types and why we typically don't "like" our number.

At 7:20, Kelly explains the specific challenges that each type brings to relationships.

At 13:30, Kelly answers the question, "Is there an Enneagram match made in heaven?"

At 17:45, Kelly discusses how couples get "triggered" by one another and explains how long it takes to get "un-triggered."

At 20:00, Kelly, Rachel and Robin discuss how to be OK when the people we love aren't.

At 25:20, Kelly offers additional tips for individuals and couples who are interested in how the Enneagram can enrich their relationships.


Guest: Dr. Kelly Wright, LPC and Associate Pastor; Restore Ministries, Woodcrest Chapel, Certified Enneagram Facilitator, Columbia, MO.

To join Kelly for her next workshop, sign up here: https://woodcrest.ccbchurch.com/goto/forms/1076/responses/new

Recommended Readings: 

• The Road Back to You, Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile
• The Path Between Us, Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile
• Spiritual Rhythms for the Enneagram, Calhoun and Loughrige
• The Wisdom of the Enneagram, Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson
• The Enneagram, A Christian Perspective, Richard Rohr
• The Enneagram in Love and Work, Helen Palmer
• The Enneagram Made Easy, Elizabeth Wagele
• The Nine Lenses on the World, Jerome Wagner
• Are you my Type? Am I Yours? Relationships Made Easy through the Enneagram, Elizabeth Wagele
• The Essential Enneagram, David Daniels

Helpful Websites:

• Enneagraminstitute.com – Riso and Hudson
• Don't know your Enneagram number? Take the Enneagram quiz using this link: https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test

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Maybe Disney and Rom-Com movies are to blame? Or perhaps it's social media? Or maybe it’s just that we are hard-wired for relationship? Whatever the reason, the desire for the perfect relationship often results in us trying to be the perfect partner, which is the perfect recipe for disaster.

In this episode, Dr. Kelly Wright, LPC, discusses how to overcome these unrealistic expectations so that we can move toward having healthier and happier relationships. Whether you are single, married, or single again, this podcast has something for everyone!

SHOW NOTES:

Guest: Dr. Kelly Wright, LPC and Associate Pastor; Restore Ministries, Woodcrest Chapel, Columbia, MO.

At 9:30: Kelly introduces the importance of the 12 stages of attachment and how couples problematically skip several stages and go right to sexual intimacy. To learn more about the stages of attachment, she suggest Bonding by Donald Joy.

At 16:00, Kelly discusses our greatest, deep desires: to be fully known, unconditionally loved and completely accepted.

At 23:00, Kelly shares what she's seen as the biggest struggle for married couples.

At 27:30, Kelly offers her best strategies to combat the challenges of perfectionism in relationships.

At 36:30, we preview next week's episode when Kelly returns to discuss how your Enneagram number impacts your relationships. Don't know you're Enneagram number? Get prepared for next week's conversation by taking the Enneagram quiz using this link: https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test

Want to connect with Robin and Rachel on Instagram? Find them here: https://instagram.com/theproblemwithperfect?igshid=9jvum57yip6l

Also connect with Robin on Facebook at Robin May Ministries
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Or Email us your thoughts, questions or anything you want us to know at [email protected]

With the holiday season rapidly approaching, the opportunities to eat, overeat, and beat ourselves up about it will be endless. So, how do we have a healthy physical and emotional relationship with food? How do we recognize if we or someone we love (including our kiddos) is at risk for disordered eating, or even worse, an eating disorder? In this episode, Registered Dietitian and Owner of Bamboo Nutrition, Isabelle Bouchard answers all these questions and more as we work toward loving ourselves and the foods around us.

SHOW NOTES:
Looking for more podcasts on this subject, Isabelle recommends:

THE LOVE FOOD PODCAST
Julie Duffy Dillon, RDN http://www.juliedillonrd.com/lovefoodpodcast/

BODY KINDNESS
Rebecca Stritchfield, RDN https://www.bodykindnessbook.com/podcast/

NUTRITION MATTERS
Paige Smathers, RDN, CD https://www.positive-nutrition.com/podcast

DON’T SALT MY GAME
Laura Thomas, PhD http://www.laurathomasphd.co.uk/category/podcast/

YOU CAN EAT WITH US
Cara Harbstreet, RD http://www.libreconnections.com/home/podcast/

THE BODYLOVE PROJECT
Jessi Haggerty, RD https://www.jessihaggerty.com/blppodcast/

Other resources:
Body Kindness by Rebecca Scritchfield

Sick Enough by Jennifer Gaudiani

Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch

Visit Isabelle's website for more information or if they’re interested in groups or individual sessions: www.bamboonutritionrd.com

Want to connect with Robin and Rachel on Instagram? Find them here: https://instagram.com/theproblemwithperfect?igshid=9jvum57yip6l

Read Robin's blogpost about food shaming at: https://bat-recorder-sznx.squarespace.com/config/

Also connect with Robin on Facebook at Robin May Ministries
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Or Email us your thoughts, questions or anything you want us to know at [email protected]

Let’s face it, life is scary!

