Think Fast Talk Smart: Communication Techniques

“What people regret over time are things they didn’t do. They didn’t take that trip, they didn’t ask that person out on a date. They didn’t start that business,” says former political speechwriter and author Dan Pink. “I think it’s because we are slightly over-indexed on risk. We overstate the risk in many circumstances.”

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, strategic communications lecturer Matt Abrahams sits down with Pink to hear how we can take more risks and how leaders can inspire others by focusing on the why instead of the how. “There’s almost incontrovertible evidence that a sense of purpose is the most cost-effective performance enhancer that organizations have,” Pink says.

Episode Reference Links:

• Dan Pink
• Dan's Book: The Power of Regret, Drive
• Original Episode: Ep.92 No Regrets: How to Take Risks in Your Communication, Relationships, and Career
• Ep.103 Simple Is a Superpower: How to Communicate Any Idea to Any Audience
• Ep.80 Magic Words: Change What You Say to Inspire and Influence Others

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In our personal and professional lives, some conversations are harder than others. To navigate the difficulties of discussing what matters most, Professor Irv Grousbeck says we need the right balance of conviction and compassion.

At both Stanford Graduate School of Business and Stanford School of Medicine, Grousbeck teaches courses on managing difficult conversations. He equips students with skills to be direct while being respectful, to be strong while being warm, and to resist any urge to beat around the bush. "Directness, with respect, is essential,” he says. "So many of our students feel that if you're direct with someone, somehow that's harsh. The art of good conversation management, I think, does involve directness and respect at the same time."

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Grousbeck and host Matt Abrahams explore practical tips and strategies for navigating difficult conversations, from the importance of listening and pausing, to the value of rehearsing your words in advance.

Episode Reference Links:

• Irv Grousbeck
• Irv’s Book: New Business Ventures and the Entrepreneur 
• Center for Entrepreneurial Studies | Stanford Graduate School of Business

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Innovation and disruption aren’t just for organizations. According to Whitney Johnson, we can find new possibilities for personal and professional growth — by disrupting ourselves.

As an executive coach, author, and podcaster, Johnson teaches people how to level up their lives and careers through the power of personal disruption. Her book, Disrupt Yourself: Putting the Power of Disruptive Innovation to Work, reveals how shaking things up enables us to break free of the constraints we might not even know we’re imposing on ourselves. “Personal disruption [is] a process of deliberate self-innovation; a decision to step back from who you are to slingshot into who you can be,” she explains.

In this Think Fast, Talk Smart episode with host Matt Abrahams, Johnson offers strategies for tailoring messages to different audiences, reveals the key ingredients for successful communication, and explains how disrupting yourself can open new doors and help you reach your full potential.

Episode Reference Links:

• Whitney Johnson
• Whitney’s Book: Disrupt Yourself: Putting the Power of Disruptive Innovation to Work
• Whitney’s Podcast: Disrupt Yourself Podcast 
• Ep.118 Maximizing Your Personal Brand: Communicating Who You Are to Help Get What You Want
• Ep.138 Speak Your Truth: Why Authenticity Leads to Better Communication

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Stress can get in the way of our communication with others. To manage our stress, psychologist Jenny Taitz says, we first need to adjust the conversations that we have with ourselves.

Taitz is an assistant clinical professor in psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles, and the author of several books, including Stress Resets: How to Soothe Your Body and Mind in Minutes. According to her, much of the stress we experience is self-created through negative thought patterns and harsh self-criticism. “We're doing this to ourselves all the time,” she says. But as we become aware of these unhelpful mental loops, Taitz’ “resets” can help us disrupt them and reframe self-talk in more productive ways

In addition to changing our self-talk, Taitz offers tools for refreshing our communication with others. In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, she and host Matt Abrahams explore her G.I.V.E. framework — how being gentle, interested, validating, and easy-mannered equips us for more positive conversations with ourselves and others

Episode Reference Links:

• Jenny Taitz
• Jenny’s Book: Stress Resets 
• Ep.69 Feeling Nervous? How Anxiety Can Fuel Better Communication
• Ep.122 How To Be More Confident and Calm in Your Communication: Managing the "ABC’s" of Communication Anxiety 

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Whether we realize it or not, we negotiate everyday. But when we approach these situations as a win-or-lose battle, we’re already showing resistance, and setting ourselves up for difficulty. But what if you reframed the whole idea, to think of a negotiation not as a fight, but as a problem-solving exercise involving emotions?

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Matt Abrahams speaks with Stanford GSB Professor Emeritus Margaret Neale about what she has learned in her decades of researching negotiation and the steps that lead to more collaborative problem-solving. 

Listen as Neale shares tips on how to approach negotiations with intention, and what strategies can help us more easily communicate our wants and needs. She is the coauthor of Getting (More of) What You Want: How the Secrets of Economics and Psychology Can Help You Negotiate Anything, in Business and in Life.

