The Relationship Guy

John meets Maria Gavriel, a full-time mum of 2 and a part-time lifestyle and business coach. Having grown several six-figure businesses over the last 15 years, Maria has gathered knowledge on how to be successful and thrive without experiencing burnout. She helps her clients discover little-known methods to increase their productivity, joy and time without costing them what matters most, their peace and happiness. By allowing her clients’ higher selves to emerge, Maria shows them how to live their hearts’ desire without the overwhelm. 

Maria and John talk about how she assists her clients, the old work systems that are harmful, how her burnout occurred, her ideas on constructive teamwork and delegation, effective communication and the disastrous result of not honouring one’s own needs.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The first step is to identify the problem, but especially for women, talking about stress and burnout is frowned upon.  
• Women in business feel pulled in many directions between work, relationships and childcare and these pressures result in burnout.
• Maria helps them simplify their life, build teams, scale their business and move to a two or three day work week.
• Emulating the old ‘masculine’ version of success with no emotion and no concern outside the workplace does not function for anyone including women. 
• Maria teaches her clients to bring in a team at home and to bring in a team at work. At home, a family based support network can be established and at work a collaborative team that frees the client from the mindset that they have to complete everything themselves. 
• Effective communication is just as important at home as at work. Team exercises and meetings are a helpful function for family support systems too.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Just recently I was reading that the WHO actually declared burnout officially as a disease now, a fatal disease. Burnout is now officially killing people.’ – Maria 

‘So I introduce systems and structures and usually within six months they move to a shorter work week and start to see a difference just because they are honouring themselves more they start to see a difference in their personal life too.’  - Maria

‘There are so many different relationships that we have that can impact on our own emotional, mental and physical health.’ – John

‘My son taking on all these tasks now means he’s contributing. He’s empowered and at the same time I also know that he’s equipped for when he goes off to college.’ – Maria 

‘If the lifestyle we’ve created at work is sabotaging our relationships in our personal life we walk away from that business, that dream, that vision because it will just break our heart.’ – Maria 

GUEST RESOURCES

Link - https://mariagavriel.com/

Workshop -

www.mariagavriel.com/workshop

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Link to my workshop -  

https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/

To get in touch - email – 

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call – 

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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There may be many reasons that you have fear of commitment, not least your attachment style, your beliefs about relationships and your relationship with yourself. If you are scared of commitment, John is here to detail how you can identify the nature of your fear and also, possibly, its source.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• You may have commitment phobia if you prefer to keep your relationships on a superficial or casual level
• An insecure attachment style called ‘dismissive avoidant’ or ‘fear avoidance’ may be a sign of a problem. 
• You may find it difficult to consider or discuss the future of a relationship. To overcome this, small steps are required so as not to trigger you to flee the situation.
• Fault finding and constant doubts can also be a pointer to this problem. Usually, the faults and doubts reach a little, being picky and inconsequential, so concentrating on your partners’ strengths can circumvent this. 
• Sharing and explaining your emotions may seem like a very vulnerable position, so you may avoid this by switching off or escaping when the subject of you is approached. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘To keep every relationship in the ‘friends with benefits’ space means you struggle to be with people at a deeper level and only comfortable in surface relationships.’ 

‘By understanding your attachment and working on overcoming these barriers you can start to entertain the idea of closer relationships without your brain jumping in and trying to protect you.’

‘One thing that can cause a lack of trust is a lack of belief in yourself, that you don’t deserve good things, that you are bound to be disappointed by people so be nice to yourself as well as the person that you’re in the relationship with.’ 

‘Being vulnerable means that you are being open, you are being brave and that emotionally open people are strong, that they have emotional intelligence.’  

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Link to my workshop -  

https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/

To get in touch - email – 

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call – 

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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In this episode, we meet ‘The People Mechanic’, Gary De Rodriguez. He is CEO of Peopleistic LLC, who partner with small to mid-level organizations to resolve and evolve their people-centric issues in strategy, leadership, operations, team performance, and project execution. He is also Associate Professor at The Business Education Institute, is a Master Trainer in Humanistic Neurolinguistic Psychology and has coauthored ‘Humanistic Business: Profit through People with Passion and Purpose. His knowledge and skills in Business and Psychology allow him to offer services in Business Consulting, Brand Consulting, Training, Change Management, Leadership Development, Team Building, Public Speaking, Corporate Training, and Life Coaching.

