Let' start with: Everyone in the world has made a decision that they would classify as the wrong or a bad decision. Some might be as little as choosing the wrong restaurant to having too many drinks to choosing to stay out that little bit longer and something happened to financial decisions, business decisions or making a deal with someone that at first turns out to be the 'bad' or 'wrong' decision.

Have a think about what yours is? What decisions have you made that were 'wrong' or 'bad'?

How does it make you feel to think about them? Usually in the moment if I look back at when I made that decision I want to shake the younger me and say NOOOO!!!! Take the other option, DON'T DO IT!!!

But, when we look to the now…were those decisions actually the wrong or bad one? Would you be where you are today without making THAT decision?

(I was to caveat that making a decision to be with someone and they were abusive in any shape or for may have been the 'wrong' decision for you and I'm not turning it around to say 'but good things happened from this'because no one deserves this and this is next level)

What I am saying is that you can CHOOSE to see the lessons and where you are today as a result of those decisions as appose to looking at you being the victim and bad things always happening to you.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• A decision is only 'bad' 'wrong' if you give it that meaning, you can CHOOSE to see it as a lesson, but you need to identify WHAT that lesson was to move forward with growing in your current life.
• Would you be where you are today without making those decisions?
• Would you learn anything in life if you didn't make those decisions? If you didn't then, could have the impact been much larger if you didn't learn now?
• The only thing that is actually REAL in the world is RIGHT now. The past doesn't exist anymore, and the future is not real. What are you learning right now and what skills and strengths do you have right now?

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This is something my amazing trainer and mentor says all the time and every time I hear it, it still has the same impact.

Something that goes hand in hand with this is 'any situation is neutral until you give it meaning'.

I want you to think of receiving a text message from a close friend and all it say is 'I can't come anymore' you were meant to meet for coffee today, and honestly, you were looking forward to it all week and now all you get is this short message. Your thoughts go straight to: 'I'm already ready to go, what am I going to do now, this is what I was looking forward to all week'

In this sense, the thing you see is late notice for cancellation, a short message and now your missing out.

We have all been there at some stage yeah?

But what would happen if you changed that scenario a little. The way you say that text message changed. Your thoughts about that SAME text message? What if you changed your thoughts to not always be about you? To be about 'I wonder if everything is ok' 'Maybe I should call and ensure they are ok' – because what if the FACT of this scenario was that your friend was having a hard morning and couldn't cope that morning – hence the short text message.

When we change the way we see things the very things we see change.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Any situation is neutral until you GIVE it meaning
• The way you see things, the thoughts you give it effects your emotion related to that situation
• Change your thoughts, get outside of your own mind.
• What are the FACTS? How can you identify between thoughts and facts?
• Is the way you see things at the moment serving you? Is it bringing you joy?

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Firstly, if you haven't already listened to Episode 40 – People Pleasing – I lightly recommend you listen to this one first.

Ok, so let's start with some examples of what not being able to say no looks like. We have:

• Break up's and dating: Your friends pursue you to get onto a dating sight after a break up. You don't want to, but you do it anyways but then you think: 'What if I meet someone and I don't click with them, how do I say I don't want to see them again'
• Drinking: As much as this might be a shock to you, we don't 'always' drink. Yet sometimes we find it hard to say 'no' will I be missing out? Will people think I'm 'not fun' How do I say no to a drink?
• Play Dates: You organize a playdate, but then you're exhausted you don't want to go but what if the other person thinks you're being nasty, that you're not a good friend? What if they never want to meet up again?
• Family: a family message goes out about the family going to dinner on a Wednesday night (brothers, sisters, cousins etc) the kids have sport practice that afternoon and school the next day. If you don't go you think everyone will think you're a bad person. IF you do, the kids will not get enough sleep

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Why don't we just say no? Because we have a: Fear of conflict, fear of others not liking us
• Women tend to want to avoid conflict more than men they want others to be happy
• First of all, you don't always need to use the word 'NO' actually in most cases this is the WORST word you can use
• 1.Set boundaries on what you ARE/ARE NOT comfortable with
• 2.Phrase your response with kindness, but firmness. Ensure the other person UNDERSTANDS what you're saying and is interpreting what you're saying the way you intend to send the message
• 3.Follow up with kindness.

