Is your adult child blaming you for their trauma — and you're left wondering if it's really your fault? This episode is going to help you finally get clarity.

Today we're breaking down why some adult children use "trauma blame" to avoid accountability, the red flags that show it's not actually about you, and how to respond in a healthy, grounded way without getting pulled into guilt, shame, or manipulation.

And before we begin, here's the truth: Trauma is not one-size-fits-all. It can be a big wound or a thousand small hurts. I'm not dismissing your child's pain — but you also don't have to carry guilt that doesn't belong to you. Every family story is different, and this video will help you understand yours with compassion and honesty.

⭐ What You'll Learn in This Video

• How to recognize when "trauma blame" is actually avoidance • Why vague accusations are a major red flag • How adult children sometimes weaponize trauma language • When it crosses into manipulation • The difference between influence and responsibility • Scripts to respond without escalating the conflict • How to protect your emotional health while staying grounded in truth

If you're tired of feeling like everything is your fault… this will bring clarity and peace.

🎙 Want Support? Here Are Your Next Steps 1️⃣ Be a Guest on The Sally Harris Show (Coming 2026)

We feature real moms, real stories, and real healing as we walk through faith, estrangement, boundaries, and rebuilding peace. • Voice-only (no camera) • Anonymous • 15-minute recorded coaching session • We talk about your situation and your next best step

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Why Your Adult Child Is Repeating The Same Toxic Patterns As Their Narcissistic Parent//Is your adult child suddenly acting like a mirror image of the toxic/narcissistic parent — using their tone, their accusations, their defensiveness, or their emotional tactics? You are not imagining it… and you are not the cause of it.

In this video, we break down why this "mirror effect" happens — whether the toxic influence came from an ex or from the other parent still in the home. You'll learn how your child absorbed those patterns, why aligning with the toxic parent once felt emotionally safer for them, and how unhealed trauma is now showing up in their adult behavior.

More importantly, you'll learn how to protect your heart, regain your peace, and break the generational cycle — even if the toxic parent never changes.

What You'll Learn in This Video:

✔️ Why your child is copying the toxic parent's behavior

✔️ How emotional imprinting shapes adult reactions

✔️ Why siding with the toxic parent once felt "safer" to your child

✔️ How trauma echoes into adulthood

✔️ How to break the cycle and protect your own peace

✔️ What you can control (and what you can finally stop carrying)

You are not alone in this. You're not failing. And you're not powerless.

You can be the turning point in your family line.

✨ The Sally Harris Show — Coming 2026

We'll be featuring real moms, real stories, and real healing as we navigate estrangement, boundaries, and rebuilding peace.

If you want to volunteer for an anonymous, voice-only coaching session that WILL be posted on Youtube.

email: [email protected]

(You will NOT be on video.)

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We'll talk through your story, your goals, and what your next best step might be.

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For 10 years, my daughter and I lived through a roller coaster of estrangement — moments of hope, months of silence, and long seasons where it felt like the story was over. But God… God had a completely different plan.

In this video, I'm sharing the full testimony of how God restored what looked impossible: ✨ addiction broken ✨ depression lifted ✨ nine missed birthdays/holidays redeemed ✨ a mother and daughter relationship healed ✨ and a mountaintop moment I never thought we'd see

If you're a mom walking through estrangement, heartbreak, or the silent pain of a child who has pulled away, I want you to know this:

You are not too late. Your child is not too far gone. God still writes comeback stories.

This is our story — the highs, the devastating lows, the years of grief, the healing God walked me through, and the miraculous moment when my daughter and I were reunited after nine years apart.

And the best part? This year we celebrated her birthday by climbing Grinnell Glacier together. From heartbreak to a mountaintop. Only God.

If you've been praying for clarity, strength, or a next step in your own journey, I want to offer you a safe place to talk.

💛 BOOK A HEART-TO-HEART CONSULTATION: A guided, faith-centered conversation where I listen to what you're going through and help you explore whether my coaching is the right support for you. 👉 https://calendly.com/sallyharris-discoverycall/30min

You don't have to walk this alone anymore. God hasn't left you — and neither will I.

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In this reaction video, I'm responding to a moment in Oprah's estrangement episode that happens around 36:50, where she says we should "give up any hope that it's ever going to be any different."

As a Christian coach for moms walking through estrangement, I agree with her about releasing the past — but I completely disagree with the idea that you should ever give up hope for the future.

In this episode, I break down: ✨ Why forgiveness is release — but hope is God's promise ✨ The difference between surrender and hopelessness ✨ Why boundaries protect your hope, not destroy it ✨ What accountability looks like for BOTH the mom and the adult child ✨ How the examples with Chris and the young woman reveal deeper wounds ✨ Why some adult children walk away for emotional safety ✨ What faith actually says about restoration, healing, and changed hearts

If you're a mom in estrangement, please hear this: Releasing the past is healthy. But giving up hope is NOT what God asks of you. God changes hearts every single day.

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Has your adult child ever said you're the reason their life is falling apart? Maybe they've told you that you "ruined their childhood" or "set them up to fail," while you're the one still trying, praying, and holding your heart together.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what's really going on beneath those painful accusations—because the truth might surprise you. You'll learn how blame-shifting works, why manipulation keeps you stuck in guilt, and how to protect your peace when the words feel unbearable.

