Most of us were never given a real framework for love. We learned from culture, movies, music, and social media — but lasting relationships require maturity, structure, and intentional action.

In this powerful episode, we sit down with renowned marriage coach and relationship expert to unpack the psychology and biblical foundation of healthy, lasting marriage. From his radical childhood to becoming one of Africa’s most respected voices on covenant marriage, his story is gripping. But the practical wisdom he shares on communication, emotional maturity, submission, leadership, and why most marriages struggle between years 5–10 is what will truly transform how you approach love.

Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this conversation will give you the relationship framework you were never taught.

🔥 In This Episode, We Discuss:

0:00 – Introduction0:30 – His radical childhood and salvation story3:00 – Why relationships and family matter from God’s perspective5:00 – The 3 types of marriage: Cultural, Contemporary & Covenant7:00 – Why two whole people make a marriage (not two halves)8:00 – How opposites attract, then attack, then alternate10:00 – How to know when you’re truly ready for marriage13:00 – What to do in your waiting season as a single person15:30 – Positioning yourself practically: Why it’s a numbers game19:00 – What romance actually looks like in marriage21:00 – Emotional love vs. intentional love24:00 – Love is like fire: What are you feeding it weekly?27:00 – Acting your way into feeling vs. feeling your way into acting28:00 – The 4 phases of every marriage32:00 – Starting from friendship vs. starting from sparks35:00 – Communication in marriage and understanding your “fight language”38:00 – Why women say “I feel unloved” and how men can respond42:00 – Correcting your spouse without pushing them away44:00 – The power of unity and partnership47:00 – Handling character flaws: God’s “red pill” is love49:00 – Submission and leadership: African culture vs. biblical context53:00 – Two qualities every woman should look for in a husband55:00 – Does prayer actually help your marriage work?59:00 – A word for singles this Valentine’s season

💡 Key Takeaways

• Love is not just a feeling. It is a skill developed through intentional action.

• Maturity, not age, determines readiness for marriage.

• Emotional love has a lifespan. After that, intentional love sustains the relationship.

• Most marriages struggle between years 5–10 because couples drift instead of invest.

• Men are often motivated by respect and affirmation.

• True submission is partnership under servant leadership.

• Two whole people build a healthy marriage.

• Prayer works when it transforms you, not when you ask God to change your spouse.

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In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Dr. Olori Boye-Ajayi (OBA) shares her transformative journey of being “stripped” of titles, performance, and self-made identity to become a bond servant (dolos) of Jesus Christ.

If you are currently in a silent season—where everything you’ve built seems to be slowing down, falling apart, or disappearing—this conversation is a reminder that you are not in disorientation.You are in a divine invitation.

🔹 The Mark of the Bond Servant (Dolos)Discover the biblical meaning of being a “slave by choice,” and how the scars and bruises of life can become God’s way of marking you as His own.

🔹 The Secured Construction ZoneWhy seasons of silence are not abandonment, but protected spaces where God is quietly building something beautiful beneath the surface.

🔹 Identity vs. PerformanceWhy God often strips away titles like high achiever, ambitious, mom, or wife—not to diminish us, but to reveal our true identity as His child.

🔹 Surgery in the SilenceHow waiting seasons become spiritual surgery, where idols of self-validation, productivity, and the applause of men are removed to make room for intimacy.

🔹 The Power of StillnessWhy “moving like Martha” can sabotage what God is preserving for you—and how learning to be still creates the staying power required for your next season.

As OBA shares, “You can place all your eggs in God’s basket.”Your life is not crumbling.It is being carefully formed and secured by the One who knows you best.

