The Undone

It's our 50th episode! So we thought we'd answer one of the questions Emily and Lucy are asked most: how does having a sex and dating podcast affect your dating life?

Plus, we discuss a very common dilemma amongst our listeners; what if you don't like your friend's partner? It's not an easy situation to navigate but we have some advice. And we're joined by Will McMahon from KIIS FM's drive show, Will & Woody, to hear about his worst date ever (and it's a cracker).

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This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

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Our confessions form (which you can submit to here) has been overflowing with hilarious stories lately, and there's one type of experience that we keep getting over and over...people vomiting on d**ks. It's inspired us to release this bumper episode on all things oral sex.

Lucy tells us about her first experience giving head (if you can call it that), plus we read some of our audiences funniest stories, before giving some tips for going down on both penis and vulva owners, sans vomit.

Finally, Em reads a Dating Diary story about someone who went on a date and ended up paying for it, dearly.

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This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

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Have you heard of 'meditative orgasms'? They're orgasms you can achieve with your mind, without touching your genitals at all. Emily gave it a go and the results were, well, explosive. She describes exactly how to achieve this "12/10 experience".

Plus, a tweet about the weirdest thing we've gotten in trouble for at work had Em and Lucy laughing, and reflecting on times they've gotten in trouble (perhaps deservedly) in the workplace, and Em reads an anonymous dating story from a listener who saw right through a first date's weird lie.

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This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

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On the 11th of October, it's the International Day of The Girl, our favourite day of the year. To celebrate, Emily and Lucy chat about advice they'd give their younger selves, from "you've got this", to "don't dye your sideburns".

Plus, what does your phone's note app say about you? Some people use it for shopping lists, but some of us use it to draft break up messages, write down their manifestations, or pass on silent messages to people. Em breaks down the four types of people based upon their phone notes.

And we read out an anonymous confession from a listener who's period sex ended up with her partner holding a pair of tongs...

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This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There are two types of friends, and Emily and Lucy are opposites. Emily believes in friendship minimalism; culling friends that don't spark joy. However Lucy disagrees, and reckons that friends from all walks of life can be valuable. Which one are you?

Plus, we dissect the '75 HARD' challenge that has been making the rounds on TikTok for what it really is; disordered eating. Lucy opens up about her experience in this area, and why this challenge is more dangerous than it seems.

And on Dating Diary, Emily reads an anonymous dating story about a bad date that had her crying laughing.

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CONTACT US

Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386

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This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/

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This week, we had a listener contact us about this feeling they had that this pandemic had stolen a huge part of their 20s, and we have to agree. Our 20s are meant to be a time of traveling, hooking up and making mistakes, so how do we reconcile the loss of that? And is there anything we've gained instead?

Also, we bring you a bumper recommendation segment of all our favourite sex accessories, from lube, to lingerie, to glass dildos and something called a Drip Stick. Plus, we hear a listener confession about a date that ended in a soggy bed and a pillow fort.

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Lucy's recommendations:
Womaniser x Love Honey Pro 40
LBDO Essensual Vibe
Rosewell Bend
REFLEX: QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX
Rosewell Conversation Cards
LBDO Essensual Lube
LBDO Essensual Oil
BASICS Slimline Butt Plug
Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo Set
Moments condoms
Shiver Condoms
Dora Larson
Bimbi and Roy

Em's recommendations:
Dripstick
Rice Bran Oil
Happy Rabbit Mini Ears Rechargeable Clitoral Vibrator

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This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/

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Most of the country has been in lockdown for a while now, but we don't want to stop dating or having sex, so we're resorting to dating on FaceTime. But it can be daunting. Lucy dated her boyfriend for months via FaceTime before meeting, so has some tips for breaking the ice when you're separated by a screen, plus some virtual date ideas and ways to get freaky via your phone.

We also discuss what happened when a prominent influencer and journalist posted an offensive story on her Instagram last week, and how she should have apologised, and Em tells the story of the first, and last time she tried getting kinky in the bedroom.

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This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/

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What makes you decide to hit that unfollow button on Instagram? With a certain big Australian influencer losing followers by the tens of thousands due to her anti-vax views, we thought we'd dive into what makes us switch off from wanting to see someone's content.

Plus, have you heard of the Girlboss? Well, she's dead. The girlboss was everywhere a few years ago, but after the fall of many high profile female CEOs, we're rejecting the girlboss for good.

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CONTACT US

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This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How many besties do you have? One, or a bunch? Emily is looking for her one true best friend, but Lucy reckons you can have as many as you want.

Plus, we discuss Instagram's move to get rid of it's 'swipe up' story feature for people with 10k+ followers and how it might (or might not) democratise the platform more, and we answer a listener confession from someone who is concerned that they haven't been in love by 22...

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Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville 

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If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected]

CONTACT US

Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386

Send us a voice memo to [email protected] 

This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Did you go through an 'awkward phase'? Usually between about 10 and 16, it might have involved questionable make up, clothes we thought were cool, and a stack of photos we wish we could bury.

But young Gen Z kids seem to be skipping this phase altogether thanks to social media, and we're not sure that's a good thing.

Plus, we discuss a feature on Tinder that asks people if they're sure before sending an abusive message, and Lucy and Em want to know if this is just protecting the wrong people, and we break down an anonymous confession from someone wondering if they're shallow after a date didn't meet basic hygiene standards.

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Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636.

Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9

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Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville 

Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide.

If you want to share your dating story email us at [email protected]

CONTACT US

Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386

Send us a voice memo to [email protected] 

This episode was produced by Emmeline Peterson 

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.