The Relationship Guy

Despite what many believe, there is a truly positive power in saying "no". By doing so we are setting boundaries in every part of our lives, and as John explains in this episode, the setting of boundaires is not just healthy, but essential.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• When we say no, we are setting a boundary - line between what is and is not acceptable to you in any given situation.
• We live in a society where putting ourselves above others is deemed as a selfish act. We must consider others, but we must also live life as not detrimental to us.
• We must examine the relationship we have with ourselves. Low self-confidence or self-esteem play a major part in our boundary-setting capabilities.

BEST MOMENTS

'Such a small word, and yet so very powerful'

'When we do not set healthy boundaries for ourself, it will impact our emotional, mental and physical wellbeing'

'Be good to yourself'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

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Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


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Mary McClung is a fitness and mindset coach, who uses her experience and knowledge in working with world-class athletes, coaches and teams, combined with NLP and neuro-science to create her own unique approach.

Mary joins John this week to discuss the power of neurolinguistic programming, and how she is using it each day to help people achieve their goals.

If you find yourself affected by any of the subjects raised in this show, please visit the following resources for more help or guidance:

www.nspcc.org.uk  

https://thecpsu.org.uk/help-advice/introduction-to-safeguarding/child-abuse-in-a-sports-setting/ 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Neurolinguistic programming has profound effects upon the brain and the way our bodies operate. By harnessing its power we can unlock a new level of performance.
• If we are conditioned to believe in ourselves only to a point, to hold back upon the advice of others, then the effects can cause a ripple effect throughout the way we live
• In the world of sport, you are only ever important so long as you are operating to your full potential. This means that when you are hampered in any way, the effects are not just physical but emotional.

BEST MOMENTS

'I knew I was good, but I wasn't allowed to be good enough'

'I wanted somebody to tell me why the heck I should not run as fast as I knew I could run'

'It was when I studied NLP that I got the lightbulb moment'

'It's helped me to understand myself better'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

Mary McClung - http://www.marymcclung.co.uk

Mary McClung Facebook -  @marymcclungofficial

Mary McClung Instagram -  @marymcclungofficial

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John talks about affirmations and how they can help to establish a far more positive internal relationship with ourselves, thereby allowing us to create far more meaningful relationships with others.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

• If we foster a negative viewpoint or perspective internally, then it is far more unlikely that we will ever be able to create a positive relationship with others.
• If we establish a higher sense of self-worth, then the benefits are not just emotional. It has been shown that physical positives can emerge if we treat ourselves well.
• Hermetic philosophy states that we cannot simply say the opposite of what we believe in order for it become our truth.
• In childhood our brains are in foetus state. We absorb information far more easily, and becomes embedded far more deeply. If we seek to change these things later, then we must do so by embracing methods that also help us to reach this foetus state.

BEST MOMENTS

'The most important relationship you're ever going to have is the one you have with yourself'

'We are able to change the way we think about ourselves and see ourselves if we start to have different conversations with ourselves'

'If we are able to manage our thoughts, then we are able to create our reality'

'Positive affirmations target a conscious level of your mind'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John welcomes to the show, Nick James, the founder of Expert Empires, to discuss the importance of constructing successful relationships in business, and how by doing so we can achieve far more in the business world and in life.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• By building up our relationships with others, we make ourselves and others stronger. Our skills and strengths can compliment the weaknesses of others, and vice versa.
• People are attracted to those they can trust, and to those who can help them to achieve their own goals. This is why it is essential to establish that rapport with those around you.
• We must remember that each separate area of our lives has a knock on effect upon others. It is up to us to mitigate these effects when they begin to affect other areas of our lives.
• Trust is the crucial glue that reinforces and fortifies the relationships between us. But we must never discount the value in trusting in ourselves.

BEST MOMENTS

'Your greatest strength will always be your greatest weakness'

'I've been studying and learning about personal development since I was a kid'

'I've always known, unconsciously, that building relationships was important'

'The quality of the relationship you have with yourself is based upon how much you trust yourself to do the right thing'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

ABOUT THE GUEST

Nick dropped out of university at the age of 21 and failed spectacularly with his first coaching business, which forced him to take a £16k/yr telesales job. 

Within 12 months he was the top performer and left to start his second business at 24. This time he discovered a winning formula and before long had a multi-six-figure company. He then made a huge mistake which nearly put him out of business and cost him £50,000 in personal cash! Fortunately, Nick kept it afloat, turned it around, and sold that business 2 years later in a seven-figure deal. 

He then co-founded a multi-million-pound marketing company, which he exited in 2015, and created Expert Empires. Today, Expert Empires is known as the UK's number one business event for Experts, with world-renowned celebrity speakers like Gary Vaynerchuk, Grant Cardone, Chalene Johnson, David Goggins, and Lewis Howes gracing the stage.

Nick also specialises in helping Coaches, Consultants, Speakers, Trainers, and Authors take their businesses from zero to six figures and beyond through his Expert Empires Mastermind programme.

Expert Empires - www.expertemipres.com

Expert Empires Facebook - Expert Empires Community | Facebook

ABOUT THE HOST 

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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Looking for a new relationship, or experiencing the "getting to know each other" phase of a new relationship, can seem like a daunting prospect, especially since there are certain signals we should remain vigilant in spotting. But how best can we make sure that we're identifying these so-called "red flags" when it comes to people? In this episode, John talks about how best to make sure our relationship radar is functioning as it should.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• It's a sad fact that some people out there are looking for perceived flaws in your character so as to take advantage, or ways they can leverage in order to break a relationship.
• We can control the pace at which a relationship moves, as well as constructing boundaries that allow us to keep certain interactions and personalities at bay until we are fully sure of how we feel.
• When someone lacks consistency, it's easy to spot. We need to adhere to people whose actions best match their words and intentions.
• Listen to your instincts and your subconscious. It may be that it is picking up on an imbalance in your energy and that of a potential partner.