John and Gary talk about how his career developed, familial trauma and relationships, alignment with our true selves, the nature of partnership and limiting beliefs.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Gary started out running the first AIDS educational seminars in San Diego during the early days of the epidemic in the 80s. This is when he started studying Hypnosis, Psychology and then Humanistic Neurolinguistic Programming.
• Our trauma is often triggered in a partnered relationship as this is where we become most vulnerable.
• If we are out of alignment with ourselves we start to seek outside of ourselves for the something or someone to make us feel whole.
• The role of the villain in relationships always shifts back and forth as we search for a hero to heal our trauma.
• Own the fact that you are the architect of your emotional states.
• We are all here to be loved, seen, appreciated and made psychologically safe.
• Challenge your belief systems. If you think you don’t deserve it, then you will only see evidence to support that preposition.

BEST MOMENTS

‘I was so driven to try to find something that would help because so many people were dying and no one was doing anything. The Government did nothing, they never funded any kind of research for about seven years into the epidemic.’ – Gary

‘Wherever love is present, everything unlike it shows up. At some point in time, we get triggered by being in a one-on-one, partnered relationship because that’s where we show up in our most vulnerable states. Our original wounding always comes from our family of origin.’ – Gary

‘It’s really getting into that aligning with yourself and understanding who you are as a human being.’ – John

‘You have to own the fact that your emotions are your construction because you created the meaning that you're ascribing to the outside circumstances.’ – Gary

‘When someone drops the light for themselves you have to hold up the light for them so they can remember who they are rather than look at them and condemn them.’ - Gary

‘One of the things we have to remember in our relationships is if we do not have our own self-leadership, we don’t learn how to manage the complexity of how we are creating our day-to-day subjective experience.’ – Gary

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Company Website: https://www.peopleistic.com/

Gary's Course: https://garyscourse.com/ - coupon rg100

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/garyderodriguez/

Peopleistic's Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/peopleistic/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/concentricshow/

Link to my workshop -  

https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/

To get in touch - email –

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call –

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

 

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

 

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

 

Facebook –

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching




LinkedIn –

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching




Insta –

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/




Twitter –

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}




YouTube -

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

 

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This episodes guest is Emmi Fortin, a Breakup and Relationship Coach and Author who helps her clients process and recover from ended relationships or difficult relationships that are keeping them stuck and helps them move on to a happy and healthy partnership in which they can live the life that they want for their future.   

John and Emmi talk about her coaching program and the three R’s, how we develop unhealthy relationship patterns in childhood, the confrontation of bad relational habits, her past relationships and break ups and her journey to recovery.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Emmi increases her clients confidence and self value so that they can create the relationship they want in the future.
• Emmi’s coaching program ‘Wake Up from Your Break-Up’ is based around what she calls her three R’s. Reflect. Release. Reinstall.
• Reflect. Emmi and her clients will spend a few weeks doing exercises that get the client to identify all of the current emotions, thoughts and patterns.
• Release. The client is asked to challenge the current situation and ask questions like ‘Is this serving me? Is there a way that I could change this to serve me better?’.
• Reinstall. The client is encouraged into forward thinking about who they want to be, where they want to be and how to get there.
• If you don’t have a healthy example in your childhood of a relationship it is no surprise that people grow up unable to see the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.
• Emmi’s book ‘Who Is Your Red Dress? : One Woman’s Quest to Break Up with a Love Addiction’ is the account of her past relationships and her struggle to break her patterns of choosing unhealthy relationships.

BEST MOMENTS 

‘Similar to what people have heard about the grief process there’s really no linear way to go about it, but I kind of stick to what I call my three R’s and I’ve created this whole coaching program around layering these three ideas.’ – Emmi  

‘People come to me and say, I’ve been in a bunch of relationships but even though they’re with different people they all seem to be the same.’ - Emmi

‘We are not taught any of this stuff about relationships growing up at all. We go to school and we learn about Maths and English etc, but no one actually sits down and says ‘these are the signs of a healthy relationship, these are the signs of an unhealthy relationship.’’ – John.