💔 Here's What You'll Discover:

1️⃣ The Blame-Shift Trap — why guilt becomes a weapon in emotionally unhealthy relationships 2️⃣ The Emotional Manipulation Cycle — how guilt and shame keep you trapped in old family roles 3️⃣ The Verbal Abuse Connection — when "you ruined my life" becomes emotional harm 4️⃣ Protecting Your Peace — how to respond with grace and strength, without taking the blame

We'll be featuring real moms, real stories, and real healing as we walk through estrangement, boundaries, and rebuilding peace.

If you'd like to volunteer to be a guest and receive live coaching to gain clarity about your situation with your adult child, I'd love to hear from you. 💌 Email: [email protected] You do not need to be on video—just your voice.🎙️ The Sally Harris Show (Coming 2026)

I'm launching The Sally Harris Show here on YouTube and on the podcast—a place where we talk about faith, healing, and the courage to rise again.

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If you'd rather begin privately, book a Heart-to-Heart Consultation with me. This isn't just a talk—it's a guided call to help you find clarity, direction, and peace in your healing process. 👉https://calendly.com/sallyharris-discoverycall/30min

If you're exhausted from walking on eggshells around your adult child... if every conversation feels like a landmine... and if you've started to lose pieces of yourself trying to keep the peace — this message is for you.

In this episode, I'm sharing 5 detachment strategies that actually work — faith-based tools to help you love your adult child without losing yourself. These aren't quick fixes; they're life-changing mindsets that help you let go of guilt, stop rescuing, and finally reclaim your peace.

You'll learn how to: 🌿 Detach without abandoning love 🌿 Let consequences teach instead of rescuing 🌿 Reclaim your emotional space 🌿 Replace reactivity with reflection 🌿 Focus on what you can control

No matter how broken things feel right now, you are not powerless — and you are not alone. Healing starts the moment you stop trying to fix everything and start trusting God with what you can't control.

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The 4-Step Freedom Plan for Estranged Moms// 💔The Complete Journey: From Heartbreak to Healing | 4 Steps to Peace and Empowerment for Moms of Estranged Adult Children

If your adult child has pulled away, and you're left feeling lost, exhausted, or heartbroken — this marathon is for you. In this extended episode, you'll walk with me through the exact 4-step journey that has helped thousands of moms find peace, purpose, and strength after estrangement.

✨ Here's what you'll discover: 1️⃣ Stop the Chase – Learn why constant reaching out keeps you stuck and how choosing yourself changes everything. 2️⃣ Rediscover Who You Are – Reconnect with the woman God created you to be beyond the pain and the role of "mom." 3️⃣ Name the Secret Grief – Understand and process the silent mourning no one talks about. 4️⃣ Break the Approval Trap – Finally stop performing for love and step into lasting freedom.

Each step builds on the last—helping you release the desperation, rediscover your identity, and start living for YOU again.

📔 Your Homework: Keep a notepad ready. Each section includes reflection questions and actions you can start today.

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She said, "You ruined my life." And I believed her.

When your adult child blames you, the guilt runs deep. You start replaying every conversation, every choice, wondering what you could've done differently. But sometimes, the pain they're projecting isn't yours to carry — it's theirs to process.

In this episode, I'm sharing how to stop internalizing that blame and start walking in truth again. You'll learn how to: 🌿 Recognize the emotional blame loop that keeps you trapped in guilt 💛 Reframe the story you tell yourself with grace and honesty 🕊 Set faith-filled boundaries that protect your peace ✨ Rebuild your identity beyond their labels and opinions

You can love your child deeply without losing yourself. You can take responsibility for your part without carrying their entire story. This is your moment to release false guilt and reclaim your peace.

And if you're ready to take that next healing step, I want to personally invite you to a Heart-to-Heart Consultation — a guided, faith-integrated conversation where we'll look at what kind of support could finally bring you the peace, strength, and clarity you've been praying for.

👉 Schedule your Heart-to-Heart Consultation here: https://calendly.com/sallyharris-discoverycall/30min

You don't have to keep carrying what was never yours to hold.

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When your adult child calls you toxic, controlling, or even narcissistic, it can break your heart. You start questioning every decision you ever made as a mom. But here's the truth: those labels often reveal more about their unhealed pain than your parenting.

In this episdoe, I'll help you understand why labeling happens, what it reveals about your adult child's emotional maturity, and how you can protect your peace instead of defending your past. You'll learn how to detach with dignity, recognize projection, and walk in truth — without getting pulled into their storm.

If you've been carrying guilt or shame over a story that doesn't feel true, this message will bring relief, clarity, and hope. 💛

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You don't have to defend your worth to be understood. 💛

So many moms of adult children fall into the same trap I did — explaining, justifying, and replaying conversations in your head trying to make them "see" your heart. But defensiveness doesn't bring peace… it keeps you stuck in shame.

In today's video, I'll show you how to break free from the exhausting cycle of self-defense and step into calm, strength, and truth instead. We'll walk through: 1️⃣ How to recognize the real reason you get defensive (it's not what you think) 2️⃣ How to reframe responsibility without taking all the blame 3️⃣ How to respond from peace instead of pain 4️⃣ How to create your own "defense-free zone" and finally breathe again

If you're tired of walking on eggshells or trying to prove you're a good mom, this message is for you. You can be at peace — even if your child isn't ready to understand yet.

💛 Ready for your next step? If this resonated with you and you're ready to stop living in defense mode, I invite you to a Heart-to-Heart Consultation — a guided conversation where we'll look at what kind of support could finally bring you the peace, strength, and clarity you've been praying for. 👉 Click here to schedule your Heart-to-Heart today: https://calendly.com/sallyharris-discoverycall/30min

🙏 You are not alone. Even Jesus didn't defend Himself when accused — He stood in truth and peace. You can, too.

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