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"If you don’t say it, you can’t become it.” — Doreen Omoshola (TMA)In this deeply moving episode of The Shining Light Show, we sit down with Doreen Omoshola, popularly known as TMA (The Mrs Aaron).Doreen shares a raw and honest journey of healing—how unresolved childhood trauma, identity distortion, and destructive cycles shaped her early life, and how lasting freedom came when her identity was redefined by truth.She opens up about the voice that tried to define her worth and the powerful role the Word of God played in renewing her mind, restoring her soul, and breaking cycles that once felt permanent.Now a mother of three and a passionate voice of hope, Doreen’s story is a reminder that freedom is not just possible—it can be sustained.✨ What you’ll learn in this episode:✅ How to rediscover your true identity after trauma✅ Why breaking addiction requires more than willpower✅ The power of “reckoning” yourself dead to sin through God’s Word✅ How to silence destructive inner voices✅ The role of spiritual mentorship and accountability in healingThis episode is for anyone seeking real freedom, inner healing, and lasting transformation📘 Connect With Doreen Omosele ➡️ Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/doreenomosele/=============================📱 Subscribe and Listen to the The Shining Light podcast HERE:=============================Apple: https://apple.co/3KpJsyx Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3rRBtnj =============================Our mission here at The Shining Light Show is to use the power of testimonies to inspire you to live out your christian faith in practical terms. For sponsorship and partnership inquiries please email [email protected] or [email protected] with Flourish Ubanyi on Social Media https://www.instagram.com/shininglight_flo/ #TheShiningLightShow #FlourishUbanyi #TMA #DoreenOmosele

📒 Show Notes and Resources 📒📘 Download Esther’s Biblestudy resource for FREE: https://selar.com/biblestudyresource 📘 Connect With Esther Ideh ➡️ Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/esther.ideh/ ✨ So many Christians struggle with being lukewarm—knowing about God but not truly living as His disciples. In this episode of The Shining Light Show, Esther Ideh shares her powerful journey of finding faith, discovering what it means to be a serious student of the Word of God, and learning to balance the written Word with walking in the Spirit.📖 If you’ve ever asked:- How do I grow deeper in my walk with Jesus?- What does it mean to be a true disciple of Christ?- How can I study the Bible and still stay sensitive to the Spirit?…this conversation is for you.🔥 In this episode, we talk about:- Moving from lukewarm Christianity to wholehearted discipleship- The personal journey of faith that transformed Esther's life- How to study the Word of God seriously and consistently- Walking in the Spirit while staying rooted in Scripture- Living as a true disciple of Christ in today’s world💡 Join the conversation in the comments: What helps you stay grounded in the Word and led by the Spirit?🙏 If this episode blesses you:👍 Like the video🎉 Subscribe for more inspiring faith conversationsJoin our YouTube membership + sign up for our newsletter to get exclusive perks and updates on upcoming in-person events=============================📱 Subscribe and Listen to the The Shining Light podcast HERE:=============================Apple: https://apple.co/3KpJsyx Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3rRBtnj =============================Our mission here at The Shining Light Show is to use the power of testimonies to inspire you to live out your christian faith in practical terms. For sponsorship and partnership inquiries please email [email protected] or [email protected] with Flourish Ubanyi on Social Media https://www.instagram.com/shininglight_flo/ #TheShiningLightShow #FlourishUbanyi #EstherIdeh#DiscipleOfChrist #StopBeingLukewarm #FollowJesus #BibleStudy #ChristianPodcast #FaithJourney

JBums is everything, EVERYTHING she thinks she is! She’s such a powerhouse! A perfect blend of beauty, fire and wisdom. This is one conversation you would need to come back to over and over again. We discussed everything from finding Godly friends, to self discovery, to navigating motherhood and then health and fitness. Please share this video with as many people as possible!📘 Connect With Jbums ➡️ Instagram- @Jbums ➡️https://www.instagram.com/jbums/ =============================📱 Subscribe and Listen to the The Shining Light podcast HERE:=============================Apple: https://apple.co/3KpJsyx Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3rRBtnj =============================Our mission here at The Shining Light Show is to use the power of testimonies to inspire you to live out your christian faith in practical terms. For sponsorship and partnership inquiries please email [email protected] or [email protected] with Flourish Ubanyi on Social Media https://www.instagram.com/shininglight_flo/

Have you ever felt like you just needed a manual or a handbook on parenting? Its one job that doesn't come with any instructions- except of course from God's Word. This session felt like a parenting/ motherhood 101 class for me! It was so special sitting with someone who had experienced the different levels of parenting, thought she had failed at some point due to how her son turned out, but walked that difficult path with God to see her son transformed. Mummy Deep, as I like to call her, is also an experienced teacher who dealt directly with teenagers for many years. Bringing all that wealth of experience as well as her groundedness in God's Word to "class", Mummy Ojapa will inspire you to keep standing in faith for your children- even when you feel like you're failing. You can also listen to JoDeep’s full story here: I Struggled with PORN Addiction and Suicidal Thoughts Until This Happened… | @iamjodeep📘 Connect With Pastor Becky Ojapa ➡️ Instagram- @beckyojapa ➡️https://www.instagram.com/beckyojapa/=============================📱 Subscribe and Listen to the The Shining Light podcast HERE:=============================Apple: https://apple.co/3KpJsyx Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3rRBtnj =============================Our mission here at The Shining Light Show is to use the power of testimonies to inspire you to live out your christian faith in practical terms. For sponsorship and partnership inquiries please email [email protected] or [email protected] with Flourish Ubanyi on Social Media https://www.instagram.com/shininglight_flo/

