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Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of modern relationships. In today's episode, we'll be discussing the topic of getting attracted to the wrong people. Have you ever found yourself drawn to someone who is clearly not a good match for you? Do you find yourself repeating the same patterns in your relationships, despite knowing that they don't serve you well? If so, you're not alone.

We'll explore the reasons why we often find ourselves attracted to the wrong people, from childhood experiences to unconscious patterns of behavior.

We'll also discuss strategies for breaking free from these patterns and cultivating healthy relationships that support our growth and well-being. Join us as we delve into the complexities of getting attracted to the wrong people, and gain a deeper understanding of how to cultivate healthy relationships that serve us well. Whether you're struggling with this issue in your own relationships or simply interested in learning more about this common challenge, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips for navigating the ups and downs of modern love.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of modern relationships. In today's episode, we'll be discussing the important topic of dividing chores in your relationship. Sharing household responsibilities is a common challenge for many couples, and can cause tension and conflict if not handled effectively. 

Join us as we delve into the complexities of dividing chores in your relationship, and gain a deeper understanding of how to cultivate a fair and equitable partnership that supports both partners. Whether you're struggling with dividing chores in your own relationship or simply interested in learning more about this common issue, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips for navigating the challenges of modern relationships.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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In this episode of the Relationship Maze podcast, we'll be exploring the topic of enmeshment in relationships. Enmeshment is a common dynamic in relationships where individuals become overly involved in each other's lives, to the point where they lose their individual identities and personal boundaries. This can lead to a range of problematic presentations, including co-dependency, emotional manipulation, and a loss of personal autonomy. Enmeshment can also be present in one partner only, who struggles with separation anxiety in the relationship. While closeness in a relationship is of course important, enmeshment is the unhealthy extreme of emotional intimacy.

We'll explore the causes and consequences of enmeshment, as well as strategies for identifying and addressing this dynamic in our own relationships. 

Join us as we delve into the complexities of enmeshment in relationships, and gain a deeper understanding of how to cultivate healthy boundaries and autonomy in our connection with your partner. Whether you're struggling with enmeshment in your own relationship or simply interested in learning more about this common dynamic, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips for navigating the challenges of modern relationships.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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Find out about our comprehensive course to help you create fulfilling relationships on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of modern relationships. In today's episode, we are talking with Dr Steven C. Hayes, the originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

Frequently we get caught up in the trap of our own minds. The struggle with trying to manage our thoughts and feelings can stop us from fully engaging with our lives and our relationships. ACT presents a ground breaking approach to help you discover a different way to relate to your thoughts and feelings so that you can find more peace and fulfilment in your life and relationships.

Dr. Steven C. Hayes is an Emeritus Professor of Psychology at the University of Nevada, Reno and President of the Institute for Better Health, a 45-year old charitable organization dedicated to better mental and behavioral health.

His work has been celebrated with several awards, such as the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Therapies and the Impact of Science on Application Award from the Society for the Advancement of Behaviour Analysis.

With 47 books and nearly 700 scientific articles published, Dr. Hayes is one of the most cited psychologists in the world as he continues to innovate in the field of psychology.

More about Dr. Hayes's work:
His work has been focused on developing a new behavioral science approach called Contextual Behavioral Science. He originated its underlying philosophical of science (Functional Contextualism), its basic science of human higher cognition (Relational Frame Theory or "RFT"), its application to individual psychological change (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or Training, "ACT" in either case), and co-developed its application to the development of more cooperative groups (Prosocial). He has helped develop a model of human suffering and human prosperity (the Psychological Flexibility Model), a new method of analyzing processes of change (idionomic analysis), a new vision of what evidence-based intervention should be (Process-Based Therapy), and he has extended multidimensional and multilevel evolutionary thinking to human problems of all kinds. 

In this fascinating interview, we'll be exploring many areas regarding ourselves and our relationships and how increasing our psychological flexibility can be so important in our lives.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of the human experience.

In today's episode we talk about the advantages and disadvantages of having a mental health diagnosis. In daily language many people refer to themselves or others as having a personality disorder - often very serious presentations are bandied about quite flippantly. Presentations can also be weaponised by one partner over the other, i.e. 'The only problem here is your Borderline Personality Disorder'. 