‘You would go from feeling completely broken, I remember literally lying on my living room floor in the foetal position, clenching my heart and crying to then having these euphoric highs.’ – Emmi

‘There were times when I would make advances and times when I would fall back. I would even tell myself, like, Oh, another relapse! However, there was that very clear moment for me and it was the one where I was lying on my floor heaving, crying, but I stopped because I all of a sudden got this clear message that said ‘you are keeping yourself here.’’ – Emmi

‘Even just giving myself that three weeks to totally focus on my own stuff and not constantly spend every minute of my day worrying about what that other person was doing or what was going on with us. Bringing the focus back to me for that allotted period of time was tremendous.’ – Emmi  

GUEST RESOURCES

Links:

www.emmifortin.com

Relationship Cheat Sheet [free download]

www.emmifortin.com/whoihelp

Book

 book.whoisyourreddress.com/author 

6 Things You Can Do NOW to Get Over Your Ex [freedownload]

www.emmifortin.com

Breakup Support & Connection

Group

www.emmifortin.com/about 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Link to my workshop -  

https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/

To get in touch - email –

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call –

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST 

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook –

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn –

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta –

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter –

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

YouTube -

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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In this episode John chats with Vadim Strots, Life and Career Coach and Engineering Consultant. Vadim specialises in coaching leaders in engineering, technology and science to navigate life or career decisions in these difficult and ever changing fields of expertise. Bringing a wealth of experience and expertise in Industrial Chemistry and as a trained and certified coach, Vadim helps intellectual introverts unlock the potential of their powerful minds, aids those stuck at career crossroads to develop a clear vision of their life and future to enable them to take confident steps forward and guides busy expats and international workers in unfamiliar cultures to become more at ease with dealing with the unfamiliar.
John and Vadim discuss how he moved into coaching and how his skills can be applied to his chosen area of clientele, his experience moving from country to country, how freedom to express and communicate can not only be more efficient but also make someone happier and how he approaches coaching on an individual level to ascertain the complicated issues at work. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• After quitting Chemical Engineering, Vadim was offered job coaching by the German authorities to discover a new interest and found his niche in communication, leadership and coaching. 
• Vadim’s experience in the technical fields helps him and his clients to get in touch with the different, less intellectually based, side of themselves. 
• Vadim moved from the Soviet Union as it was collapsing, to the US and so has experience in adapting to a different culture and can advise others in this area.
• You cannot learn how being an expat is going to be until you spend a good amount of time in your adopted country.
• Being able to converse openly and being emotionally communicative can provide a sense of freedom. It is not always the most intelligent people who are successful, it is often those who can communicate ideas effectively.
• Vadim does not use a set method approach to coaching, he uses individual approaches for each of his clients.

BEST MOMENTS
‘I ended up in Germany in Berlin doing highly sophisticated work on diesel engine exhausts until I hit the spot where I realised that, oops, I have no more interest in that.’ – Vadim
‘We share similar traits, we spend a lot of time in our heads, less in our bodies and emotions. We tend to forget about our capacities that exist and are beyond.’ – Vadim
‘So you’re helping people see completely and get in touch with a completely different side of themselves?’ - John
‘I must say my family and I, we had a very easy transition in terms of finances. We had been well supported at the time. That has been a culture shock. It was probably the strongest for my daughter. She was 7 years old.’ – Vadim
‘During all this process you pay attention to what is going on. What’s going on with the coaching? What’s going on with you. What’s going on in the space between you. And in this space in between you, sometimes miracles happen.’ – Vadim 

GUEST RESOURCES
Website and Contact: http://vstrots.tilda.ws/

VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
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It’s that time of year in the Northern Hemisphere where the nights are closing in, the temperatures dropping and we are all wrapping up and bedding in for the winter. Cuffing Season is this time of year when people get together so they don’t have to spend the cold nights alone.  John asks you to consider a few things before embarking on or ending such a relationship.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Cuffing season lasts all the way through to Valentines Day so people are not alone for that too.
• Just because this is a temporary thing for you, do not settle for just anyone. Clarify and set expectations clearly to avoid being disrespectful.
• Be mindful of your natural behaviour in relationships when embarking on a temporary relationship. 

BEST MOMENTS
‘The relationships do tend to end as soon as spring arrives and people go their separate ways. But that isn’t always the case, sometimes they will carry on because they have reached a new level.’
‘Be authentic, put your best self out there and don’t just go for the first person that’s up for it.’
‘If one has more feeling than the other then it isn’t going to be a comfortable space when it comes to an end.’ 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Link to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
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This episodes guest is Cathlyn Melvin, a  coach and copywriter who helps mission driven businesses and experts by providing not only bespoke copywriting services but also by TEDx Coaching, designed to guide her clients to create the TEDx Talk that will inspire and inform their target audience of their true and heartfelt motivation and message.