What makes a story truly unforgettable? In this intimate conversation with Pastor, author, and filmmaker Laju Iren, we uncover the storytelling secret that doesn’t just inspire—but actually moves people to action.From her earliest memories shaped by her father’s love, to the bold choices she makes both on the pulpit and on set, Pastor Laju shares the heart and strategy behind her words. We talk about the art of evangelism, how she balances creativity with calling, and the intentional choices behind her compelling films and books.If you're a storyteller, creative, or someone passionate about making impact with your voice—this one’s for you.✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:- The one principle that fuels her most powerful stories- How her childhood shaped her message- Practical keys for evangelism that actually work- Why authenticity is your greatest asset📒 Show Notes and Resources 📒📘Subscribe to Pastor Laju Iren’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@LajuIren📘 Connect With Pastor Laju Iren ➡️ Instagram- @lajuiren ➡️https://www.instagram.com/lajuiren/=============================📱 Subscribe and Listen to the The Shining Light podcast HERE:=============================Apple: https://apple.co/3KpJsyx Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3rRBtnj =============================Our mission here at The Shining Light Show is to use the power of testimonies to inspire you to live out your christian faith in practical terms. For sponsorship and partnership inquiries please email [email protected] or [email protected] with Flourish Ubanyi on Social Media https://www.instagram.com/shininglight_flo/ #TheShiningLightShow #FlourishUbanyi #LajuIren

There are plenty of inspiring, personal stories out there, but few are quite as impactful as the one from Barrister Mani. From the depths of depression, she found purpose in life by sharing the love of Christ with others. She has helped build a church for the inmates at Ikoyi Prison, and now has over 500 solid members there. The joy and healing she found is because of the joy and healing she gave to others. In addition, Mani has been instrumental in raising numerous disciples for Christ. If she's proven anything, it's that helping others and getting off your own selfish interests is the best way to find fulfilment.=============================📱 Subscribe and Listen to the The Shining Light podcast HERE:=============================Apple: https://apple.co/3KpJsyx Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3rRBtnj =============================Our mission here at The Shining Light Show is to use the power of testimonies to inspire you to live out your christian faith in practical terms. For sponsorship and partnership inquiries please email [email protected] or [email protected] you're led to partner financially with the Shining Light Show, please find our account details below:Account name: The Shining Light ShowBank: Guaranty Trust Bank (GTB)Account number (Naira): 0864031601Account name: The Shining Light ShowBank: Guaranty Trust Bank (GTB)Account number (USD): 0864031618Connect with Flourish Ubanyi on Social Media https://www.instagram.com/shininglight_flo/ #TheShiningLightShow #FlourishUbanyi

To Partner with Evangelist Christian Chukwuka financially:Abounding Grace FoundationACCOUNT NUMBER 1013903492Zenith bank NigeriaAbounding Grace FoundationBarclays bank UKSort code 20-90-74ACCOUNT Nr 13616428IBAN: GB95 BUKB 20907413616428PayPal [email protected] him on any of these lines:+447376045293 WhatsApp Line+2348105373381 Nigeria line=============================📱 Subscribe and Listen to the The Shining Light podcast HERE:=============================Apple: https://apple.co/3KpJsyx Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3rRBtnj =============================Our mission here at The Shining Light Show is to use the power of testimonies to inspire you to live out your christian faith in practical terms. For sponsorship and partnership inquiries please email [email protected] or [email protected] with Flourish Ubanyi on Social Media https://www.instagram.com/shininglight_flo/ #TheShiningLightShow #FlourishUbanyi #EvangelistChristianChukwuka

Get ready for total liberation as you hear Tosin’s powerful story. Her life is an evidence that God can do a complete and total work of soul- cleansing and emotional healing in a person. You’re not too far gone, your story is not over. 

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