The Synchrony Podcast

What makes Apostolic dating truly different from Worldly dating? In this episode, Megan and Steven break down the 10 Principles of Apostolic Dating that they wished everyone understood before they launched into a dating relationship. Send this to your youth leaders and teenage loved ones!

Apostolic and Single? Take the "From Singles, to Shepherds" survey now!

https://forms.gle/KTt8UZEMA8ipHreTA

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin!

Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony

Contact: If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected]. 

 

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com

Trigger Warning: diet culture, disordered eating, body image.

Dating in a fat body is different than dating in a thin body, and is in some ways much more difficult. Our dating culture has internalized the thin preference that is deeply rooted in Western culture, and that preference leaves many people struggling to find someone who appreciates their body and sees them as an attractive potential partner. In this episode, Megan and Steven grapple with this difficult topic and provide data to illustrate the trends and, hopefully, to give hope to anyone who feels that their body is presenting challenges to connection.

Links and References:

Preferences for sexually dimorphic body characteristics revealed in a large sample of speed daters--Sidari, M. et al, Social Psychological and Personality Science, 2019: https://dspace.stir.ac.uk/retrieve/54c9b8dc-0155-4447-bae2-387dae00637e/SPPS_20Manuscript_20Final.pdf 

Secular differences in the association between caloric intake, macronutrient intake, and physical activity with obesity- Brown, Ruth E. et al, Obesity Research & Clinical Practice, 2016: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26383959/

"Size, By the Numbers," Hilary George Parkin, Racked,  June 5, 2018. LANGUAGE ADVISORY: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26383959/

Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight, Lindo Bacon, PhD. NOTE: This is a research-based book about dieting and its impact on health, written by a secular author who also identifies as non-binary. We understand that some may feel uncomfortable reading a book whose author does not affirm biological gender; however, the book is not about gender identity and its contents are important for anyone who has struggled with guilt, shame, or depression around their weight. Read with caution, but please consider reading. https://lindobacon.com/health-at-every-size-book/ 

Apostolic and Single? Take the "From Singles, to Shepherds" survey now!

https://forms.gle/KTt8UZEMA8ipHreTA

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin!

Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony

Contact: If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected].

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com

We've collected survey data from 427 Apostolic singles so far, and the data is starting to show us some interesting trends. In this episode, Steven and Megan answer questions like: where do most Synchrony respondents come from? What is the racial and ethnic breakdown of the respondent pool? How many respondents are in each age group, and how many are male/female?

We're also giving away something pretty big! If you are a Single Apostolic male between the ages of 40 and 55, you can email us at [email protected] to request a FREE consultation--the first 10 men to reach out will get one!

References:

Pew Research Center: "Racial and ethnic composition among Pentecostals in the Evangelical Tradition" https://www.pewresearch.org/religious-landscape-study/database/religious-family/pentecostal-family-evangelical-trad/racial-and-ethnic-composition/

U.S. Census Bureau, Quick Facts: https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/

Sarah Adeyinka-Skold, 2020. University of Pennsylvania Dissertations: "Dating in the Digital Age: Race, Gender, and Inequality" https://www.proquest.com/openview/223cdfe5121c5efa648e53476e624ae4/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&cbl=51922&diss=y 

Apostolic and Single? Take the "From Singles, to Shepherds" survey now!

https://forms.gle/KTt8UZEMA8ipHreTA

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin!

Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony

Contact: If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected].

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com

 

In the final episode of 2025, Megan and Steven discuss the surprising reasons why it may or may not be a good idea for you to consider dating a single parent. Spoiler: if you're avoiding it entirely, you could be missing out! Thanks to everyone for listening this year. 

2024 End-of-Year Sale: You can get 40% of your Apostolic Matchmaking Consultation by applying the code: LONELY_SNOW_MORE at checkout, or by clicking this link: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/ppk4uQTu?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

This promotion will end on December 31st, so sign up now!

If you would like to purchase a gift card for your loved one, you can do so here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/T6i4GScv?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

Apostolic and Single? Take the "From Singles, to Shepherds" survey now!

https://forms.gle/KTt8UZEMA8ipHreTA

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin!

Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony

Contact: If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected].

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com

Apostolic and Single? Take the "From Singles, to Shepherds" survey now!

https://forms.gle/KTt8UZEMA8ipHreTA

In this episode, Megan and Steven introduce what may be the largest initiative they've undertaken to understand the Apostolic single experience. We'll be using the survey above to gather as much data as we can about the impact of Loneliness on our Singles, and the consequent impact on the Church as a whole. Please copy the link and share it with anyone in your network who is also Apostolic and single! The survey is entirely free, and we will be sharing the results of the survey for free with Leaders and Singles once it has been collected and analyzed. Every response counts! Please only respond to the survey one time. 

2024 End-of-Year Sale: You can get 40% of your Apostolic Matchmaking Consultation by applying the code: LONELY_SNOW_MORE at checkout, or by clicking this link: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/ppk4uQTu?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

This promotion will end on December 31st, so sign up now!

