The Relationship Guy

Award-Winning and MMI-Accredited Matchmaker Lara Besbrode is Founder of The Matchmaker UK. Following a successful 30 year career in PR and marketing, she reimagined her passion for people and networking, creating her own exclusive matchmaking service in the process.

Lara takes an interdisciplinary approach to matchmaking, masterfully blending her skills and collaborating with UK and international matchmakers to find the most suited match.

No stranger to the realm of love, dating and relationships, Lara is intimately familiar with the intricacies of her calling. Lara approaches each matchmaking engagement with a vibrant aura of passionate energy and empathy.

Lara is a regular guest as Dating Expert on TalkRadio, BBC News & Radio, Real Housewives of Cheshire and MTV Catfish UK. She often makes global media appearances on television networks in the UK and US.

In this episode she talks to John about her methods in matchmaking, how she got into the business, the complications of dating, wants and needs and the journey taken when searching for a life partner.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

 

• Lara’s Matchmaker UK is the elite of matchmaking services, experts in their field working to industry safety standards, where clients can go if they have tried all the traditional methods, including the modern digital apps.
• Preferences, demographic, cultural background are all factors Lara and her team take into account when they are head hunting for a potential suitor. There are 30 different factors to indicate a match.
• Lara worked for 30 years in the celebrity PR business but her interest in helping people drew her to matchmaking, and after her divorce and moving back to he uk, she decided to do what she loved.
• Matchmaking uk unravel the complex issues involved when someone has an ideal potential partner in mind often seeing past the clients initial need to seek someone that previously they would never have considered.
• You must have a dating strategy to find a partner. If you haven’t considered what you desire and need to the fullest extent you are unlikely to meet an ideal partner just through luck. Matchmaking UK have a guide on how to formulate a dating strategy to increase your chances.

 

BEST MOMENTS

 

‘I have qualified to be able to make personal introductions to people observing the international code of conduct within the dating industry, it’s a dating industry standard.’ - Lara

‘Its not really something we think about with all the dating websites and apps, but for you to be a certified matchmaker..’ – John

‘I am the lawyer of your heart.’ – Lara

‘My business grew and flourished based on the fact that I had already had that PR marketing skill set and was already armed with all the tools.’ – Lara

‘If you can’t answer yes to the dating strategy, you are not ready because you haven’t thought about it.’ – Lara

‘I think if someone is willing to accept that journey may not meet its final destination but you embrace that it’s a journey for development, potential change because not everybody wants to change or is able to change or ready to change.’ - Lara

 

 

GUEST RESOURCES

 

Website:

www.thematchmaker.uk

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

 

To get in touch - email –

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call –

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

 

 

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

 

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

 

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

 

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

 

CONTACT METHOD

 

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In this episode John follows on from his podcast about signs to identify a toxic relationship with his tips on signs showing you may have experienced emotional abuse in the past. One of the reasons why we find ourselves in a toxic relationship cycle is due to emotional abuse experienced in our childhood, but how can we identify when this is the case?

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• We can repress what we went through as a way of coping. By understanding and acknowledging how your experience can affect you know you are more able to move on and the following are markers that suggest you have been a victim of emotional abuse in the past.
• You are not good at making your own decisions. 
• You are a people pleaser.
• You minimise toxic behaviour.
• You get angry or frustrated easily.
• You often feel defensive.
• You view yourself negatively.
• You find it hard to cope when people are upset or angry.
• You continue to inadvertently choose toxic partners.
• You constantly question if you are loved.
• You have difficulty accepting affection.
• You have nightmares about relationships.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Some examples of this may include humiliation, manipulation, verbal aggression, belittling and intimidation.’

‘This is often the case for people who are highly focused on the needs of others. People pleasing, for example.’ 

‘You could  deny that it's actually that bad, that they don’t really mean it as you try to rationalise your past experiences to yourself.’

‘If you find yourself feeling particularly tense whenever people around you erupt, it may be because you used to deal with that a lot in the past.’

‘You were just never really made to feel that positivity either existed or lasted.’

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To get in touch - email – 

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call – 

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

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John talks to Ana Ruiz, Transformational Relationship Coach and Demartini Method specialist dedicated to maximising human awareness and potential in individuals and groups. She helps couples to do a ‘different dance’ and turn around their relationships. 

