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“A scandal can be broadly defined as the strong social reactions of outrage, anger, or surprise, when accusations or rumours circulate or appear for some reason, regarding a person or persons who are perceived to have transgressed in some way a social norm. These reactions are usually noisy and may be conflicting, and they often have negative effects on the status and credibility of the person(s) or organization(s) involved. Society is scandalized when it becomes aware of breaches of moral norms or legal requirements, often when these have remained undiscovered or been concealed for some time. Such breaches have typically erupted from greed, lust, or the abuse of power. Scandals may be regarded as political, sexual, moral, literary, or artistic, but often spread from one realm into another. The basis of a scandal may be factual or false, or a combination of both.[1] In contemporary times, exposure of a scandalous situation is often made by mass media.

Contemporary media has the capacity to spread knowledge of a scandal further than in previous centuries and public interest has encouraged many cases of confected scandals relating to well-known people as well as genuine scandals relating to politics and business. Some scandals are revealed by whistleblowers who discover wrongdoing within organizations or groups, such as Deep Throat (William Mark Felt) during the Watergate scandal in the 1970s in the United States. Whistleblowers may be protected by laws which are used to obtain information of misdeeds and acts detrimental to their establishments.[2] However, the possibility of scandal has always created a tension between society's efforts to reveal wrongdoing and its desire to cover them up, and the act of covering up (or indeed of revealing) a contentious situation may become a scandal.” -Wikipedia

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“Primary emergency services

Primary emergency services are emergency services that provide basic emergency assistance and care. They can be summoned directly by the public. There are three primary emergency services and they are listed in the following order.

Police and law enforcement agencies – These agencies provide law enforcement, crime suppression and prevention, criminal investigation, and maintenance of public order. There are a variety of similar law enforcement agencies, such as gendarmerie, but police are the most common. In the United States there are State Police and Highway Patrol Agencies, County Sheriff and Local Police Departments and Federal Law Enforcement Agencies along with other law enforcement agencies.

Fire departments (or Fire Rescue Departments, Fire Protection Districts, etc.) – These agencies provide fire suppression and protection, fire prevention, special operations and technical rescue response services, emergency medical response services and hazardous materials mitigation.

Emergency Medical Services agencies or First Aid and Rescue Squad agencies – These agencies provide emergency medicine, patient transport, and technical rescue services. In some jurisdictions, specialized emergency services may be allowed to use emergency lights on their vehicles, often yellow or amber lights unless they are already part of a primary emergency service, in which case they typically use the emergency lighting configuration used by their respective emergency service.

Animal control service – Animal assistance, ensuring public safety around animals

Bomb squad – Bomb disposal, hazardous material disposal, weapons and munitions disposal

Border guard – Border control, border security, border protection

Bylaw enforcement – Enforcement of local ordinance

Civil defense – Disaster protection, wartime civilian protection, rescue aid

Coast guard – Maritime law enforcement and rescue within national waters

Conservation officer – Wildlife protection, wildlife law enforcement, hunting and fishing enforcement

Coroner – Death confirmation, cause of death identification

Medical examiner – Death investigation

Emergency management – Incident management, coordination in major emergencies

Firefighter – Rescue, fire suppression and prevention

Humanitarian aid – Basic aid and care for people in need

Incident response team – Specialized incident response

Lifeguards – Medical aid and rescue at pools, beaches, shorelines, dive spots

Military forces – National defense, internal security, emergency assistance (in certain situations and jurisdictions)

National Guard – Internal security

Paramedics – Medical aid, assistance and rescue of injured people

Park rangers – Law enforcement in parks and nature reserves

Poison control center – Advice on poison exposure

Police officer – Law enforcement, crime suppression, protection of the general public

Police tactical unit – Hostage rescue, counter-terrorism, dangerous situation resolution, combat

Prison officer – Law enforcement and first response within correctional facilities

Public utilities – Safeguarding and maintaining utilities and infrastructure

Public works – Assessing, cleaning, and repairing infrastructure

Roadside assistance – Aiding motorists in need of assistance, conducting vehicle maintenance and repairs

Search and rescue – Rescue of missing, trapped, or at-risk victims

Avalanche rescue - Rescue of victims in avalanches

Cave rescue – Rescue of victims in caves and underground areas

Mountain rescue – Rescue of victims on mountains or in wilderness areas

Urban search and rescue Rescue of victims in an urban area

Security forces – Internal security

Security guards – Asset protection, property protection, private enforcement

Ski patrol – Medical aid and rescue at ski resorts and mountain resorts

Tow truck – Moving disabled, impounded, or illegally-parked vehicles

Wildland firefighting – Wildfire suppression.” I protect myself from https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_beat scandals too.

