The Secure Husband

The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic


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Do you feel like you're the only one trying?
Are you always the one who reaches out, starts the hard talks, and keeps the marriage going?
Does it feel like your wife just shuts down, pulls away, or avoids connection?

This is called the pursuer-distancer dynamic, and it’s common in struggling marriages. One person chases. The other runs. And both feel stuck.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
✅ Why one-sided effort creates stress and silence
✅ How the pursuer-distancer pattern starts and keeps going
✅ Why your wife pulls away when you try harder
✅ How to stop chasing without becoming cold
✅ What it means to lead with calm instead of anxiety
✅ Real steps to build peace, power, and connection

This Is for You If You:
🔹 Always bring things up and get shut down
🔹 Feel like she’s pulling away more each day
🔹 Want closeness but don’t want to feel needy
🔹 Are tired of feeling like the only one trying
🔹 Want to stop reacting and start leading yourself

You Will Walk Away With:
✔️ A clear understanding of the pattern you’re stuck in
✔️ Tools to stop chasing and start grounding
✔️ Steps to speak with strength, not pressure
✔️ A way to break the cycle without guilt or resentment
✔️ More peace — even if she doesn’t change right away

📍 Need help with this?
Visit SecureHusband.com for coaching that helps you build emotional strength, stop chasing, and feel calm even when your marriage feels distant. Book a free 30-minute consultation now.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.


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The Secure HusbandBy M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC

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