The RelationSH*T SHOW

Cianna Stewart (@heycianna) is author of the book 'No Complains - How to Stop Sabotaging Your Own Joy' and founder of the complaining project. She's taken all the research and knowledge gained from all the other self help books out there and made it practical and immediately applicable to us as a reader. We get into the negative effects of complaining on our relationships, creating "NoCo" Zones, and why we should be saying 3 positive things for every ONE negative comment we give someone. Definitely an eye opener (especially that last one). We severely underestimate how harsh we are on ourselves and how little we give ourselves some credit.

The No Complaining Project

http://gonoco.com

CHEAT SHEET:

• What made Cianna realize complaining was an issue
• Accepting compliments rather than deflecting
• Complaining without contributing a solution
• how to see the intention behind peoples advice
• CREATE A NO CO ZONE
• The benefit of Vulnerability and connection
• How complaining negativity affects the other in relationships
• The research on negativity and rumination
• How to help your man show more emotion

This is the FIRST in a test series regular with my girlfriend Alexis (@alexispinkyyy) on relationships and the ups and downs that come with it. This was a quick intro episode to get us comfortable behind the mic and used to talking to a crowd so we kept it brief and light with embarrassing stories, how we met, and surface topics on challenges we face as a couple. 

Keep letting us know what topics you want to hear discussed! It's nice to hear both male and female perspectives and having guests continue to come on and share their input as well!

CHEAT SHEET:

• The Weirdest places we've pooped
• I told everyone that Alexis pooped herself
• How we first met
• Opposites Attract
• The benefits of being opposite
• Love Languages - what language we have and how we fulfill it
• Everly our dog is a C block
• Fighting about Mapquest and mundane topics just cause

Rex (@rexmanos) joins us this week to talk about the weirdest training clientele he has gotten in his years as a personal trainer in Los Angeles. From cougars asking for sex, to me ending up with one of my clients. We also get into "too high" stories where Rex goes shopping and ends up buying a juicer for no reason. I almost got into a fight for telling a guy to find a shirt that actually fits him. Later on, we discuss the men's side of the story when it comes to picking up girls at the bar and the anxiety that comes with it.  Hint: Telling a girl she sucks like I did, does not make you look confidently indifferent like you think. It just offends her.

Rex Personal Training Site

CHEAT SHEET:

• Cougars making passes during training sessions
• How I ended up dating my client
• Shaving half his face and going to work
• Being so High I almost got into a fight cause of shirt sizes
• Rex being so high he bought a juicer
• My attempt at hitting on a girl in college
• The dynamics of guys picking up a girl at a bar
• Is it all a stats game?
• What method works best

Maz (@mazswole) grew up in a household with 2 men. That didn't make dates go very smoothly. In fact, it made them quite awkward. Especially when one is your brothers friend. Dating aside, she has physically and mentally transformed herself by finding positivity through fitness. Whether it's dropping 30 pounds or completing 2nd place in a Triathlon, she has tested her strength time and again. Now she wants to help others learn the same.

Maz's YouTube Channel

CHEAT SHEET:

• Advice on Relationships
• Growing up in a family of men
• Awkward First dates
• Fat to Fit
• Learning not to be stubborn
• How fitness became a positive life influence
• What she did to test herself mentally and physically
• Doing a Triathlon after dropping weight
• How to get started on your journey
• And some fun games!

Patrick Curran (@pwcurran) my FIRST....second timer. back on the A-Ha Moment to just discuss life and being rowdy getting into trouble. From run in's with the law as a collegiate football player, to WWE Wrestling to Fake Food we just wanted to have fun with this episode and give you guys an easy listen.