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“A public service or service of general (economic) interest is any service intended to address specific needs pertaining to the aggregate members of a community.[1][2] Public services are available to people within a government jurisdiction as provided directly through public sector agencies or via public financing to private businesses or voluntary organizations (or even as provided by family households, though terminology may differ depending on context). Other public services are undertaken on behalf of a government's residents or in the interest of its citizens. The term is associated with a social consensus (usually expressed through democratic elections) that certain services should be available to all, regardless of income, physical ability or mental acuity. Examples of such services include the fire brigade, police, air force, and paramedics (see also public service broadcasting). Even where public services are neither publicly provided nor publicly financed, they are usually subject to regulation going beyond that applying to most economic sectors for social and political reasons. Public policy,[3] when made in the public's interest and with its motivations, is a type of public service. In modern developed countries, the term "public services" (or "services of general interest") often includes:[4]

Courts

Education

Electricity

Emergency services

Environmental protection

Health care

Mail

Military

Public buildings

Public libraries

Public parks

Public policy

Public utilities

Public transportation

Social services

State schools

Telecommunications

Transportation infrastructure

Urban planning

Waste management

Water supply network.”

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“What messages should I share when talking to my child about porn?

There are many conversations and teachable moments related to sexualized media. Try not to lecture, as this can lead to a young person tuning you out. Here are a few of many possible points to help a young person develop a critical lens:

You might find that you enjoy seeing sexual images or you may not. Both feelings can be normal.

Porn is made for adult entertainment not education. It’s not made for children or young people.

Porn does not provide an accurate representation of bodies, sex, consent, or relationships. This can be harmful for many reasons, one being that if young people watch it, they may think that these depictions are what’s typical or expected.

Bodies shown in porn aren’t always representative of natural or diverse bodies. For example, it often features genitals without pubic hair, surgically enlarged breasts or penises, and a lack of diversity in racial identity, genders, sexual orientation, and disabilities.

Porn often fetishizes BIPOC (Black, Brown, Indigenious, People of Color), women, and disabled folx, categorizing people and sexual experiences based on harmful stereotypes.

Sexual or intimate relationships require consent to be healthy. This involves trust, respect, communication, and a sense of safety between partners. Porn often does not show this.

Porn often does not show safer sex practices like condoms, barrier methods, contraception, or discussions between partners about these.

Porn often shows violence, abusive language, and dangerous sexual acts, especially toward women. There are ethical versions of porn that can offer healthier depictions of sex for entertainment purposes, but these versions are often not the ones that come up with initial online searches.

People who consensually work in the industry of sex work deserve to have safe, equitable employment conditions, to be compensated fairly for their labor, and to be respected. Mainstream, free porn sites do not guarantee safety or ethical treatment for performers. Watching porn that’s not ethically produced supports harmful practices.

No one should ever force or coerce another person to consume or participate in sexualized media.

When young people are made aware of what porn is, who creates it, why it’s concerning for kids to watch, and what to do when they come across it, they’re better prepared to make informed decisions.⁠ Responding in shame-free ways keeps the dialogue open and makes it clear to a child that you are a trusted adult they can count on for support and mentorship along their path.”

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“I will consider other people’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences.” “I will take care of the Earth and the life on it.” “I will always focus on becoming a better person.” “I will be a good neighbor to the people who share the Earth with me and help make the world a better place for everyone.” “I will be aware of my strengths and weaknesses, and appreciate the strengths and weaknesses of others.” “I will help people solve problems and handle disagreements in ways that are fair for everyone.” “I will be a good person—even when no one is looking—and own the consequences of my actions.” “I will help my community in ways that let me get to know the people I’m helping.” These thought patterns of what I need in a lover.

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“Likewise, “just don’t do it” talks or suggesting sex is only happening in marriages presents its own problems – mostly, it’s a lie and leaves them underprepared.

And that’s before we even consider how women and LGBTQ+ individual’s experiences are overshadowed or ignored by most sex-ed programs, leaving them to seek answers from media and peers.” “I spoke with Melissa Carnagey, LBSW, founder of Sex Positive Families, an organization that provides education and support to help families raise sexually healthy children at every age and stage. She says, “Sexuality is an integral part of being human” that is with us and “shapes how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world around us.”

She defines a sex-positive home culture as an environment where parents commit to open and ongoing conversations about sexuality, sex, and their bodies to make sure their children feel informed and supported.

It means eliminating shame, so our children feel safe to come to us with everything, even the hard stuff. And while all children need love and support to thrive, our kids – who are often treated differently than non-Black kids – can find particular benefit in a shame-free home with open communication.