If you would like to purchase a gift card for your loved one, you can do so here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/T6i4GScv?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin!

Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony

Contact: If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected].

 

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com

The holidays are rough if you're a Single Apostolic person OR a feral South Florida iguana, and we're here to support you in either case. In this short and sweet episode, Megan and Steven talk some tips for making it through the holidays without falling into temptation or angering the wildlife.

2024 End-of-Year Sale: You can get 40% of your Apostolic Matchmaking Consultation by applying the code: LONELY_SNOW_MORE at checkout, or by clicking this link: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/ppk4uQTu?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

This promotion will end on December 31st, so sign up now!

If you would like to purchase a gift card for your loved one, you can do so here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/T6i4GScv?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin!

Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony

Contact: If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected].

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com

How easy is it to meet someone at Bible College? How does it feel to date as an Apostolic after dating in the World? How likely are you to meet someone at your national youth events? Are there any great singles left in the Church? These are just a few of the questions we cover with the five young Singles we chatted with at ALJC National Youth Convention. Special thanks to Connor, Sarah, Emmanuel, Logan, and Brandon for spending time with us! 

2024 End-of-Year Sale:

You can get 40% of your Apostolic Matchmaking Consultation by applying the code: LONELY_SNOW_MORE at checkout, or by clicking this link: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/ppk4uQTu?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

This promotion will end on December 31st, so sign up now!

If you would like to purchase a gift card for your loved one, you can do so here:

https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/T6i4GScv?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin! Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony

Contact: If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected].

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com

Our end of year sale launches FRIDAY, 11/29! Scroll for details.

Does using a matchmaker subvert the will of God? In this special interview, Megan and Steven sit down with Pastor and Apostolic thought-leader Rev. Jimmy Toney, who happens to also be their shepherd. Get ready for lots of laughs, some unfiltered opinions, and a wealth of wisdom on how the Church can address loneliness and build Kingdom families for His glory. Special thanks to Pastor Toney for his time!

If you are a pastor or Singles' leader and would like to contact Pastor Toney for more insight into The Synchrony Project, please reach out to us at [email protected] so we can put you in touch with him.

2024 End-of-Year Sale:

You can get 40% of your Apostolic Matchmaking Consultation by applying the code: LONELY_SNOW_MORE at checkout, or by clicking this link: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/ppk4uQTu?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

This promotion will end on December 31st, so sign up now!

If you would like to purchase a gift card for your loved one, you can do so here:

https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/T6i4GScv?coupon_code=LONELY_SNOW_MORE

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin! Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony

Contact: If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected].

Timestamps:

00:00 Beginning
03:53 Introducing Pastor Toney
05:18 Hist. of Pastor Toney's Ministry
08:18 The Impact of Loneliness in the Church
11:32 Advice for the Single Season
15:18 How to Involve Your Pastor in Your Search
20:04 How Synchrony Supports Pastors
23:05 Is Matchmaking Against God's Will?
29:02 Matchmaking Isn't a Silver Bullet
31:11 Letting Church Be Church
35:53 Why We Made the #synchpin
39:06 Healthy Marriage, Healthy Church
44:31 Unpacking "Equally Yoked"
48:21 Pastor Talks to Pastors
53:38 Final Opinions on Synchrony
56:23 End of Year Sale Announcement!

 

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com

So you've been "talking" for weeks now, and all signs seem to point to the fact that both of you want more. How do you take this new relationship into "official" territory? In this episode, Steven and Megan break down the healthy, adult conversation that can propel your connection into a dating relationship.

Interested in working with an Apostolic Matchmaker? Sign Up for Matchmaking @ https://synchronyproject.com

Resources and Sales:

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin! Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony

Contact: If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected].

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com

We've romanticized the idea of being swept off our feet by one look across a crowded room, but sometimes love blossoms more slowly, with better results. In this episode, Megan and Steven are joined by their dear friends Rev. Jennifer Peyton and Rev. Johnnie Peyton (EdD), whose commitment to their values of ministry and spiritual education drew them together gradually. Their story bucks all of the trends and is a great example of how values-driven dating can equip you for a marriage capable of great work for the Kingdom and each other. Special thanks to Jen and Johnnie for hanging out with us!

Interested in working with an Apostolic Matchmaker? Sign Up for Matchmaking @ https://synchronyproject.com  

Resources and Sales: 

#Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration  

These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in public spaces and create better connections. Register and pay shipping and we will mail you your own pin! Synchrony Community Members: You don't have to pay for shipping! See the Community space to give us your address and we'll mail you one absolutely free.  

Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to access the course for free). https://the-synchrony-project.mykajab...  

Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/opt-in-d5ca0b81-abe1-4190-88ec-cb038489ca6a  

Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends at Kaffe117 when you put the code "Synchrony" into the checkout, or use the following link: https://kaffe117.com/discount/Synchrony  

Contact:  If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or at [email protected].

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit synchronyproject.substack.com