What is spirituality? Does it have to be a religion, or can it be something less structured? Beyond that, if we choose to, how can we bring together our spirituality and our inner ethical slut? There are many ways for us to connect with each other beyond our physical form, but is non-monogamy excluded from that?

Abbie and Antonio discuss happiness, the link between spirituality and non-monogamy, religion, communities, social norms, attachment, and the likeness between reason and spirituality.

How does spirituality play a role in non-monogamy? Do we let it guide us or is it something that we have to separate? Some of us are religious, some are spiritual, and others are atheists, but whatever we are, we cannot separate our brains from our bodies, nor can we separate our souls from the rest of ourselves. It’s up to us to determine how much it affects us in all of our relationships.

Abbie and Antonio discuss the search for a new therapist, different forms of communication, their religious backgrounds, spirituality, core values, attachment, and spirituality in tandem with non-monogamy.

When do we decide to move on from a relationship? It isn't quantifiable, because once we start thinking in terms of points, the relationship is already declining. Yet defining the quality of a relationship is tricky as well. Do we break things off when someone does one particular action that hurts us or goes against our values? Is it how they make you feel? Is it a combination of these things? There's so much to consider when making this tough decision. The key here is perspective. Would we let a friend do this? What would we say to our friend if they were going through something similar? Step back and reframe what is already there, and the answer will become clearer.

Abbie and Antonio discuss anxiety, desire for control, therapy, defining limits to a relationship, safe spaces, communication, honest vulnerability, and being true to yourself.

We all need a relationship where we feel safe. Whether that's a community, friend, family member, or paid service, we need some sort of safe haven to help us handle negative emotions that can come up. This person should be someone that genuinely wants what's best for us, not liking the image of us. These people provide the structure and security that we need and crave as humans. Without tapping into our support systems, we tend to bottle everything up until we explode, making a mess and sometimes ruining those relationships that we have come to foster. Not only do we need these people, but we also need to be comfortable sharing ourselves with these people.

Abbie and Antonio talk about therapy, creating and sharing safe spaces for each other, polyamorous relationships, how people make you feel, secrets, and honesty.

Meeting people “in real life” can feel intimidating and tricky. It can even feel like people don’t do that anymore, only meeting people through friends or dating apps. But even with these options, it can be hard to connect with people when everyone is stuck in their own lives/routines. If we take a chance to meet someone new at a coffee shop, bar, or flea market, we might make a connection with someone we never would’ve met otherwise.

Abbie and Antonio talk about meeting people, dating in LA, dating apps (again), benefits of clear communication, body dysmorphia, self criticism, and three-ways.

When people ask us personal questions, we can give pretty vague answers. For example, when someone asks us how we’re doing, we can quickly respond that we’re good or okay without giving it much thought. However, short answers don’t always allow space for vulnerability and intimacy to flourish. Only when we’re honest with ourselves and others can we build connections. On the flip side, it's important to be respectful of others' boundaries and comfort levels.

Abbie and Antonio discuss the fine line between being vulnerable and oversharing, being guarded, shame, guilt, non-monogamy and developing intimacy quickly.

Sex - or play - is a very human experience. We all have sexual desires that we can choose to act upon and participate in with others. Play is different for so many people, but at times we can feel disassociated or get distracted by the world, feeling out of it in the moment. And because of this, we can sometimes ask ourselves "How am I supposed to feel during sex?"

Abbie and Antonio discuss what sex feels like for them, how we can be affected by the world during sex, disassociating during sex, and how to find ways to get back yourself back into the moment.

As children, we truly are sponges, absorbing the world at face value and trying to make sense of it all. There’s so much we don’t know and so much more we don’t know that we don’t know. Due to our learned behaviors and defenses, we may overlook the obvious. It's crucial to delve deeper while also remaining mindful not to over-identify with our projections.

Abbie and Antonio talk about families, kids, parenting (from an outsider’s perspective), projecting, abandonment, attachment, trauma, and solo adventures.

Consent is crucial to any dynamic. Consent means respecting not only others' boundaries but also your own, requiring space for communication for people to feel safe and heard. It's important to practice consent in everyday life with everyone - from partners to children - to create that sense of security and community that people deserve. And even when the status quo says that we can get away with less, we need to bring everyone up to a higher standard.

Abbie and Antonio discuss what consent means, practicing consent, communication, asking versus expecting, respecting boundaries, the human language used for expression, stereotypes within the status quo, and platonic intimacy.

As babies, we are self-centered; our thinking is limited to ourselves. However, as we grow up and experience more, we learn about others and the world around us. Despite this knowledge, we may still feel hurt when our loved ones don't prioritize us, even though they have their own lives and priorities. We cannot expect to always be at the forefront of everyone's thoughts, especially if we don't reciprocate the same consideration.

Abbie and Antonio discuss pain, the difference between being alone and feeling lonely, how perception influences our experiences, dealing with ex-partners, the joys and challenges of traveling, feeling homesick, the importance of letting go, and coping with abandonment.