“It’s important that Black youth have the opportunity to understand and connect with their bodies because in that connection is power and an understanding of their inherent worthiness. This understanding, coupled with unwavering support at home, makes youth less vulnerable to self-harm or influences that may not have their best interest in mind,” Carnagey explains.”

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“Asexual | Often called “ace” for short, asexual refers to a complete or partial lack of sexual attraction or lack of interest in sexual activity with others. Asexuality exists on a spectrum, and asexual people may experience no, little or conditional sexual attraction.

Biphobia | The fear and hatred of, or discomfort with, people who love and are sexually attracted to more than one gender.

Bisexual | A person emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to more than one gender, though not necessarily simultaneously, in the same way or to the same degree. Sometimes used interchangeably with pansexual.

Gay | A person who is emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to members of the same gender. Men, women and non-binary people may use this term to describe themselves.

Genderqueer | Genderqueer people typically reject notions of static categories of gender and embrace a fluidity of gender identity and often, though not always, sexual orientation. People who identify as "genderqueer" may see themselves as being both male and female, neither male nor female or as falling completely outside these categories.

Gender binary | A system in which gender is constructed into two strict categories of male or female. Gender identity is expected to align with the sex assigned at birth and gender expressions and roles fit traditional expectations.

Gender dysphoria | Clinically significant distress caused when a person's assigned birth gender is not the same as the one with which they identify.

Gender-expansive | A person with a wider, more flexible range of gender identity and/or expression than typically associated with the binary gender system. Often used as an umbrella term when referring to young people still exploring the possibilities of their gender expression and/or gender identity. Gender expression | External appearance of one's gender identity, usually expressed through behavior, clothing, body characteristics or voice, and which may or may not conform to socially defined behaviors and characteristics typically associated with being either masculine or feminine.

Gender-fluid | A person who does not identify with a single fixed gender or has a fluid or unfixed gender identity.

Homophobia | The fear and hatred of or discomfort with people who are attracted to members of the same sex.

Intersex | Intersex people are born with a variety of differences in their sex traits and reproductive anatomy. There is a wide variety of difference among intersex variations, including differences in genitalia, chromosomes, gonads, internal sex organs, hormone production, hormone response, and/or secondary sex traits. Lesbian | A woman who is emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to other women. Women and non-binary people may use this term to describe themselves.

LGBTQ+ | An acronym for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer” with a "+" sign to recognize the limitless sexual orientations and gender identities used by members of our community.

Non-binary | An adjective describing a person who does not identify exclusively as a man or a woman. Non-binary people may identify as being both a man and a woman, somewhere in between, or as falling completely outside these categories. While many also identify as transgender, not all non-binary people do. Non-binary can also be used as an umbrella term encompassing identities such as agender, bigender, genderqueer or gender-fluid.” https://www.hrc.org/resources/glossary-of-terms

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“According to the ISSM:

If they have questions about sex, they feel comfortable asking, and they are eager to understand more about the physical, emotional, and psychological aspects of sexual activity.

They understand the importance of safe sex. Safe sex can include ensuring emotional and psychological safety, involving supporting someone with a sexual dysfunction or sexual abuse history.

They believe that sex is a natural part of being human and should be enjoyed by those who want to have sex. For sex-positive people, sex can be discussed without shame or awkwardness, and it is not a taboo subject.

“They accept others’ sexual practices,” or lack thereof, “as long as the participants consent and feel safe, without moral judgment.”

Here are some things that sex positivity is NOT:

Simply enjoying sex. If that were the case, we would have a lot more sex-positive people in the world! Plenty of people who enjoy sex still place shame and stigma on others who have different sexual practices.

Believing that everyone should have sex and enjoy it. The reasons some folks have for not engaging in sex are valid, and should always be respected.

Being hypersexual, with no boundaries, and having sex with anyone and everyone all the time.

Sexually objectifying others, and ignoring power dynamics and intersectionality.

Having an uncomplicated relationship with sex.

Lastly, I want to share a quote from Miri Mogilevsky, a Contributing Writer for Everyday Feminism. “I want a sex positivity that is here for all the trauma survivors, all the asexual and aromantic folks, all the people who don’t love their bodies, everyone who’s ever felt ambivalent about sex, and anyone who feels like sex has done them more harm than good.”

Okay, now that you (hopefully) have a clearer picture of sex-positivity, let’s look at some ways you can develop this perspective within yourself!

One facet of being sex-positive is not shaming or judging others for their sexual (or nonsexual) lifestyles. This, of course, means developing a more inclusive and nonjudgmental mindset around sex. You can challenge any prejudice by saying to yourself, “Why do I react negatively when I hear about open relationships? Where does that instinct come from?” This process is called self-awareness and leads to a greater understanding of how we react to things we don’t understand or have been taught to judge. Open-mindedness is one way to move toward sex-positivity.

