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Did you realise that we have an apology language? This is the way we express and like to receive things that are difficult to say, including the phrase “I’m Sorry”. People's preferred apology language can be different from person to person, both giving and receiving apologies, and can fluctuate depending on different circumstances. John discusses the nuances of apologies and offers some support on communication in these difficult circumstances, defining the five different apology languages that we employ.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
‘Expressing remorse or regret, taking responsibility, making restitution and asking for forgiveness need to be delivered in a well meaning and sincere way.’
‘You may want to hear something like “I feel ashamed of how I hurt you.’
‘To them there is a significant difference between saying “you’re right” and “I’m wrong”. They have a completely different meaning.’
‘This could be your apology language if you need someone to show they are willing to correct an issue, put their money where their mouth is, for example.’
‘You may want to hear something like “I can only imagine how much pain that caused you. I’m very, very sorry and I won’t do that again. Next time I promise I’ll do it differently.”’
‘As mentioned we all have a preferred apology language but will likely require a bit from each in order to feel satisfied by the “sorry” that comes our way.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
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Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
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John talks to Dominique Brits, a family centred life coach based in Johannesburg. Her passion is developing and deepening relationships within a family setting. As a teacher in both mainstream and special needs settings she has learnt how much we have in common when it comes to family and how a strong, effective, and emotionally healthy family dynamic can increase the quality of life of all those within it. Dominique discusses her own experiences with family and later relationships, and how she has developed and learned to deal with negative habits and experiences.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s just a safe space for them to talk. It’s a safe space for them to really open up and not have that feeling of judgement around something that they’re embarrassed about, something that they’re too afraid to speak about, something they can't find the words for.’ – Dominique
‘Maybe the fear of the reaction of what the outcome is going to be because I've actually told someone what I want or what I need at this moment.’ - John
‘My ‘core wound’ is ‘I am below average’. Having three older sisters where they were doing all of these other things and I couldn’t. Not because I wasn’t able to, but because of that age gap of seven years.’ – Dominique
‘My aim to achieve is really about getting families to communicate. Really, actually listen to each other and understand. A lot of parents when their teens come to me go ‘here’s my teen, she’s 16 and now listen to me.’’ - Dominique
‘When you’re triggered or when something happens when you would have usually done this, you’ve now got another way of saying, ‘ actually do I want to do this anymore?’’ – John
GUEST RESOURCES
Website
Www.lifecoachjohannesburg.com
E-mail
[email protected]
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
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Many people have never had counselling or coaching of any kind, so in this episode, to provide a comprehensive insight into what this involves, John allows us to sit in on a session with a client. By listening in, you will be able to gain an understanding of the interaction in a coaching session and how much progress and clarity can be achieved.
JOHN KENNY COACHING
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get started with some new types of relationships? - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s a fear of upsetting other people. Yes, thank you for teasing that out of me, it wasn’t on the tip of my tongue. Yeah, but I'm so desperately bending over backwards to make sure that I don’t upset anybody.’
‘Would you say that’s what your general self-talk is? I mean it comes back to you not feeling worthy?’
‘It’s natural for them to want me to be what they thought of as happy.’
‘I felt like I wanted to be honest with one of my parents about that aspect of me while one of them was still around.’
‘There’s that sort of silent expectation that you’ve always experienced with your parents, even though they weren’t overly controlling and demanding of you. There did seem to be something that you developed, a sense within yourself that there was an expectation from them, that maybe led to a difficulty with acceptance from yourself.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
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A passionate conversation with Janie Charlot, the definition of a self-made, universe-directed woman.
Janie went to university with dreams of becoming a pharmacist but became a nurse practitioner instead. Not wanting to compromise who she was for any job, she created and founded NP (Nurse Practitioners) For Hire, a collaborative effort between many medical professionals to bring consulting and health advice and management to the metro Atlanta area and beyond.
Janie grounds her medical practice in a deep spirituality. She has also authored two different books and has a seemingly boundless well of energy.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- the universe has a vibration and if you act in “I am” statements, the universe will acknowledge that vibration and bring you a future more aligned with that energy.
- That traditional medicine numbs our pain but doesn’t treat the cause. We need to look at our wounds more holistically and take physical, mental, and spiritual paths to heal them.
BEST MOMENTS
- “If we could also look to nature to clear the disease, then we could stop relying so much on pharmaceuticals. It is a balance. Sometimes we do have to take medication until we are emotionally and mentally equipped with the resources to tap into nature and tap into healing those parts of ourselves. Because that does require going deeper. It requires going deeper and healing.”
- “We are programmed that way (to fear). And I think if we could get to unconditional divine self-love within, … we're wide open, because now you can be who you need to be…and I don't have to control you, I can allow you to grow at your own time, in your own space.”
- “But when you put something out to the universe, it conspires to bring it to you. I started to experience in awakening to I would call it a love vibration. When I walked outside, I was seeing things that has always been there, but I was seeing the love in it.”
- “We must speak from a space of I am or already have it. So: I have a divine love. I am divine love. And then the more I did that, that vibration took over me internally and then I was a magnet for it.”
ABOUT THE GUEST
Janie Charlot proves that “though she be but little, she is fierce”.
Born to a single mother in Church Point, Louisiana, she graduated high school at the top of her class. She enrolled at the University of Louisiana at Monroe, originally with visions of becoming a pharmacist, but changed her major to nursing when she was not accepted to her program of choice.
After graduation she wanted to continue to innovate the healthcare field, so she was inspired to start NP Hired, an Atlanta-based company that provides healthcare services on a national and international level.