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Limiting beliefs:

• I might need this one day
• It's a waste of money to throw this away
• I will just sell it on gumtree, facebook, etc. – if you're saying this one you're probably still struggling with number 2
• I feel guilty to let it go.

Here are some hard truths:

1. Nothing you own is ever really gone it will just exist somewhere else (even in the tip – or with someone who can use it)
2. The best way to reduce clutter is to reduce what you bring in – one touch rule
3. Many of us shop to escape out feelings!!!!!!
4. Every single thing you own Is something more you have to take care of and find space for
5. Clutter has been linked to depression
6. The longer you own something the more attached you will become
7. Eventually someone you know will have to decide with all the SH*T you own.
8. Your 'stuff' is getting in the way of YOUR best stuff

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• First of all, let's get something straight. You have a lot is SH*T you don't use.
• Stop - do you really need this like Marie Kondo, Does this spark joy
• Act with awareness stop and ask if you need it or want it
• Make list WITH an action against it
• This doesn't mean getting rid of EVERYHTING you own, its means being conscious about what you do have and ensuring everything has a 'home' not just stuffed in the corner
• Action plan of tacking things. One cupboard, one drawer at a time
• One touch action

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I think I'm going to start conversations with: Look, I'm not weird, I swear I'm normal but… this comes from I recently completed my Reiki I course and over 2 weeks at the end of May will be completing a WHOLE suite including Reiki 2, NLP, EFT, Timeline Therapy, Hypnosis and CTC – I will do a whole episode about all this, but I feel a lot of my conversations are already starting with: I promise I'm normal.

Ok, so what I want to start with here is I want you to think of a funeral. Now, I don't want to trigger anything so this funeral is going to be for someone you don't know AT ALL. Think of a movie scene funeral. Now if there was an open coffin I want you to think about what you see? You see a body. A Shell.

This is the way my Physic once told me how he see's life and honestly, It's the EXACT same way I do now as well. US, Is in the inside.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• YOU are on the inside, not the outside the outside can visually identify you but not emotionally
• I want you to think of bodies that have gone through some type of trauma. Any. A bad child birth, illness etc – As much as your physical body may have changed. YOU have a choice if you do or not
• Accepting and loving your body doesn't counter out nourishing and/or changing your body
• Your self talk is what you LET define you.

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Firstly what is perfect?

So the Cambridge dictionary states: complete and correct in every way, of the best possible type or without fault:

Now, in this context it is referring to 'the perfect day' and even that, is there really such thing as the 'perfect day' in everyone's eyes? Your perception of the perfect day might be someone else's nightmare!!! So, the definition of 'perfect' is subject to each persons interpretation and here we go…thoughts and feelings.

So with this, Sarah and I were talking about how we don't want to prefis that we are 'perfect, be like us…we always have out sh*t together and you should just be like us' we are REAL, that is what we are. We don't always have our sh*t together but we practice what we preach. We use our tools so when we find ourselves in situations where we feel anxious, lost, alone, confused. We actually use our tools. We talk to each other ALL the time about what is going on in each others lives (we essentially coach each other EVERY DAY!!) and both also have our own coaches that we still see here and there to ensure we have all the tools we need for our current situations.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• What is 'Perfect'??
• We forget school lunches, we forget school interviews, our kids swear in public and say some weird things in class.
• The teachers pull us aside about situations
• We sometimes yell
• We sometimes cry
• We WORK on our relationships (ALL OF THEM!!!)
• We work on our budgets
• WE USE TOOLS so most of the time, we are enjoying life and THRIVING but we DO THE WORK on us
• What this means is we don't REACT as much
• WE ARE REAL

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We've all been there. We've either been the pleaser, or the please' In researching for this podcast I found a great example of what a people pleaser is.

A People Pleaser is one of the nicest and most helpful people you know. They never say "no." You can always count on them for a favour. In fact, they spend a great deal of time doing things for other people.

This was from Phycology Today but I love this. Can you relate?