With a degree in theatre performance, a minor in writing, and over a decade as an educator, professional actor, and entrepreneur, she draws on diverse experiences to lift the voices of mission-driven leaders.

John and Cathlyn discuss the TEDx forum and how Cathlyn helps her clients access it effectively, preparation and nerves, theatre performance, introversion and social anxiety and the importance of cultivating business relationships.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

• TEDx talks are a maximum of 18 minutes and are on average about 12. Cathlyn helps clients distil their talk into an ‘idea worth spreading’.
• When giving a talk, preparation is key to defeating nerves. In TEDx talks, the only rules are timescale, no pseudoscience or religion and no promotions so the opportunity to express your individuality is available.
• Acting gave Cathlyn her skills and confidence in performance and presentation. Cathlyn is actually introverted and has social anxiety so it is perfectly possible to work in fields of public performance with these issues.
• The significance of relationships to find business is important.

BEST MOMENTS

‘The work that I do really is all about that message that is on your heart. I help my clients get that message out into the world because so much of the time as business owners we know what’s important to us, we know what we have that can really make an impact on the world, but we’re not sure of the words to use to channel that.’ – Cathlyn

‘The whole reason that you get up and talk is to connect. Is to share your feelings, not just your intellectual ideas but the feelings that those ideas are rooted in.’ – Cathlyn

‘For about eight years I also owned my first business which was touring children’s theatre. We would send theatre educators to all different communities across the United States.’ – Cathlyn  

‘What made you change? It sounds to me like it was quite fulfilling and was a good space for you to be in, what made you move away from the acting?’ – John

‘Even in a situation like this where, John, you and I are having a conversation where people are going to listen in later, those relationships are still being built. Even if I’m never aware of Susie who’s out there listening right now.’ – Cathlyn

GUEST RESOURCES

Links

www.rightcatcreative.com

Freebie

www.rightcatcreative.com/firststepsplaybook

Cathlyn's talk on YouTube: TEDx Coaching — RIGHT CAT CREATIVE

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Link to my workshop -  

https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/

To get in touch - email –

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call –

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

 

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

 

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

 

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

 

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

 

Facebook –

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching




LinkedIn –

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching




Insta –

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/




Twitter –

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}




YouTube -

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

 

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In this episode John's guest is Jennifer Fanning, a YouTube strategist whose aim is to help coaches who want to scale their business using YouTube utilising her simple and fast framework for success. From guidance on being confident on camera and keeping your audience engaged, to converting those viewers to customers or clients, Jenn covers the full spectrum of what you need to know about presenting and selling on the video format. She presents a private 6 month YouTube coaching program and video editing service to guide you towards scaling up your business with well placed, creative, informative and binge-worthy presentations.
Jenn and John discuss the origin of Jenn’s business, the importance of honesty, presentation, long distance relationships and life changes.
KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Originally using YouTube as a way to escape from her career in Pharmaceuticals, Jenn has become an expert in presentation and the technical side of YouTube and is now applying it to her own business clients.
• Jenn focuses on coaches as clients due to her shared desire to help people. She likes to ‘help other people to help other people.’
• Jenn believes that honesty is important for her clients especially on live platforms and in business generally and this is also true for relationships. 
• Jenn talks about her past relationships and has learned that she may overreact and that a moment of pause is more advantageous. 
• Long distance relationships are possible if the end result is important enough to those involved. 
• Being part of a community is important and understanding that relationships are very different to each other but that’s still ok.

BEST MOMENTS
‘That’s why I focused more on coaches because I feel like they have a lot to share.’ – Jenn
‘Tell me a little bit about what kind of message you think is important for your clients to put out in the world?’ – John
‘In your normal day to day life you might have a conversation just sitting like this, that’s how we talk. When you’re on camera and you’re talking this way, the camera de-energises you so then you’d have to bring yourself up a little bit. You’re not changing who you are, you're just bumping up that energy a little bit.’ – Jenn     
‘If I ever write a piece about long distance relationships I think I’m going to come to you for some expertise.’ – John
‘The people in my life are the ones I always go back to whenever things are rougher when I’m celebrating something, it's very important to me.’ – Jenn
GUEST RESOURCES
Website: https://www.jenniferfanningva.com
Book a Free Call: https://calendly.com/jenniferfanningva/15min
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD
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Gaslighting is a term that has become more commonplace in the media and in general conversation about relationships and is often overused or misused to describe manipulative or controlling behaviour. Gaslighting is an insidious and coercive type of manipulation usually from one person to another. However, there is a self destructive behaviour that we can practice on ourselves utilising the voice in our head to belittle and manipulate that can result in and be described as Self Gaslighting.  
KEY TAKEAWAYS