CHEAT SHEET:

• Relationships the the idea of marriage
• I keep referencing Black Mirrors
• That time Pat got arrested
• The weirdest gift's weve ever gotten
• The time I got a Bible as someone else's going away gift
• My life as a Boy Scout
• How China sends us fake food
• Approaching celebrities in real life
• Wrestling a naked Hulk Hogan

Julian (@savage_chuko) was at the doctors at age 15 when he learned he had an intellectual disability. He's had people take advantage of this fact, or treat him as if he isn't a human. He's learned and made his new years resolution to learn to stand up for himself and help others with a similar disability. It can feel isolating but he doesn't want anyone to feel alone. Julian wants anyone who share his circumstances to reach out and create that support system.  

Reach Julian by emailing us at [email protected] or message us or julian on IG - @theahamomentpodcast or @savage_chuko

CHEAT SHEET:

• New Years Resolution
• being taken advantage of
• Boxing with Julian
• Tips for being picked on
• Growing up with Intellectual Disability (Mental Retardation)
• How to choose your friends
• Methods for calming down
• His mother's accident
• Finding out he had MR
• How to be tougher

Chris Frasciello (@cfrash_money) has a house to upkeep, a baby on the way, and a drunk Santa Claus to kick off the stage. Twas the night before Christmas that Santa got his ass kicketh. In this week's episode we get into an expectant fathers unusual habits formed in preparation.  Hint: It involves gassing his house with peppermint. Also, Chris lets us into the day in the life of his 18 year old quiet self as he is caught lollibanging toy models in sex ed class, and a teacher misunderstands a promise to his girlfriend.

CHEAT SHEET:

• Kicking Santa In the face
• 3 things learned as a father expecting
• Weird habits he didn't expect when expecting
• Gassing his house with peppermint
• A great game of How Would You Proceed?
• What His high school girlfriend and a set of stairs have in common
• Zoobs

Jordan Bleckner always knew he was the quirky guy who never quite fit in with the “cool kids”. But that didn’t stop him from trying. On this high school reunion episode I reconnect with longtime buddy to see how growing up in even the same neighborhood still drastically changed the people we became, as well as the horrifyingly embarrassing high school moments that come with it (hint: he broke a vase). We also flash forward to his current life, the huge battle of struggling to pursue what makes you happy vs listening to your parents and playing it safe even though you can lose that job too. 

CHEAT SHEET:

• Early influences growing up
• His First and last shot at the "cool kids" party
• Why he wanted to fit in
• Career Insecurity
• His move to Korea and the objections from support system
• His parents realizing his reasoning
• Lack of Follow through

Cris Mendez (@cris.legacy) has had an emotional battle with how he presents himself towards the women in his life. He grew up in a dicey neighborhood learning to adapt to his friends gangster attitudes to keep up, and then saw those "masculine" traits bottle up and explode in his relationships with his mom and girlfriend. He didn't have a father figure, so he turned to God which gave him the self awareness to see the path he was headed, and change it for the better. He courageously dives into how he's developed tools to help control his temper and learned to take a beat, and explain to the important people in his life how hurt he felt, in a calmer way. 

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CHEAT SHEET:

• Adapting to friends attitudes
• His Girlfriends mother pulled him into the car
• Masculinity Towards women
• Using God as a role model
• a wise man is slow to wrath
• Bottling Anger Up
• Trigger and Reaction
• Presenting his authentic self with creativity
• Putting himself out there but not being good enough
• Afraid of not being loved
• His Legacy

Phil Kemp had two choices to make growing up: stay clean or join a gang. A life of being a target for no reason threw him into the latter. His ego needed to get destroyed in order for him to see what it means to be his true self and come out of it a new man. There was no "easy way", or "lucky" break. He had to grind hard, and figure out the type of person he wanted to be and what it meant to become that. There are risks chasing what you love, but Phil will be the first to show you through his life, it's better to struggle enjoying what you do rather than hating what keeps you secure.

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CHEAT SHEET:

• Asthma as a kid
• Growing Up - The good route or the bad?
• Being picked on and beaten up
• coming out of a gang
• discovering books for education
• his moms priceless advice
• the risk of chasing what you love
• struggle for what you love and be happy
• check your ego
• Adapt to your clients