Let's put this in 'Mum context' so, you're tired, a friend calls and asks if you want to go to the shops, you know coffee, shopping etc. You have 2 kids with you today, you have house work to do but you go anyways because you want some adult time (granted!) you go, you're there for longer than you thought, your friend wants to look at some more shops so you say 'sure' even though the kids are tired. You get a call from your neighbor asking if you can watch their dog over the weekend, you immediately say yes because you want them to think you are a nice neighbor. You're then on the phone to your sister in law on the way home, its your nieces birthday on the weekend. You ask what you can make for the weekend…she suggests your amazing sausage rolls, you say yes and also make some slice as well (because deep down you want to look even more helpful). You then need to ensure the house is tidy and your partners favourite dinner is made…and you look at them like a puppy dog as you internally seek validation for what you have done. THEN comes the party. You arrive 20 minutes before to help set up and ensure you stay to help clean up…you get what I'm trying to say yeah?

Being a people pleaser isn't just about being 'nice' and 'helpful' its putting someone else's needs in front of yours while you seek validation and acceptance that you are doing enough.

So, how do we still be a nice human but not people please and BE US…

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• People pleasers ensure EVERYONE else is happy even if it self-sabotages their own happiness
• You can still be a nice human but look after you and not people please.
• 1. Acknowledge you DO have a choice
• 2. Set priorities…with everything you do
• 3. Stall – don't say yes, don't say no right away. Stall so you can make the right decision for you
• 4. Consider if you're being manipulated
• 5. Say 'no' with grace
• 6. Create a mantra

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If you are from a small town you would know that everyone knows everyone (including their business) well, you might have heard people say that Canberra is just a big town…and todays episode is just some more testamate that you are bound to run into someone who knows someone, start a company with someone who knows a LOT of people you know AND then have a special guest on the Podcast that you've been introduced to from 2 different people (one being Sarah) – seriously small town Canberra is but it makes me even more excited to introduce you to todays guest. Larura is Mum to 2 and the owner and head trainer over at Project Fit Mum Canberra which enables Mums to work and get fit SAFELY after having kids…BUT here's the clincher, you can take your kids to the group. Learning more about your body, nutrition, meeting new Mums and not needing to organise a baby sitter? You're in for a treat!! Laura qualifications stretch beyond just personal training. Laura is qualified as:

– Master Trainer Australian Institute of Fitness

– Cert IV Fitness (Personal Training)

– Cert III  Fitness (Group Fitness)

– Punchfit Boxing Instructor

– Pregnancy & Post Natal Exercise

– Fundamentals of Mobility

– Kettlebells (Level 1)

– Nutrition Coach

– Senior First Aid

So, let me introduce you to Laura!

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Fitness and movement while pregnant / post pregnant
• What does getting back into fitness after kids look like…time etc
• What do I do with my kids while exercising?
• What if I'm not fit?

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FOR THE MONTH OF MARCH 2019– Laura is offering $99 for 30 days – TO BE PURCHASED IN MARCH 2019 ONLY. (you would then have 30 days from the day you book)

If you are listening to this after March 2019 and want to see what PFM is all about contact Laura and mention TRML Podcast and she is giving you 7 DAY FREE TRIAL!!!!

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'You can't have it all as a Mum' who has heard this? Or thought: 'I can't do it all, something has go to give'. ORRR 'How does THAT mum do it…she does it all'. Well, recently I listened to a podcast which was talking about how as Mums we 'can't have it all' there is no such thing as 'having it all' and you know what…I called Sarah STRAIGHT away in a big rant…and he words were…you need to record this…so, here it is just for you..

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Stop comparing yourself…you are not Stacey, you are NOT Jo, you are not Sarah or Coby…you are you
• What do you want?
• What is important to you?
• You can HAVE IT ALL if you actually define to YOU what having it all actually is!
• So again, what do you want? AND how do you want to live your life?

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From knowing each other as kids to now having such aligned paths…it is such a pleasure the I get to introduce you to Jenna!!! Jenna is now a Mum of 2 and her first (who is just gorgeous) didn't sleep for 9 months….SERIOUSLY. Jenna talks to us today about what this was like mentally and physically for her and her family and what this looked like going to have their second baby!!!

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• What you need when you're not sleeping – how to cope
• There is no right or wrong
• Functioning on little to no sleep
• Find what is right for you – not for anyone else. Just you and your baby
• How essential oils have helped Jenna and her family
• FREE workshops in Canberra

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