• You can criticise and doubt yourself so much that you can make yourself dismiss your own emotions and question your own reality. You may even tell yourself to take the blame for any issue regardless of where the real responsibility lies.
• These behaviours follow two categories, minimisation and self-invalidation. 
• You may have developed this in childhood where you were constantly blamed for things, told things that clearly did not happen or were constantly informed that your experience of a situation was not as you perceived it. 
• This can result in emotions of anxiety, depression, confusion and shame, yet even these emotion’s validity can be questioned. 
• Get to know and understand yourself. Recognise what triggers you and the patterns of behaviour that this causes.
• Journaling your feelings can be helpful to allow you to see clearly changes in your emotions, attitude or comprehension of trigger situations. 
• Do not judge your thoughts. Show yourself compassion and honour who you are, what you think and what you feel. 
• Change your relational pattern of those that you invite into your life and spend less time with the people that trigger you and who are responsible for these issues in the first place.

BEST MOMENTS
‘Do you ever hear yourself ask these types of questions when something is going on that you are uncomfortable with? “Maybe it wasn’t as bad as I thought.””They didn’t mean to hurt me.””I’m being overly emotional.” Or “I am making something out of nothing.”’
‘I have clients that believe this about themselves based on their childhood experiences and in some cases are being reaffirmed over and over by family members to this day.’
‘In the most extreme of cases it can create a split in your personality as though you are two or more different people. The person who knows what is happening or has happened and who knows that they aren’t wrong or to blame but have to be responsible regardless.’
‘You may have learned to self gaslight in times of stress and when you were in survival mode. It could have become your protective mechanism, so tell your brain that you no longer need it to protect you in this way, that you are safe to look at things and not use this technique to keep you stuck any longer.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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John interviews Cherri Forsyth, who helps CEO's, business owners and businesses to uplift their company's Emotional Intelligence for stronger people at home and work, increasing their profit. Cherri specialises in Personal Coaching as well as corporate, as well as Grief Counselling, helping her clients to develop emotional resilience and mentoring and supporting other life coaches.
Cherri and John discuss her move into life coaching, her experience of grief and move into counselling, the similarities in the different spheres of coaching and her marriage and its near dissolution and final resurrection.
KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Starting out as a Sports Coach, Cherri now is an Emotional Intelligence and Resilience Coach, Grief Counsellor and Mental Trainer for Elite Athletes.
• Emotional Resilience coaching is helping people deal with hardship and crisis and come through it in a very positive way.  
• The skills and tools taught as a one on one coach are also the same as those taught in businesses and to elite athletes.
• Emotional Intelligence means having the skills and resilience to react to others in a positive way as opposed to more negative responses. 
• Cherri’s Grief Counselling came from the experience of losing her daughter and her husband's extreme reaction to grief which ruined their marriage. However, through psychology and counselling the marriage has continued successfully.

BEST MOMENTS
‘I am very passionate about what I do and I think the variety is really good because it keeps everything fresh all the time.’ - Cherri
‘If we are criticised and we react by being really defensive that’s not going to achieve much. But if we can realise, though criticism might not be delivered in a great manner and might make us want to feel really defensive, I’ve got a choice how I can deal with this.’ - Cherri
‘It really stops you from going into one of those unwanted emotions that don’t really help any situation.’ – John
‘I had to put my own grief of losing our daughter completely to the side and concentrate on the relationship because our elder daughter was still at home and I didn’t want her to be in the situation of having lost her sister and then her parents getting a divorce.’ – Cherri
‘It’s really difficult for some people to look at themselves and say ‘I actually did do this’. The whole fragility around that frame is really difficult for people to step into.’ – John
‘With the affair and me kicking him out of home and him losing his job, all of those things together still didn’t kick him out of the denial.’ – Cherri 
GUEST RESOURCES
Links: www.cherriforsythcoaching.com
email: [email protected]
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
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