Another step needed to adopt a sex-positive approach is to educate yourself. We often judge others simply because we don't know much about that topic, sex included. Read some books or articles on the subject. Make the effort to understand diverse consensual sexual practices. This is the key – you do not need to be interested in participating in those diverse practices in order to be sex-positive! What is odd to you is perhaps perfect for someone else. That is how this works.

Sex-positivity requires an ongoing commitment to becoming more and more inclusive and aware. It requires re-training your brain away from the automatic thought of “slut” when you see a woman wearing revealing clothing. You must challenge the stereotypes and labels we have placed others under. It also means speaking up and being brave when others use language that is exclusive and dehumanizing, and asking why that person is using that language to describe others whose sexual practices do not match theirs.

Talking about consent is perhaps the most important piece of the pie. Everyone benefits from understanding that the absence of a “no” is not a “yes” when it comes to sex. It is an absolute requirement of being sex-positive to understand consent and its importance in all sexual practices.” -Sara Crowers MSW LCSW

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“How to be sex positive

Good news: You can become more sex positive! Try any of these tips to help shift your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Value your sexuality

Sex positivity starts (and doesn’t end!) with valuing your own sexuality.

“Learn more about your body — its anatomy, wants, needs, what makes it feel good (and what doesn’t),” says Melancon. She says masturbation can help you get to know your body better and communicate your desires to partners.

Share and respect pronouns

Promoting your pronouns can serve as a form of allyship to gender-nonconforming folks. You can share them in meetings and feature them in your social media bios or email signatures.

Respect the pronouns of others and use them correctly as well. Try to avoid assuming someone’s pronouns based on their appearance. “Respect is free,” says Howard.

Question your reactions toward sex

“The journey to sex positivity forces us to unlearn trains of thought that we’ve been committed to our entire lives, and disrupting that connection causes us to confront other traditional behaviors and beliefs that are problematic and sex-negative,” says Howard.

This can be challenging.

But she adds that “questioning your initial reactions to things like teenagers using sex toys, sexually active senior citizens, and sex and [people with disabilities] is a great way to start the internal work of self-checking traditionally harmful behaviors and microaggressions.”

If you notice your own sex negativity popping up when faced with another person’s sexuality or identity, Melancon recommends asking yourself the following questions:

What about their behavior is upsetting, and why?

What “kind” of person engages in this behavior or has these fantasies?

What would it mean about you if you enjoyed this sexual behavior?

“Often, we project our own insecurities and shame onto others, so judgment of others can actually be a window into our own deeper issues,” she adds.

Advocate for sex-positive policies and organizations

Activism is another key part of the sex-positive movement. “It’s important to be aware of and advocate for laws and policies that support ethical sexual freedom,” says Melancon.

“Sex positivity can also include understanding and advocating for the needs of sexual minorities, such as sex workers, the LGBTQIA+ community, those with disabilities, and considering the impact of racism and sexism on sexual expression,” she says.

This also includes supporting comprehensive, medically accurate school sex education for children.

For example, you can support the passing of sex-positive policies (e.g., decriminalizing sex work or passing healthcare equality legislation for trans people) by signing petitions or writing to government officials.”

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“The first step in practicing sex-positive parenting involves increasing our comfort level. Many adults feel awkward when talking about sexuality. To build confidence, try communicating ideas about sex while using correct vocabulary and terminology. Talk to your partner or close friend and think about how you first learned about sexuality. Was your experience positive or negative? How we learn about sex and our early sexual experiences effect the development of our sexuality and sexual self. This is why parents play such a major role in influencing a child’s sexual behavior.

The next step involves communication. While we often think of “the talk” as a one-time event, the idea behind sex positive parenting involves having an ongoing conversation or series of talks, spanning your child’s development, about the different aspects of sex and sexuality. Start the conversation early as such dialogue is most effective when introduced timely in childhood. Birth and the facts of procreation are a great place to begin because more toddlers are curious about how babies are made. Information about anatomy and the difference between male and female bodies can be discussed as well. Make sure to utilize anatomically correct language, such as penis and vulva. Using slang terms like “peepee” and “coochie” can lead to confusion and make your child think there is something shameful about their body.

When your child asks about sex, make an effort to be available to answer questions honestly and without embarrassment. Try not to overwhelm them with information, rather just answer specific questions with specific and clear answers that are appropriate to their age and comprehension level. A good time to talk about puberty is around age 7 or 8. Around the pre-teen age you can start focusing on the basics of sexual behavior, human sexual response, sexual techniques and intercourse. Information about boundaries and consent, pornography, sexual abuse, love and dating, and more complex questions about sexuality can be addressed next.”

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