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- Your Kink Your Safety and What You Need to KnowA listener asks about political changes in the US and asks how to stay safe.
The specific question involves feminization and crossdressing but it applies to all of us in these various communities:
LGBTQ+
Kinksters and crossdressers
Pro Dommes and sex workers
Adult entertainment creators
And all of those who are participants in or consumers of adult entertainment.
(basically all of us)
The Femdom hosts talk about:
Current laws blocking pornhub
Online safety - in general and specifically for kinksters
Privacy online - in general and for those looking for porn
Safety tips when being en femme in public
We hope these tips are useful.
If you have other suggestions, please get in touch and pass them on.
Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress
MsOlivia on BlueSky
Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy
ErikaEnchantrix on BlueSky
Enchantrix Empire - free adult social networking site run by LDW / Enchantrix37 min - So you want to be a service submissive. What does that mean to a Femdom Mistress?Every Femdom hears this: “Mistress I want to serve you.” What does that mean?
There are many ways for a sub to serve a Mistress. There is no arbitrary ‘right’ way to have a D/s relationship. Part of BDSM negotiation means making sure that each person is in agreement about roles, expectations, activities, etc.
Topics in this podcast episode include:
The difference between fantasy BDSM roleplay and lifestyle kink relationships.
A discussion of some things that help different people to feel submissive.
The role of chastity, orgasm denial and/or suffering for your Mistress.
Does a service submissive automatically mean sexual service?
What are some non-sexual things that a service sub provides?
Since your podcast hosts do Distance Domination, the role of a service sub is a little different but the fundamentals are the same as an in person play partner.
What can someone do for their Goddess?
The ladies have some specific suggestions:
Visit our blogs and stay on the blog for at least 3 minutes, click on several pages, staying on each page for several minutes.
Write comments on our blogs
Follow us on social media; comment on and share our posts.
What does the sub get out of serving a Mistress?
Hear what other submissives say about being a service sub.
Have you ever wanted to be a real service sub?
What does that phrase mean to you?
Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress
Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy32 min - Do trans women get you horny?We hear all your secrets and sexual fantasies. A lot of our callers fantasize about sex with a transwoman. Today’s episode explores this.
Topics include:
How popular is the sex with a transwoman fantasy?
Many men ask, am I straight if I want to suck the cock of a transwoman?
To start off, a quick overview of names for transwomen and how to be respectful with the terms you use to talk about these people.
For example, some of the outdated and terms are:
She male
Tranny
Transvestite
T girl
Transsexual
This conversation covers:
Gender identity, sexual orientation, sexual desires
What to call genitalia?
What is cis gender?
BDSM, erotic humiliation and submission.
The role of a Femdom or Dominant woman who says, you will suck her cock for me.
You’ll hear quotes from men who want to suck the cock of a transwoman, a transwoman who experienced her first sexual experience with another transwoman, and so much more.
Do YOU have a fantasy of being with a transwoman?
What is your fantasy?
Have you done this in person? What happened?
We want to hear everything!
Mistress Oliviai’s blog: Experienced Mistress
Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy
Our free adult social networking site: Enchantrix Empire30 min - What does it mean to be submissive?This episode is inspired by a blog post written by our friend and fellow Mistress, Ms Demi.
Listen in as three Pro Domme’s talk about the submissives in our lives. What do Femdoms have to say about power exchange and those who need to submit to powerful, dominant women?
Mistress Olivia kicks off the conversation with a quote by Mistress Demi:
“Submission isn’t merely about obeying orders or bending to another’s will. It’s a profound journey into the depths of one’s own desires. Learning to trust, to yield, and to find freedom in the embrace of another’s dominance.”
Topics include:
BDSM and trust between the Dominant and the submissive.
The difference between a fantasy roleplay BDSM scene and wanting to be a lifestyle submissive.
The importance of BDSM communication.
How to do BDSM negotiation of needs, desires, and limits.
What are the five words that you should never say to a Femdom?
The answer might really surprise you.
The ladies dispel the myth that submissives are weak or damaged. Submissives must have power in order for there to be power exchange.
Is submission a gift to the Domme?
What do these women think of those who submit?
Lots of insight into the submissive journey from the perspective of three Femdoms (who are always, of course, right about everything LOL).
Mistress Demi’s blog: Sensual Cock Tease
Ms Demi’s blog post that in
spired this episode: What Does It Mean To Be Submissive?
Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy
Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress31 min - How to talk to your partner about crossdressing, feminization, and sissy desires
Today’s episode is inspired by a listener who wants help talking with a partner about feminization desires. Anita wants us to say something that will change the minds of wives or girlfriends who don’t like feminization with their partner.
We don’t know that we can change minds, but this episode covers topics like:
What do cisgender, heterosexual women think about crossdressers or sissies?
What might be going on in the minds of the cis female partners?
Here are some of the questions female partners of crossdressers might have:
My boyfriend wears lingerie, what does that mean?
Does wearing women’s clothes mean he is gay or bi?
If I encourage him to explore his femme side, will he leave me?
What does this desire to be a submissive sissy mean for us as a couple?
How does a woman attracted to men feel about a partner who wants to dress as a woman?
Other topics include:
The difference between Drag Queens, crossdressers and sissies.
Why do both of your Femdom hosts like crossdressers, sissies and men in panties?
How to have conversations about erotic desires, boundaries and intimacy.
Have you tried to talk with your female partner about feminization?
What happened?
If you haven’t had that kind of talk but you want to then this episode will hopefully help you have that conversation.
Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress
Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy32 min - It’s LOCKTOBER: are you ready for chastity?Basically, Locktober is a month-long chastity challenge. Typically, it involves those who identify as submissive and wear a chastity cage the entire month of October. This episode is about orgasm delay, orgasm denial, chastity training, and why a Femdon enjoys having a chastity pet.
Topics include:
What is chastity?
What is Locktober?
Why would someone want to go a full month without an orgasm?
Can you participate in Locktober if you can’t or don’t want to go a whole month without an orgasm?
Does Loctober always require a chastity cage?
Are there ways to experience orgasm denial without a cage?
What is chastity by will?
What is Mistress Olivia’s workaround when someone can’t wear a chastity cage?
How to use Locktober to break bad habits like chronic masturbation or to install good habits like achieving fitness or other personal goals.
What is panty chastity?
How to use chastity as part of sissy training or feminization.
How to someone in a very small chastity cage to emphasize the emasculation of a sissy.
This episode is all about submission, cock control, and the various ways a Femdon can use chastity for some wicked fun. If you’re curious about Locktober, chastity or sissy training using denial, this episode is for you!
Previous episodes about chastity:
Chastity Interview with Mature Metal
How do I get my vanilla wife to put me in chastity? Meet Mrs. Mature Metal
Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced Mistress
Mistress Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone Fantasy
Enchantrix Empire: our free adult social networking site26 min - Are you worried about topping from the bottom? BDSM advice from your Femdom hosts.We hear from a lot of subs who are worried about topping from the bottom.
That’s a BDSM term that means a submissive who flips the power dynamic in a way that is disrespectful, rude or otherwise irritating to the Dominant.
Some subs hear that and worry that they are topping from the bottom if they make ANY requests of the Domme. We don’t want you to worry so this episode is all about how to communicate your needs to your Femdom Mistress.
This is inspired by someone who wants to know how to request a Pro Domme to be creative without acting like he is trying to be “in charge” of the session.
Topics include:
What is topping from the bottom?
Some relationship dynamics and other issues to consider when deciding what is bad BDSM behavior from a submissive.
Insight into the role of vulnerability and trust in BDSM power exchange relationships.
How to communicate with a Dominatrix or Femdom Mistress
Differences in communication with a Pro Domme versus an unpaid kink player that you meet in BDSM circles.
Differences between fantasy submission and power exchange.
Your Femdom hosts give examples of how to communicate your desires in appropriate ways.
Remember communication, trust and honesty about what you need are the most important aspects of any BDSM relationship. This podcast will give you some of the tools to feel confident that you are not topping from the bottom.
Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced Mistress
Mistress Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone Fantasy35 min - Power, money, BDSM, and Femdom: interview with author Jane Boon
We continue our conversation with author Jane Boon. Jane’s first novel Edge Play is about an investment banker who becomes a Pro Domme via her Pro Domme friend Erika … and this second book focuses on Erika.
Both books show women coming into their own personal power. Jane Boon tells a lively, interesting story and even without our favorite Femdom and BDSM themes, this is a very fun read. This interview episode focuses on the themes of: lust, power and money.
Why does a smart, capable woman become a Femdom?
What attracts someone to BDSM and kink power exchange situations?