This week’s Halloween episode of the podcast tackles the very real and frightening subject of anxiety. Whether you are one of the 40 million Americans suffering from anxiety or not, we all experience the fears that come with living in this uncertain world. 

In this episode, Patrick Miller, Podcaster and the Director of Twenties Ministries from The Crossing is our guest. You’ll want to compare your fears with the things Patrick sees people fearing most frequently, as well as his practical insight for overcoming those fears. 

Show Notes

Guest: Patrick Miller, Crossing Twenties Director, The Crossing, Columbia MO 

Check out Patrick’s podcasts:

Ten Minute Bible Talks
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ten-minute-bible-talks/id1477778533

and Bible Field Guide
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bible-field-guide/id1477196678 

Other resources:

The Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt

To read more encouragement from Robin (www.robinmayministriescom) on anxiety and worry:

How I Dealt with my Anxiety Attack https://www.robinmayministries.com/blog/howtodealwithanxietyattacks

Why Do I Worry?
https://www.robinmayministries.com/blog/whydoiworry

Want to connect with Robin and Rachel on Instagram? Find them here: https://instagram.com/theproblemwithperfect?igshid=9jvum57yip6l

Also connect with Robin on Facebook at Robin May Ministries

https://www.facebook.com/2330042033706535/posts/2871699789540754?sfns=mo or on Instagram at:  https://ww.instagram.com/p/B3lFRS8HELd/

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Or Email us your thoughts, questions or anything you want us to know at [email protected]

Nothing has the potential of ruining our “perfect’ lives more than losing someone we love. Whether it’s a child, spouse, parent, significant other or friend - we all have those people in our lives that we can’t imagine living without. This episode is a raw and transparent look back to when Robin's worst nightmare came to life as her son was diagnosed and battled leukemia. No matter what the “cancer” is in your life, this conversation between Rachel and Robin can help you find hope in the midst of despair. 

Show Notes:

To watch the video Rachel created in 2018 about our cancer story:
https://www.thecrossingchurch.com/stories/matt-mays-story/

Want to connect with Robin and Rachel on Instagram? Find them here: https://instagram.com/theproblemwithperfect?igshid=9jvum57yip6l

Are you or someone you know battling cancer? Find more transparent stories and words of encouragement from the May Family's on Robin's blog at
https://bat-recorder-sznx.squarespace.com/config/pages

Need more information on navigating the blood cancer journey? Contact the Lymphoma and Leukemia Society at: https://www.lls.org/

Also connect with Robin on Facebook at Robin May Ministries
https://www.facebook.com/2330042033706535/posts/2871699789540754?sfns=mo or on Instagram at:  https://ww.instagram.com/p/B3lFRS8HELd/

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Or Email us your thoughts, questions or anything you want us to know at [email protected]

Being a perfectionist gets a bad rap. But why? And perhaps more importantly, how do you know if you, or someone close to you, is a perfectionist? In this episode, Rachel and Robin discuss five tell-tale signs of perfectionists and share personal stories of how this has both positively and negatively impacted their lives.

Show Notes:

To read the article on diagnosing perfectionism that is referenced in the show: https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-you-may-be-a-perfectionist-3145233

Want to connect with Robin and Rachel on Instagram: https://instagram.com/theproblemwithperfect?igshid=9jvum57yip6l

Want more on how perfectionism plays out in Robin's life, check out her blog post on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/2330042033706535/posts/2871699789540754?sfns=mo or on Instagram at:  https://ww.instagram.com/p/B3lFRS8HELd/

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Rachel is preparing to celebrate her 25th birthday this week. What an exciting time of life, filled with endless possibilities - which is why it can also be an overwhelming. In this episode, Rachel tries to cheat the system as she and Robin chat about things Robin wishes she would have known in her 20s. Listen in as we talk about the struggles of adulting, being a wife and mother, and trying to fulfill the world's expectations - all while dealing with a denied shame-based identity. 

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Want more encouraging blog posts from Robin, visit her website at https://www.Robinmayministries.com or on Facebook at Robin May Ministries. 

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So you have a timeline for your life and you’ve executed every detail perfectly. You've followed through on your end of the deal, yet somehow life isn’t rewarding you for all of your hard work. You’re not where you want to be in your career, you still haven’t found your dream partner, and somehow your life is messier and less fulfilling than you’d like to admit. You’re left wondering: How did this happen? Will things get better?  

Join self-proclaimed perfectionists Robin and Rachel as they discuss how this dilemma has played havoc in their day to day lives - leaving them overwhelmed, deflated and disappointed. You won't want to miss this conversation that offers help for the hopeless planner.

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Want more encouraging content or information on having Robin speak at your next event, visit http://www.Robinmayministries.com

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Or Email us your thoughts, questions or anything you want us to know at [email protected]