Episode Reference Links:

• Margaret Ann Neale 
• Margaret's Book: Getting (More of) What You Want
• Original Episode: Ep.15 The Art of Negotiation: How to Get More of What You Want

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Many of us would rank getting along with colleagues as an important aspect of work, but, as Amy Gallo explains, relationships devoid of disagreement can actually be less productive. 

“While our natural human instinct is to avoid conflict, I believe that conflicts are not only an inevitable part of interacting with other humans, but they're a necessary part.”

Gallo is a workplace expert, host of HBR’s Women at Work podcast, and the author of Getting Along: How to Work With Anyone. Across her work, Gallo touts that the key to transforming conflicts into something productive is to understand its root cause and learn how to reframe them. 

“Even at the base of those unhealthy conflicts or those unproductive conflicts is something that needs to be resolved,” she says. 

In her conversation with host and strategic communications lecturer Matt Abrahams, Gallo provides useful frameworks and new concepts on how we can approach conflicts at work.  

Episode Reference Links:

• Amy Gallo
• Amy Gallo’s Book: Getting Along: How to Work With Anyone
• Amy Gallo’s Podcast: Women at Work
• Ep.132 Lean Into Failure: How to Make Mistakes That Work

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In choosing who to date, what job to pursue, or how to invest our money, most people are just looking for a reason to move forward. But according to Professor Ilya Strebulaev, we should be looking for something else: a reason to bail.

"The smartest venture capitalists ask a very different question from what most of us ask," says Strebulaev. Instead of asking “‘Why should we invest?’, venture capitalists approach every new opportunity with [the] question: Why should we not proceed?” This contrarian mindset is at the heart of Strebulaev's new book The Venture Mindset, which reveals how the strategies of top VCs can help anyone make sharper decisions. 

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Strebulaev joins host Matt Abrahams to discuss how the venture mindset can help anyone — investor or not — weigh alternatives, make decisions, and move forward without looking back.

Episode Reference Links:

• Ilya Strebulaev
• Ilya’s Book: The Venture Mindset 
• Ep.41 Speak Like a Founder: How Successful Entrepreneurs Communicate to Their Teams
• Ep.56 Lean Messaging: How Simple Messages Really Stick

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A special live edition from the Me2We event at Stanford, where strategic communications expert and podcast host Matt Abrahams joins four distinguished faculty members from Stanford Graduate School of Business:

• Michelle Gelfand explores the dynamics of cross-cultural organizational behavior.
• Brian Lowery discusses the societal implications of racial perceptions.
• Deborah Gruenfeld reveals insights into power dynamics and personal presence.
• Zakary Tormala delves into the nuances of persuasive language.

Episode Reference Links:

• Michelle Gelfand’s Book: Rule Makers, Rule Breakers: How Tight and Loose Cultures Wire Our World 
• Michelle Gelfand's Tight-Loose Quiz
• Brian Lowery’s Book: Selfless: The Social Creation of "You" 
• Deborah Gruenfeld’s Book: Acting With Power: Why We Are More Powerful Than We Believe 
• Ep.67 What is Normal? How Culture Affects Communication Styles
• Ep.84 Quick Thinks: How Others Define Us
• Ep.11 The Science of Influence: How to Persuade Others and Hold Their Attention
• Ep.12 It’s Not What You Say It’s How You Say It: How to Communicate Power 

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So you want to lead your team toward innovation. Does that require that you know where you’re going? Not according to Linda Hill.

Hill is a professor of business administration at Harvard Business School whose research focuses on leadership and how organizations achieve innovation. When it comes to generating breakthrough ideas, Hill says it’s less about a creative vision and more about stepping into the unknown. “Innovation [is] not about an individual coming up with a new idea,” she says. “Instead, innovation is the result of the collaboration of people with diverse expertise and diverse perspectives coming together, being able to collaborate, being able to experiment together and learn.”

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Hill and host Matt Abrahams discuss how leaders can foster cultures and environments where innovation thrives — where teams use communication and collaboration to “co-create the future.”

Episode Reference Links:

• Linda Hill
• Linda's books: Collective Genius / Being the Boss / Becoming a Manager

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Preparing to speak in front of a skeptical audience is more than thinking about objections beforehand – there are specific techniques you can use to respond to these challenging situations without sounding defensive, evasive, or dismissive. Here, we offer a few key tips for how to handle skepticism with aplomb.

In this episode, host Matt Abrahams and Stanford GSB lecturer Burt Alper share how to prepare for these challenges from your audience and discuss the importance of tactics like acknowledging audience input, reframing responses, and how to remain cool, collected, and credible.

Episode Reference Links:

• Burt Alper
• Ep.102 Create a Presence: How to Communicate in a Way Others Can Feel
• Ep.70 Keep ’Em Coming: Why Your First Ideas Aren’t Always the Best
• Original Episode: Ep.5 From Monologue to Dialogue: How to Handle a Skeptical Audience

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