Eric and Marina Worre interview Tom Bilyeu, co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and the co-founder and host of Impact Theory, about his intriguing relationship theories. He talks about his worst ever fight with his wife Lisa - over a cup of tea - and reveals the number one predictor as to if you will be in the half of couples who get divorced or the half that stay together. (1:03:20)

Show Notes: 

00:00 - Eric introduces Tom.

01:41 - Tom explains why although he is actually a lone wolf, his relationship with his wife Lisa is the number one priority in his life.

05:26 - Tom talks about how the worst fight he and his wife Lisa ever had - over a cup of tea - led to a relationship breakthrough.

11:38 - Tom details how arguments between significant others are actually caused by each person’s insecurities and how realizing this and articulating it can improve the relationship. 

15:25 - Tom unveils how he and Lisa decide who wins an argument.

18:19 - Tom reveals his fascinating ideas about how to make a relationship work. 

19:31 - Tom divulges the number one predictor as to if you will be in the half of couples who get divorced or the half that stay together. 

23:44 - Eric shares what has worked for him and his wife Marina in their relationship.

28:32 - Tom discloses that he underwent ritualistic scarification when he got married and how marriage evolves over time and why it’s important to realize that going in.

34:56 - Tom explains what to do if only one person is willing to work on a relationship.

38:03 - Tom explains that we all have hidden values that we aren’t aware of and reveals how they affect us and our relationships.

46:44 - Tom tells us about how he thought 2022 was the best year ever while his wife Lisa felt it was the worst year of their marriage.

53:41 - Marina asks Tom to share his wife Lisa’s “couples playing tennis” analogy. 

59:21 - Tom wraps up by giving us some of his ideas for how to navigate working with our significant other.

Resources From This Podcast: 

The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell https://www.amazon.com/Power-Myth-Joseph-Campbell/dp/0385418868

Glossary of Terms:

Tragedy of the Commons: Refers to a situation in which individuals with access to a public resource (also called a common) act in their own interest and, in doing so, ultimately deplete the resource.

Steel Man Argument (or Steelmanning): Steelmanning is the practice of addressing the strongest form of the other person's argument, even if it's not the one they presented.

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