The Speak Confident English Podcast

How do you finish speaking in English so people know you're done and the conversation can keep moving? Sometimes you finish a story, share an opinion, or give an update… and then everyone waits.

In this episode, you'll learn how to make the end of your turn clear before that awkward silence begins.

You'll learn how to:

• Finish with a clear final thought
• Use falling intonation to show you're finished
• Slow down slightly on your final words
• Use clear closing phrases when you need them
• Invite someone else to respond or take the next turn

You'll also practice creating a clear ending for a story, opinion, or update.

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Read the full lesson: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/how-to-finish-speaking-in-english/

After years of feeling nervous about speaking English in the United States, Mirtha can now say: "I'm not afraid anymore."

In this month's Confident English Conversation, Mirtha and I talk about her experience moving to the US, overcoming shyness, and learning to enjoy speaking English.

We also talk about running (including the marathon she ran by herself!!!), her love of poetry and books, and one of her favorite study guides from the Confident Women Community: moving from languishing to flourishing after the pandemic.

One part of our conversation I especially loved was Mirtha's description of confidence coming in waves. She shares what helped her keep practicing when a difficult conversation made her question her progress. And she tells me what English confidence means to her today.

Mirtha joined my Confident Women Community in 2023. Since then, she's joined our book club and even started hosting conversations with other women.

If you'd like to build your English confidence through regular practice with women around the world, explore the Confident Women Community → https://bit.ly/4xX5Hl7

Read the episode summary and transcript: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/english-conversation-with-mirtha

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Want to speak English with confident authority without sounding more aggressive than you intended? In this episode, you'll hear how your words, tone, and the situation can change what your listener hears.

We compare assertive and aggressive English in common work situations: setting a firm deadline, disagreeing, asking about a problem, giving feedback, and handling an interruption. You'll hear why direct English is sometimes exactly right, and how blame, criticism, or unnecessary pressure can change the message.

As you listen, use the questions from the lesson to think about what the situation requires and whether your language stays focused on the issue.

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Full written lesson: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/assertive-vs-aggressive-english

When someone asks what you think in English, do several ideas come to mind at once? You know you have something to say, but you don't know what to say first.

In this episode, you'll learn how to organize your thoughts when speaking English so your main point is clear and you can avoid rambling.

You'll learn how to decide what you want to do first, choose one idea to start with, and decide which details belong with that idea. You'll also learn why you don't need to organize every thought before you start speaking.

At the end, we'll practice with a simple example so you can see how these decisions work together.

If you want more practice organizing your ideas and speaking clearly, this is also something we work on deeply in Fluency School. You'll learn a simple structure for organizing your ideas and practice using it with guidance and feedback.

Learn more about Fluency School: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/fluencyschool/

Related lesson: How to Think Out Loud in English https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/think-out-loud-english/

Full written lesson: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/organize-your-thoughts-when-speaking-english

English fluency can feel easy in one conversation and difficult in another. You may answer simple questions easily, then lose your train of thought when you need to speak for several minutes.

Or perhaps you speak clearly one-to-one, but struggle to join a fast-moving group discussion.

Your English level did not suddenly change. The speaking situation changed.

In this episode, you'll learn what English fluency really means and why different speaking situations require different skills.

We'll look at three types of speaking:

• everyday exchanges, where you need to listen and respond quickly
• speaking at length, when you tell a story, explain a problem, give an update, or share an opinion
• group discussions, where you need to follow several speakers and find the right moment to join

You'll also think about your own speaking practice. Which of these three situations is most difficult for you right now? Your answer can help you decide what kind of speaking practice you need next.

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Read the full written lesson: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/speaking-practice-for-english-fluency/

You've probably heard this advice: stop saying very in English. Use stronger words instead. In this episode, I'll tell you why the answer is no.

Words like very, really, so, and super are called intensifiers. They make an idea stronger, and native speakers use them every day.

So let's talk about how these words are different from words like exhausted, hectic, and furious. Plus, how to choose the word that says what you mean, and how "not very" can make a negative comment softer.

Full written lesson: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/stop-saying-very-in-english/

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Is confidence in English something you have or something you choose? In this real English conversation, my guest Anna and I talk about the myths vs reality of confidence in speaking another language.

Anna and I are both strong introverts, so we also talk about how personality shapes the way we speak, plus...

We chat about the book Happy Mind, Happy Life by Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, which Anna recommended for our Confident Women Community Book Club; my decision to leave social media (thanks to the book she recommended); and toxic positivity.

Like any real-life conversation, the topics evolve, with starts and stops along the way.

Anna has been a member of my Confident Women Community since 2022. If you'd like to get the same kind of speaking practice and support that has helped Anna gain confidence, you can do that here: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/community

Get the full lesson and transcript at https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/english-conversation-with-anna

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A coworker says, "I'm already on my third cup of coffee, and it's not even ten." You understand every word. But what do you say next?

That small moment is an invitation, and knowing what to do with it is the start of social fluency in English: the ability to join the everyday conversations that help people get to know you, and help you get to know them.

In this lesson, you'll learn how to recognize when someone is opening the door to small talk, a simple way to respond (show you heard them, then ask one simple question), and how to tell whether the conversation is continuing or naturally ending.

Then you'll get one small, low-pressure way to practice this week, in a moment where nothing important depends on the outcome.

Get my free training, Say What You Want in English: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/say-what-you-want-in-english/

Full written lesson: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/social-fluency-in-english/

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You know what happened. You remember every detail. But when you tell a story in English, it can be hard to show when each thing happened.

In this lesson, you'll learn how to use 3 past tenses to tell one clear story. The past simple tells your listener what happened next. The past continuous shows what was happening when something else happened. And the past perfect explains what had happened earlier, like the phone you forgot to charge the night before.

At the end, you'll practice with a short story from your own life, in just 4 to 6 sentences.

Get my free training, Say What You Want in English: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/say-what-you-want-in-english/

Full written lesson: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/tell-a-story-in-english/

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Think of someone you'd like to know better. Maybe a neighbor, or another parent at your child's school. You've talked a few times, but the conversation never goes past simple facts. In this lesson, you'll learn how to ask better questions in English so your conversations can go deeper.

You'll learn how to listen for one detail and use it to form your next question. You'll learn what makes a question better when you want to know someone. You'll also get phrases like "I remember you said..." to return to a topic the next time you talk, and simple ways to ask without putting pressure on anyone.

At the end, I'll guide you to form one follow-up question for a real person in your life, so you can use this lesson right away.

Get my free training, Say What You Want in English: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/say-what-you-want-in-english/

Full written lesson: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/deeper-conversations-in-english

One better question can lead to a deeper conversation. And over time, it can help a friendship grow.