BEST MOMENTS

'Unfortunately there are people out there who could just be looking for weaknesses'

'Set a better pace and set some boundaries'

'You are allowed to release these people from your life!'

'You need to be with a partner who wants to fortify a relationship with you through time, but understands that it's going to take some work'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John is joined by emotional abuse therapist and author Elizabeth Goddard, the founder of The Divorce Sanctuary.

Elizabeth joins John to talk about the effects of relationship deterioration, including the sometimes unexpected loneliness that occurs in its aftermath. Elizabeth also discusses where abuse can begin, how we can identify the red flag traits in a partner, and how we can learn to move past the effects of a relationship breakdown.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Often, the person presented at the beginning of a relationship can be very different to the reality of a person. It's a painful and conflicting revelation to come to terms with.
• Abusive behaviour in relationships can imprint upon impressionable minds. If children are taught that abuse is normal, then there is good chance that this will be carried on in their own lives.
• Narcissists feed upon their partners both emotionally and financially. They suck their partner dry, and when there is nothing left to give, they move on.
• Narcissists and sociopaths are by their nature, not good at taking responsibility for their behaviours, and so do not feel the innate desire to seek help to overcome their condition. This can make therapy and treatment almost impossible.

 

BEST MOMENTS

 'If we've grown up in an environment that's been abusive, then we will see that behaviour as normal'

'They tune in to where your wounds are and then they use it to hurt you'

'They play with people and it's a great game for them. They want to see how powerful they are'

'It's important to remember that their condition comes from a place of pain' 

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

For more information about Elizabeth Goddard:

https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com

https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/healingonadeeplevel

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMYt8qcisYTqjDLLj56HfSA

 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John discusses love itself - how it manifests itself, why it's so important, how love has evolved across generations, and why it is the driving force behind so much of what takes place in the world.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Love is generally divided into two categories - being in love, and the simple act of loving somebody. Both are valuable, but very different.
• Love has evolved as society has evolved. Whereas once all attraction was built upon the desire to procreate, societal trends and shifts have led to a broadening of what love can mean and the forms it can take.
• Relationships and sexuality are drastically different, depending on our geographical location, and the societal acceptance of the communities surrounding us.
• Many believe that love is the source of all things. To some, love is our essential nature - a true representation of who humans are at their very core.

BEST MOMENTS

'Love is a very complex emotion'

'The story of love is an ever-evolving drama'

'The roles of relationships have evolved drastically'

'It is the force that creates worlds'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy      

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, John talks to Teresa Brooks, a transformational business coach and strategist, as well as the founder of the COACH magazine and podcast.

Teresa joins John to discuss the art of coaching itself, and how it is built upon connecting relationships, the founding tenets of all successful relationships, and why we should think about accountability.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• We cannot hope to coach anyone unless we establish a secure relationship, built upon trust and faith in each other.
• Relationships are about responsibility. We must hold ourselves accountable for the roles we play when relationships work, but also when they break down.
• Safety and trust are deeply connected to any successful relationship. Without them, we cannot feel truly connected and secure.
• If we feel that we must ask for direction in a relationship, then there must be something fundamentally wrong at the heart of matters

BEST MOMENTS

'Relationships are one of my favourite subjects'

'Connection is one of my values'

'It's about safety and trust'

'It always takes two. What it is about me that has changed this space?'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy     

Teresa Brooks - www.teresabrookscoaching.com

COACH Magazine - https://www.coach-magazine.com

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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We believe that love is the only thing that can keep a relationship alive, but as John discusses on this week's episode, there are also other things that are equally as crucial in keeping the flame burning.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Understanding is a vital tenet of relationships. Empathy for another is a deep understanding that allows us to truly connect and understand.
• We must teach the next generations how to gain a better sense of understanding, so that they can form authentic and lasting relationships.
• Empathy is the art of putting ourselves into the shoes (emotionally) of someone else. It is allowing ourselves to take their perspective in full.

BEST MOMENTS

'Many relationships can break up or are torn apart because the people didn't understand one another'

'Knowing something about somebody doesn't always lead to understanding'

'Sometimes love just isn't enough'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy    

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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This week, it's a meeting of minds as John talks to coaches and relationship experts, Nicki and Tony Vee, for discussion about the nature of coach itself, the power of relationships and how they have led them to where they are today, and their groundbreaking system of guidance, known as the Couples Intimate Relationship Education programme.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Relationships and intimacy are not taught in any kind of curriculum, and yet they make up a huge part of our lives. Guidance in these areas is crucial sometimes.
• The first step is recognising your contribution to a relationship. Only then can we identify the things we need from another.
• Human beings are complicated machines and unique in so many ways. We react and adapt to different forms of input - emotional, physical or spiritual.
• The energies of the masculine and feminine are out of balance in today's society, which prevents emotional progress in many ways

BEST MOMENTS

'Nobody teaches you this stuff at school'

'The universe kept throwing us together'

'We're about intimate relationships, but our purpose and vision is to have healthy, happy and fulfilled life'

'Human beings are a chemistry set'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy    

Nicki Vee LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nickivee/?originalSubdomain=uk

Nicki and Tony Vee - https://mastercoach.training   

 ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching


LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching


Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/


Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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