Ana and John discuss Ana’s childhood and her resultant trauma, her disorganised attachment style, her first relationship experiences, her discovery of bi-polar disorder and her resultant therapies and how her search for healing led to a career in Relationship Coaching.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• A resident of the US and Mexican by birth, Ana originated specialising in Computer Science. As a child she lost her older sister to drowning which resulted in a depressed mother and absent father and her care being handed over to a nanny. She developed a disorganised attachment style.  
• Ana ended up in Seattle via San Francisco after her relationship ended after her move to the US. This left her intent on independence. 
• After a nervous breakdown after being diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and being informed it was untreatable, Ana embarked on a 17 year long struggle to heal through therapy. This began her expertise in healing and therapy after searching for different treatments. 
• Ana became an energy healer, then a yoga therapist then onwards onto relationship theory, psychology, attachment theory and neurobiology. She now uses all of her experience in her relationship coaching practice. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘As someone who grew up with a disorganised attachment style it means that my Mom was there physically but not emotionally because she was grieving. So I grew up creating connections but feeling afraid of connection, feeling afraid of being left alone.’ - Ana

’It was painful for me to watch them arrive into the office together in the same car and eventually he went on to marry her and have three kids.’ – Ana

‘And those kinds of triggers where you’re already disorganised attachment, so then having a relationship where you’re cheated on. How did that trigger your disorganised attachment, how did you react to that, do you think?’ - John  

‘That’s why I call myself a ‘Transformational Relationship Coach’ because it's all there and powerful.’ – Ana

‘Most of us did not learn relationship skills either at home or at school. And that just makes it really hard for people to have healthy long lasting relationships.’ - Ana

 

GUEST RESOURCES

 

Complimentary One Hour Clarity session here: 

http://anaruiz.life

 - mention the show when contacting her.

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To get in touch - email – 

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call – 

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


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John talks to Eva Hunt, a consciousness coach and soul alchemist who helps people to connect with their soul, to love and thrive. For more than a decade she has combined her intuitive skills with the law of attraction principles, energy healing and spirituality to guide those in need. 

John and Eva discuss how she became a spiritual coach, her father and his influence on her, living in Hungary as a child under Soviet occupation and her own journey to becoming the healer she is today.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Eva is from Hungary and by profession was a commercial economist. After moving to the UK and establishing her holistic healing practice in 2010 she has found her purpose in energy healing and spiritual coaching.
• Eva was very close to her father and believed they were soulmates. People generally associate the idea of soulmates to a romantic connection, but soulmates can occur with any positive connection available between people.
• Growing up in occupied Hungary had an extreme influence on Eva. Torn between the secrecy of her religious mother and her fathers desire to be a good citizen, Eva got used to a turmoil of emotions.  
• Eva had her own spiritual healers and coaches who helped guide her towards the coaching career and showed her how much she had to offer as a healer. 

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Most of my clients are struggling with either their health, relationship or money issues. So relationship is a quite big chunk of my work.’ – Eva

‘You mentioned that when when we spoke previously your father had quite a big impact on you growing up.’ – John

‘There was a lot of different emotions. Fear and love and lack of things, but at the same time, the abundance of love.’ – Eva

‘I think that’s the hardest thing to see, to see our own limitations. That’s why its so important to have a mentor, a guide who is outside of our life and looks in.’ - Eva

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To get in touch - email – 

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call – 

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy  

 

GUEST RESOURCES

Eva Hunt - website -  https://spiritual-wonders.com/Freebie - email her -  [email protected] mentioning the podcast.    

 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


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When John works with his clients in coaching sessions one topic that often arises is the difficulty in finding and achieving an easy and  healthy relationship. This is most likely because they are exhibiting habits that attract them to a particular pattern of behaviour that they are used to.

How do we realise that it is actually ourselves that are maintaining and seeking these toxic relationships and break the cycle?

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

 

• Often our choice of relationship is a subconscious choice that fulfils our needs based on our learnt patterns of behaviour.
• There are ten signs to look out for that denote that the relationship you have chosen is really not good for you.
• Is being around someone hard work or draining? Do you need to recover from time with them?
• Do you need to be careful around your partner to avoid upsetting or angering them?
• Do you feel exhausted and drained a lot of the time? Do you invest love and attention to your partner that is not returned?
• Try taking the relationship questionnaire listed under valuable resources below.

 

BEST MOMENTS

 

‘For example, that loving, caring relationships are not to be trusted because love is always removed from them at some point. If that’s your belief then you will seek out the evidence to make this true every single time and won’t know what to do with yourself if it doesn’t happen.’

‘Does being alone for the weekend put a smile on your face? Do you feel excited looking forward to the day that you’ll get away from your partner? If so then this is a huge red flag.’

