Have you ever felt like you're somehow too much and not enough at the exact same time?

Too emotional. Too needy. Too sensitive. And also not smart enough, interesting enough, lovable enough, together enough.

In this episode, I'm talking about why those two thoughts are not actually opposites. They're often two sides of the same wound: shame. The belief that if people really saw you, they might not choose you.

And oof. That one lands.

This episode is about the tug-of-war between performing, disappearing, overexplaining, people-pleasing, and quietly abandoning yourself in the process. We'll talk about how to recognize where you're leaving yourself behind, how to start listening to what you actually need, and why your emotions may be the closest thing you have to an invisible care card.

Because you are not too much. You are someone with needs that may not have been fully honored yet.

Three things I want you to take with you:

– "Too much" and "not enough" are often shame wearing two different outfits – When you don't know what you feel, it becomes harder to know what you want – Your emotions are not proof that you're a problem—they're information about what you need

RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE TO "DON'T CUT YOUR OWN BANGS"

Like your favorite recipe or song, the best things in life are shared. When you rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast, your engagement helps me connect with other listeners just like you. Plus, subscriptions just make life easier for everybody. It's one less thing for you to think about and you can easily keep up to date on everything that's new. So, please rate, review, and subscribe today.

JOIN THE BANGS CLUB

If you've ever finished an episode of Don't Cut Your Own Bangs and thought, "okay… but how do I actually do this in real life?"—The Bangs Club is for you.

It's the cozy corner of the internet where we take the conversations from the podcast a little deeper through therapist-informed journal prompts, voice note meditations, emotional reframes, and gentle tools to help you understand what you're feeling and know what to do next.

Think of it like the after-party version of the podcast for smart, self-aware, overwhelmed humans with big feelings.

Or more specifically: the place you come before dramatically changing your entire life or cutting your own bangs.

Come hang out with us here: https://danielleireland.substack.com

Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.

Website - https://danielleireland.com/

The Treasured Journal - https://danielleireland.com/journal

Substack - https://danielleireland.substack.com/

Blog - https://danielleireland.com/blog/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW

Podcast on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured