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Train your brain’s emotional intelligence with metacognition | Arthur Brooks


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**🧠 Your Emotions Aren’t the Boss — *You* Are 🔥**

Feelings come from your **limbic system** — the emotional engine of your brain.

But here’s the kicker: it’s not smart. It just reacts. No logic. No filters. Just raw vibes 😤💥.

If you let it run the show, guess what?

You’ll be *owned* by your emotions 😬.

But you don’t have to be.

There’s a way to *take back control* — and it’s called **metacognition** 🧘‍♂️🔍.

Metacognition = thinking about your thinking.

It’s your **prefrontal cortex** (your rational brain 🧠) observing your emotional self 👀💭.

You’re basically saying:

“Okay, I’m feeling this… but *what does it mean?* And *what do I want to do about it?*”

🔄 Example: When a kid throws a tantrum, you say, “Use your words.”

Translation? “Stop being limbic. Be conscious.”

Now flip that advice on yourself. Every. Single. Time.

Next time you're angry or anxious:

1. Don’t react immediately 🚫🗣️

2. Count to **30** (not 10) ⏳

3. Let your brain *catch up* with your feelings

4. Then respond — *on purpose*, not on impulse 🎯

💡 Pro tip: The more you practice this, the better you get. It’s a skill, not magic.

And yeah, you’ll mess up sometimes. That’s part of it. Be kind to yourself 💛.

But here’s the real win:

✅ You’ll feel more in control

✅ You’ll be *happier*

✅ People will *love* being around you more

Because people who *respond* instead of *react*?

They're the real emotional MVPs 🏆✨.

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