Personality Disorders as described in the DSM-5 are wide ranging and include Generalised Anxiety Disorder or Depression, for example. The DSM-5 is the standard classification manual for all mental health disorders for adults and children in the US. The other manual that health care professionals refer to, in particular in Europe, is the ICD-10.

It can be very helpful to finally find out that the challenges that you face fall within cluster of presentations that are recognised as creating difficulties in your life; by the same token a diagnosis can also mean that you feel stuck  - and often helpless - in a particular identity.

We discuss -

• who can diagnose a personality disorder or schizophrenia -
• what an assessment might look like -
• the challenges with diagnosing a mental health condition -
• the advantages of getting a diagnosis -
• the disadvantages of getting a diagnosis -
• the DSM V vs other models such as The Power Threat Meaning Framework -

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of the human experience. In today's episode, we'll be discussing the topic of loneliness, a universal human experience that affects millions of people around the world. Loneliness is one of the hardest experiences one can have; as human beings we are hard wired to connect with others. At the extreme end, not experiencing any connection at all, is therefore a dehumanising experience for people who are profoundly lonely. 

Loneliness is not just about being alone, but rather a feeling of disconnection and isolation, even when surrounded by others. It can have a profound impact on our mental and physical health, and can lead to a range of negative outcomes, from depression and anxiety to increased risk of illness and  earlier mortality rates. But what causes loneliness, and how can we combat it?

Join us as we explore the root causes of loneliness and isolation.  Learn strategies for building deeper connections and combating loneliness in our own lives.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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Find out about our comprehensive course to help you create fulfilling relationships on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the complexities of modern relationships. In today's episode, we'll be discussing seven signs that your relationship is working. Relationships can be challenging, but when things are going well, they can be a source of joy, support, and fulfilment. By paying attention to certain indicators, we can identify when our relationship is on the right track. From feeling secure and supported to having a shared vision for the future, we'll be exploring the common signs that indicate a relationship is healthy and fulfilling. 

Join us as we discuss these seven signs in depth, and offer insights for cultivating a happy and successful relationship. Whether you're in a long-term partnership or just starting out, this episode is packed with valuable insights for navigating the ups and downs of modern love.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we navigate the twists and turns of modern relationships. 

In today's episode, we'll be discussing seven signs that your relationship may be in difficulty. Relationships are at times complex and challenging, and it's not always easy to notice when troublesome patterns set in and become a persistent problem over the years. By the time partners know that there are issues that need addressing, the relationship might be in deep water already. By paying attention to certain warning signs, we can identify potential problems early on and take steps to address them. From loss of connection to communication breakdowns or loss of intimacy, we'll be exploring the common signs that indicate a relationship may be in trouble. Not paying attention to these red flags can jeopardise your relationship in the long run.

Join us as we discuss these warning signs in depth, and offer strategies for addressing them and strengthening your relationship. Whether you're in a long-term partnership or just starting out, this episode is packed with valuable insights for navigating the ups and downs of modern love.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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Find out about our comprehensive course to help you create fulfilling relationships on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we explore the many facets of human emotion. In today's episode, we'll be exploring the elusive concept of happiness. Everyone wants it but what does it mean to be happy?

In this episode we discuss what happiness might look like and how we can achieve this state of being. Is happiness a fleeting emotion or can it be sustained over time? Is happiness something outside of ourselves (e.g. an object or a goal) or is it something that we generate internally?

We'll be briefly delving into some of the thinking about happiness, as well as exploring how the continued search can sometimes get in the way of having the experience of being happy.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

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What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Welcome to the Relationship Maze podcast, where we delve into the complexities of the human experience. 

In today's episode, we'll be exploring the topic of social anxiety, a condition that affects millions of people around the world. 

Social anxiety is characterized by an intense fear of social situations and interactions, often leading to avoidance or distress. It can manifest in a variety of ways, from difficulty speaking in public to avoiding social events altogether. But what causes social anxiety, and how does it impact those who experience it? 

Join us as we dive deep into the world of social anxiety, and gain a greater understanding of this common yet often misunderstood condition.

What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

Contact us for information about individual counselling/psychotherapy, couples therapy, clinical supervision or CPD training.
Tom's website
Angela's website

Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.