Originally Recorded 2/11/22
Tony answers questions about the importance of working with a therapist that is familiar with emotional immaturity, or narcissistic traits and tendencies, and he shares listener stories of the positives and negatives of trying to attend couples therapy with a narcissist.
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[00:00:08] Hey, everybody. Welcome to episode twenty three of Waking
[00:00:11] Up the narcissism, I'm your host, Tony Overbay.
[00:00:13] I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Virtual Couch podcast, and today we're going to talk a little bit more about therapy. I turn to my
[00:00:21] Private women's Facebook group and ask the question about what people's experience
[00:00:26] Has been with therapy and are there therapists that they would recommend as there? Have they
[00:00:30] Been as just individuals
[00:00:32] Or as couples? And the group never disappoints?
[00:00:35] There's some, some amazing examples and stories and suggestions and that sort of thing, so we're going to get to some real examples today. I feel like the most feedback
[00:00:42] I receive is from people hearing these examples because they feel heard and understood
[00:00:47] And feel like they're not alone and they have a lot of these similar
[00:00:49] Experiences. But before we even dove
[00:00:51] Into the the emails, the Facebook posts, I wanted to talk about another
[00:00:57] Concept that was shared on the group
[00:00:59] And someone there's a
[00:01:01] Lot of people share memes,
[00:01:03] And I used to think that a meme was just something that always had to be funny. But by definition, a meme is something that does deliver information. So someone shared a
[00:01:12] Meme that said as a result of
[00:01:14] Trauma, you may have. And then it has a
[00:01:17] List kept secrets. We're mature for your age, pushed people away.
[00:01:21] Learn how to sense danger, engaged
[00:01:23] In self-destructive behaviors, barely ever trust anybody or pretended to be OK when you weren't.
[00:01:28] And I just was was just, I think, waiting for some laundry last night and I just jumped on and I just commented just a little bit impulsively that
[00:01:37] That mature for your age is a
[00:01:39] Fascinating one.
[00:01:40] Because when you're told that you're an old soul when you
[00:01:43] Are young, it typically means that you've had to protect yourself, often because you weren't protected. And there's been a couple of people that have commented and agreed.
[00:01:49] And I remember seeing that hearing that at a training
[00:01:52] Once where the concept of someone feeling like an old soul that it can be viewed by adults as,
[00:01:58] Oh, that's endearing.