They use technology to provide all types of medical services, including treatment of minor conditions and management of chronic illnesses.
Janie has spun her passion for healthcare advocacy and helping others into a successful business.
On top of that, she is the author of two books, and lives her life from a place of spiritual strength.
Janie’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nursepractitioner_hired/
Buy Janie’s Book https://www.amazon.com/CAPACITY-LOVE-Awakening-Unconditional-Love/dp/B09K1TWQH5/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=janie+charlot&qid=1636739364&qsid=135-1785597-0786416&sr=8-1&sres=B09K1TWQH5,B08RTJMG79,B001V9IVE6,B08FF2ZH33,B07HPBCTY9,B00DU5SRIY,B000LC3JV4,B08SBWZKYT,B01CNZMMV4,B07MQJRK7N,B01IEDSU2E,B07C2YF4FB,B08MLJ22K5,B07KCD2MYZ,B07D1J89YQ,B0043XDZF2
Janie on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsZvEjF_739dD8-Ozgb5K7Q
NP Hired’s Website https://nphired.com/
NP Hired on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nphired/
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
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Today John reads from his book “The People Programme”. PEOPLE is an acronym for the six titles of the modules of his coaching program; Problems, Emotions, Operate, Patterns, Likelihood and Enhance. It helps us to understand the current occurrences in our lives based on past events, understanding those around us, any programmed patterns of behaviour we have and how we can change and move forward.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
‘ What is not funny and is completely overlooked from reciting this story is that I’m a young child out late by myself in the dark. I had not been seen for hours, obviously I had missed my dinner, and my brother is all tucked up in bed and I haven’t even been missed.’
‘When anything happened where I was told off, I would always be the one made to apologise and make things right. Otherwise I was just ignored and made to stay in my room until I had.’
‘My brain was learning how I could survive. That’s right, survive. My young brains only job at that age was to learn how to keep me alive, how to cope with all the things that were happening and for me to get through it all.’
‘If something feels unknown or uncomfortable I must check in with myself and give it a go before I dismiss it immediately.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In todays episode John discusses how to increase intimacy between you and your partner using relaxing massage techniques. He chats with Denis Merkas, founder of Melt Massage for Couples which teaches couples how to use massage techniques in their own homes and has specialised in this field for a number of years. Denis has taught over 50,000 couples on how to use massage in their daily lives and talks about how his experiences have led and influenced him in his profession and private life. They discuss the nuances and complications of relationships and offer insight into keeping them fresh and exciting.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
'I was thinking how do I really woo this girl with my massage technique and how do I do it differently to what I do at work?’
‘You forget that there are other people in the room, if someone moans, the rest of the class is like “oh I’m a little bit jealous” and people are laughing and the energy is great in the room.’
‘We need to find out ways to keep it exciting, to keep it new and fresh and it’s really, really hard. Easily 99% of the listeners here will do the same date night on a regular basis just because we know what it is.’
‘After that you take your time. The classes get harder, the techniques get more difficult. We start looking for knots, areas of tension. I show you how to use your thumbs, how to use your hands effectively so your hands don’t get tired.’
GUEST RESOURCES
Contact
https://couplesmassagecourses.com
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
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In this episode, John talks about a recent blog he wrote that gained wide attention and generated a lot of conversation, ways to improve your confidence and what signs to show when you think you have met that special someone.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
'Being around someone who likes you, has a physical impact on their state. It can make them nervous and that can lead to a form of good stress'
'When you’re looking in their eyes, if their pupils are dilating, it’s been scientifically proven they do dilate when we see something we like '
'People have a tendency to take your side when they like you…they will want to see you’re ok and will want to defend you wherever possible'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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In this episode, John talks about how we, as human beings craving connection, we may not be as selective as we are led to believe when it comes to building new relationships and creating new connections.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
'Romantic relationships are a very emotionally charged aspect of people's lives'
'The path that leads to a long term relationship seems easier than the path that leads us to being single'
'It's hard to walk away for good'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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We often tell ourselves and others that our relationship with our partner is far stronger than it really is, but as John discusses in this first show of the year, it might be time for a reality check.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
'People stick together even though they are unhappy'
'We go into what is known as an ego defence'
'These strategies help us to minimise our emotions'
'Denial is a great avoidance strategy'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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This week John is in conversation with a special guest - one who has lived through a codependent relationship, and who has emerged as independent from the other side. It's a rare, highly personal conversation from someone with a unique perspective on this particular compulsion, and which may help to empower those who may not yet realise that their own relationship may be an unhealthy one.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
'The root of codependency is the loss of the self'
'It was a very gendered experience'
'It's as though you somehow believe you are rooted with each other'
'It was like I'd created a Frankenstein'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy
Signs Of A Toxic Relationship Questionnaire - https://signsofatoxicrelationship.scoreapp.com
What Is Self Actualisation - What is Self-Actualisation? | John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
Lisa A Romano - https://youtu.be/Pv90LrLyMew https://youtu.be/G2DvWdrXnBw
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie - Codependent No More (Part 1) - YouTube
ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
CONTACT METHOD
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching
Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/
Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ
Clubhouse - @relationshipguy
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From the publisher's feed
Looking at the world of relationships - their importance to living a fulfilled life.
Their impacts on all areas of life.
Where our ideas of relationships come from.
What and why…
How important the relationship with yourself is.
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching Professional People Who Want to Create Healthy Loving Relationships, Author, Documentarian and Speaker.
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose, not one they always have or think they should.
www.therelationshipguy.co.uk
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