For the submissive, why would someone want to be on the receiving end of BDSM play?
How can a submissive service his Femdom outside of the kink?
What is submissive service?
Can BDSM be a kind of therapy for some people?
What does it mean to call Femdom scenes, performance art?
This is a conversation about extremes of emotions interspersed with personal experiences of three very smart women. Enjoy! And, get the book!
Here’s the Amazon Author page for Jane Boon.
Jane Boon’s website
Mistress Olivia’s website Experienced Mistress
Mistress Erika’s website Intelligent Phone Fantasy40 min - What happens after Edge Play? Author Jane Boon tells us about her new BDSM novel Bold StrokesMoney, power and sex … specifically kinky sex … are the themes of today’s episode with author Jane Boon. Jane is the author of the Femdom themed novel Edge Play and today she’s here to talk about her newest novel Bold Strokes.
We highly recommend both of Jane's books. In fact, if you’re submissive, here’s your order: “Read Edge Play and Bold Strokes by Jane Boon and report back.” Even if you’re not submissive, do yourself a favor and read them. You’re welcome.
Edge Play is a novel about Amy, an investment banker turned Dominatrix. The novel is set amongst the greed and arrogance of Wall Street elites and the 2008 financial crash. One of the main themes is a young woman coming into her own power after being mentored by her best friend who is an Art Gallery owner and Pro Domme.
In the new novel, Bold Strokes, the settings of the art world, high finance and even higher intensity BDSM scenes lets the reader get to know Erika, the gallery owner / Pro Domme.
How did she become who she is and what happened to her during the same timeframe as the first book told from Amy's perspective.
Some of the themes are:
How does a woman become a Femdom?
What is the mindset of someone who is a Dominatrix?
Who are some of the men that love to be tormented by the power, beauty and cruelty of a Dominant woman?
Negotiation and consent in BDSM relationships
Sex work, sex workers and the inherent imbalance of power between powerful men and young women.
This is a wonderful novel and the kink makes it even more fun. Bold Strokes is an exciting read with unforgettable characters.
Here’s the Amazon Author page for Jane Boon.
Jane Boon’s website
Mistress Olivia’s website Experienced Mistress
Mistress Erika’s website Intelligent Phone Fantasy34 min - What makes a sissy purge? And how to avoid crossdresser purging cycles.
This episode is inspired by a question from a crossdresser but we hear many people in the kink community talk about the impulse to throw away sex toys and other kinky things.
Why?
Well, anyone who is into things that aren’t considered ‘mainstream’ can feel the wrong kind of shame or fear of being discovered by family, friends or work associates.
The Femdom hosts will share personal stories of self-acceptance as kinky dominant women and how this podcast started as a way to dispel myths about BDSM, kink, and feminization.
This includes conversations about how crossdressing can give someone access to feelings or behavior that aren’t accepted when in guy mode.
This episode covers emotional or psychological questions like:
Why does someone who loves women want to crossdress or act like a woman?
Does throwing out everything related to your feminization or kink ever work?
Will a decision to stop being a sissy ever last long term?
Why does the urge to crossdress come back even stronger after purging?
Is there a way to process the guilt or come to terms with the wrong kind of shame associated with something that is a huge part of your psyche?
For those into sissy play and feminization, the binge and purge cycle can run into thousands of dollars and causes endless frustration. How to avoid the urge to purge?
Practical tips include:
Understanding why you want to dress in women’s lingerie or women’s clothes.
How to identify when societal teaching is needlessly holding you back.
Learning when and why you want to dress in order to identify where you are in your cycle.
How to find a community that will accept and support you.
How to put away rather than throw away - ie get a storage locker!
If you’ve ever felt alone in your desires, this episode is for you. You’re not alone, you’re not crazy and we get it!
Ms Olivia’s blog Experienced Mistress
Ms Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone Fantasy
Free adult social networking site Enchantrix Empire34 min
About The Weekly Hot Spot / The Psychology of Alternative Relationships and Power Dynamics
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Explore the psychology of intimacy, erotic control, and intentional relationships with experienced hosts Mistress Olivia…
and Ms. Erika. Featuring expert guests and candid discussions, the show provides deep insights ranging from psychological discussions to practical lifestyle advice, uncovering the secrets of modern power exchange. Connect with us at weeklyhotspot.com. Episodes drop Mondays at 1 PM EST.
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