We typically avoid hurtful things, emotions that are difficult & uncomfortable. And that is 100% normal, it's what we do to protect ourselves from harm.

BUT, I want you to look at it from a different perspective.  Notice that when we avoid the hard things, we are putting greater energy into the avoidance than we would be if we just dealt with it.

Keep listening for my explanation & why stepping into the hardness of that difficult thing is worth it.

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Your body's response to anxiety can be a multitude of things from heart palpitations to sweaty palms, nausea, or that pit in your stomach. All of those signs & symptoms serve a purpose.

It is your body's way of telling you that something is wrong, that there is a threat to your wellbeing.

A lot of us, when we get anxiety we tend to wish it away or think that we are broken in some way. But the problem isn't with you, having anxiety is not the problem.  The problem is the circumstances creating the experience of anxiety in your body.

🌟 Continue listening to learn how you can resolve anxiety when it arises.

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By getting rid of the idea of a 'failed' relationship you are helping yourself move forward.

When a relationship comes to an end we usually fall back on the idea that "the relationship failed" or "my marriage was a failure".

It's this idea that relationship success is measured by longevity - how long it lasted.

But today, I want you to think about how you can redefine this idea. Because longevity is not a measure of a successful relationship.

There is SO much more to take away from it instead of disregarding and labeling it as a failure.

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Do you remember the so-called "Honeymoon phase" with your partner?

You know, the phase where you actually dedicated time to hang out & get to know each other intentionally? What happened?

Some might say life happened, but life is always happening no matter if we are in a relationship, dating, or doing the single thing. What happened, was this assumption that once we were in a relationship intimacy would just keep happening.

But here's the thing, intimacy doesn't just happen. To have intimacy there has to be intention. And the problem with intimacy in most relationships is that it's not happening with intention. There is no scheduling, there is no mindset around "I'm giving my full attention to you", it's kinda left in hopes of managing and building itself.

My biggest tip to you, if intimacy is an issue in your relationship, is to schedule it in!

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Toxic positivity refers to the movement around everything being positive no matter what. It's when we take our challenges, hardships, and struggles & turn them into this positive always learning opportunity.

But the problem with this is that we aren't sitting in our own vulnerability & acknowledging the depth of the pain & hurt we are going through.

We aren't allowing reflection & rest to happen.

In today's Coffee Talk I encourage you to shift your perspective. To avoid the saying "everything happens for a reason" & instead think about your life in seasons.

And remembering that what is hard right now, does not mean it is going to be hard forever.

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The victim OR drama triangle is an important tool we can use in communication.

It can help us establish communication roles, where we stand, and how we can step out of certain situations that try to pull us into a certain role.

Keep listening for a detailed explanation.

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Growth requires leaning into discomfort. It requires you to have hard conversations with others & with yourself.

Growth & change have NEVER occurred by remaining stagnant. By doing the same thing over & over.

Yes, it's hard, yes it's uncomfortable. But that is the point. In discomfort, we learn more about ourselves & about others, about the world around us. And from that, we can learn to grow, change, evolve.

We were made for discomfort because we were made for growth. Lean into the discomfort & see what the potential learning & growth there might be.

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Conflict in a relationship doesn't need to be unhealthy, with fighting fair rules in place you can actually have healthy conflict conversations that help the relationship grow, help bring trust into the relationship, and help each person grow as individuals.

As humans, we all have different views, different opinions, values, and beliefs. This is normal. It's not about who's right or wrong. It's about hearing each other out and learning more about each other. Have these conversations about conflict, not in times of conflict but in times of peace.

Start by saying "let's set up some rules of engagement around fighting fair"...

*Remind yourself that feelings take time to resolve. After a conflict has been resolved those feelings may still be there or they may go away quickly - it depends on the person, everyone is different. If you need space or time to resolve on your own tell your spouse or partner this.