After a seminar that changed his life, Roy Redd started a small CPR business that he grew to six-figures over the next year. So he wrote his first book, “The Success Magnet.” During the launch of that book, he got a DM from Casey Trujeque, who asked if his methods worked for athletes. So Casey flew him out to Portland Oregon to work with an athlete. He was able to turn that athlete around with his methods. How? How did changing his self-talk change his game? Learn more in this episode of Wingnut Social!

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Roy asks, “What are you saying to yourself about yourself? In a year from now, what has to happen in your career and your life for you to be happy with your progress?” That is what he calls an instant clarity question. Why? Because with clarity comes certainty. Uncertainty is what causes us to have anxiety or negative self-talk.

Roy realized this athlete had a “functional bound.” You’re bound by social ideas, trauma, or what you’ve been told you can and cannot do. He was getting nervous at the end of his games. So they did an experiment and realized that he had a traumatic experience at six at the end of a game when his Dad put his hands on him. 

Now every time he’s in that situation, his brain goes into fight or flight mode. His self-talk was “I’m not confident because I feel this way.” So they reframed and reclaimed the situation. He learned to anchor to the present. They pulled this unconscious memory into his conscious mind where he can control it. You can do that too.

We have millions of past experiences. Roy notes that you can’t expect someone to pull and delete all of them. But you can get to a space where you can get comfortable being uncomfortable. You will end up in a space where you will deal with negative self-talk, either conscious, unconscious, or subconscious.

We attach “I” to experiences and it becomes embodied in your identity. Being hungry is an experience you have, but when people are hungry they say “I am hungry.” When they’re upset, they say “I am depressed.” But you are not those things, they are states that you’re in. But by saying “I am” you are locking yourself into those states.

Instead of saying, “I am depressed” you can say that “I am experiencing depression.” Depression isn’t physical, measurable, or tangible—but it is something that you can experience. It’s a sensation. You’re locking emotions into your body. You feel depressed, but you’re having a sensation in your chest. It’s an anchor for an experience that you have to move away from. 

When Roy dove into neuroscience and the mind, he learned that it all boils down to self-talk. It’s not what happens to you in life that matters—it’s how you interpret it. Once you can identify the self-talk you’re having, you want to stop it or slow it down. How? 

Root yourself in the moment with things you love and things that get you in a flow state. What are you curious about? Passionate about? Is it connected to your purpose? Those three things lead you into a flow state when you’re in a zone. You lose all sense of time or self-awareness and you’re just in the moment. That’s when you take performance to the next level. Once you’re there, you can master and dial in on the things you’re trying to become better at. 

Want to learn how to stop your negative self-talk in its tracks? Listen to the whole episode for Roy’s strategy!

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