‘If its reached the point that you have to constantly watch every move you make, you are in a toxic relationship. So, for example, you may feel nervous talking about something that may make your partner angry.’  

‘If you try to take time for yourself to recharge and its not allowed, you can’t regain your energy.’

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

 

To take the test for signs of a toxic relationship:

https://signsofatoxicrelationshipjkc.scoreapp.com/

 

To get in touch - email –

[email protected]

 or book a complimentary call –

https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

 

 

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

 

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

 

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

 

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

 

CONTACT METHOD

 

Facebook –

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching




LinkedIn –

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching




Insta –

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/




Twitter –

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}




YouTube -

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

 

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

 

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Alexandra Van Shaik is an international holistic life coaching expert in personal, business and brand development helping hundreds of clients kick start their lives and businesses in a different direction. Using a holistic approach to each client she utilises transformative techniques such as yoga, breath work and meditations as well as group travel experiences to transform and empower with positivity. Her brand work finds her helping you to tell your business story and create your vision using her skills in web design, graphic design and photography. John and Alexandra discuss coaching methodology, cultural, peer and family imprinting, breaking emotional habits, travel, morning routines and child rearing. 

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Alex has spent ten years guiding people to become yoga teachers which led her to her holistic coaching methodology.
• As individuals we need to decide for ourselves what our lives should work towards or entail without feeling we have to live up to our parents or peers' plan or expectations for our futures.
• Our childhood experiences form who we are and how we respond to the world around us as adults. Many of us become hyper vigilant peace makers in confrontational situations if we were brought up in high tension households and this was true in Alex’s case. 
• Be aware of what nourishes you from within. What uplifts you? If you check the news every morning with its attached carefully curated world horror scenarios you are not going to have a positive day. Choose actions that empower you.
• As children we need to play. A high powered itinerary forced on a child with a thousand activities may enrich them but can also stress and leave them little time to actually be children

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘I just love to see people thriving in their life, in their businesses, just in general. There has been a thread throughout my whole life myself. Automatically myself I became drawn into this aspect of being a coach.’ – Alexandra

‘Or maybe you got into a job and after ten years you’re, like, ‘is this it?’ Am I really good and comfortable here or is there more?’ – Alexandra

‘We weren’t sure where we were going to be speaking today were we? I mean you’re in the Netherlands at the moment I believe? You could have been in Nepal but you’re off to the Caribbean.’ – John

‘I just love to get up in the morning and just do some reading, have some coffee. After that I do my Yoga practice and don’t do it the other way round! Never!’ – Alexandra

‘If a child is hyperactive, ya know, they have got all these terms for it right now. I think the root cause is because there is too much pressure on their shoulders.’ - Alexandra

 

GUEST RESOURCES

WEBSITE: 

alexandravanschaik.com

INSTAGRAM: 

Www.instagram.com/alexandravanschaik/

FACEBOOK: 

Www.facebook.com/alexandravanschaikofficial

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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In this episode John interviews Jim Hughes, the founder of Untamed, the company who serves their audience through a unique brand of coaching, speaking and events. They have helped entrepreneurs, business leaders and top performing professionals all around the world move ‘from the grind to aligned’. John and Jim discuss what Jim’s organisation Untamed actually achieves for its clients, how Jim himself found his way, childhood embedded triggers and habits and living a life serving others without losing yourself. 

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Untamed help people who are frustrated and burnt out, ‘in the grind’, uncover what’s causing their setbacks and allow them to become ‘aligned’.
• Jim found what he was truly good at and provided himself with an environment where he could flourish and express rather than feeling frustrated, stilted and suppressed. The same principle can work in personal relationships as well as professional life. 
• The bulk of our personality is informed by our childhood and we are often installed with untrue or distorted beliefs about ourselves that need to be addressed and unlearned.
• If you are your best self you have more energy and ability to offer to help other people. 

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘It’s a never ending journey, but the main bulk of it where the real low hanging fruit was picked, so to speak, was about an eighteen month process.’ – Jim

‘Nobody was there to say “maybe you’re just better at the bigger picture, the strategic. You’re better at starting things than you are at finishing things”’. – Jim 

‘That’s what my documentary is about. My documentary is called “Forget Me Not – The Child You Left Behind” about those parts of us ourselves as children that we believe don’t fit into the environment that we grow up in.’ – John

‘Muting was a word that kept coming up. I felt like I was being muted, I feel like I’m not allowed to, I’m not being encouraged to thrive here.’ - Jim

 

GUEST RESOURCES

https://www.becomeuntamed.com/

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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Dufflyn Lammers is a women’s relationship and recovery coach. If you find yourself at the end of a difficult relationship including those complicated by addiction and control issues or contemplating the end of a relationship, Dufflyn can teach you the skills needed to move through this phase and support you as a ‘Big Sister’ while you do it. John and Dufflyn discuss what it takes to keep a relationship healthy and happy using Dufflyn’s methods.  

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Dufflyn works from the ‘outside in’ and ‘inside out’. ‘Outside in’ is the coaching part about goals, plans and accountability and ‘inside out’ is the use of Ideal Parent Figure Protocol.
• Ideal Parent Figure Protocol is an attachment based intervention for people who are struggling with attachment injury. It involves imagining ideal parents different from their real parents or anyone they know. With these new ideal ‘parents’ new healthy internal working models can be formed.
• Sometimes we forget that the skills we learn in dating are just as applicable within a relationship. The relationship rarely lives up to the ideal vision in your mind. 
• Attachment issues commonly lead to an addiction situation and Dufflyn hopes to break the cycle permanently.
• Dufflyn ended up in Paris after discovering a love for travelling alone and a handsome Frenchman. 

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Each of us has a sort of love map inside of us and that love map determines how we operate in relationships and also how we see ourselves and how we see the world.’ – Dufflyn

‘So you’re giving them alternative choices to subconscious behaviours?’ - John 

‘I know that I myself came from being single for a long, long time, 12 years. And I came from this idea that once I found that perfect other person that everything was gonna be ok, ya know, unicorns and roses and puppy dogs.’ - Dufflyn

‘Now I’ve been living in Paris for a little over four years which has been a huge adjustment too. But, again, forcing me to develop more and more of those inner resources and resilience.’ - Dufflyn

 

GUEST RESOURCES

Www.dufflyn.com

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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When is it appropriate to take a selfish stance within a relationship? Is it ever appropriate? Some people may say never, but being constantly providing for others needs and not looking to ourselves can be self destructive.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• There are reasons why we may find it difficult to put the needs of others before our own. Fear of being used or hurt could be reasons. 
• A lot of the time we label a difficulty in saying no as guilt. But saying no is not always something to feel guilty about.
• The next time you think of putting yourself first, understand if there are any barriers in your way and the nature of them. Define for yourself if you are being positively selfish or negatively selfish.

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Selfish is defined as only being focused on yourself or acting that way. Concern chiefly or excessively for oneself  and having little regard for others.’ 

‘We might do that for a variety of different reasons. What would drive us to only serve ourselves? What kind of need does this meet?’ 

‘Most of the time we’re not doing anything that we need to feel guilty about. And I like to challenge that feeling of guilt.’

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy        

 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – 

https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – 

https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – 

https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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Johns guest is a newborn care and breastfeeding specialist, founder of The Amazing, Pain Free Birth and Beyond, new mother coach and podcast host Viviane Schima. She is a professional doula and has helped and guided mothers through their pregnancy, birth and after, supporting physically and emotionally.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

 

• A doula is a person who can support you through pregnancy, labour and birth, or after you have your baby.
• Viviane supports her clients to ensure the mother gets the best birth experience and represents her interests against the often dissenting voices in the medical field and close family.
• After the birth is a delicate time due to sleep deprivation, lack of time to relationally communicate with a partner and previous problems being exacerbated. For this reason Viviane coaches the partner as well.
• When dealing with single mothers Viviane becomes the main support.
• Becoming a doula really helped Viviane work out some of her own relationship issues and helped her realise and put right some mistakes in her own partnership.

 

BEST MOMENTS

 

‘Even with family support, sometimes family just don’t agree with what the mother wants to do around childbirth.’ – Viviane

‘I blend not just the evidence based information that I provide to them but I also blend coaching into it as I open the door for them.’ - Viviane

‘Sometimes its just the baby, they put everything into the baby and I understand it’s the maternal instinct but we cannot forget that half of that genetic material is the fathers.’ – Viviane

‘It is life changing. The thought of just having a baby can do significant things to the mind, the emotions that can completely throw you, make you think differently.’ – John

‘Well I would say from a scale from 1 to 10 I’d say I’m definitely a 13 or 14. This not only helps other people to achieve their goals and where they want to be but also helped me figure out a lot of things before I started doing this.’ - Viviane

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

 

May being International Maternal Mental Health Month

Ebook:

https://www.aislingbeo.com/freebie

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ABOUT THE HOST

 

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

 

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