Transformational Leadership: From the Insight Out

Transformation Tip: “I am always ready to learn, although I don’t always like being taught” - Winston Churchill 

People retain information differently 

Demonstration and discussion help with long-term memory 

Transformation Application: Think about how you want to communicate knowledge. 
What can you do to make your communication more effective?

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Transformation Tip: “When we choose what to see and who we hang out with, we’re actually choosing our future.” 

Many people don't consciously choose their worldview. 

There is a battle for our attention, our beliefs, and our values which is pushed through media outlets. 

What is my truth? 

Transformation Application: Find a headline of a current event and go and read that story in three divergent outlets. See the truth in them and find a balanced view.

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Transformation Tip: “We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are or as we are conditioned to see it” - Gabor Maté

Every action is rooted in the thought that produced it 

Your worldview is the collection of your attitudes, values, stories, expectations, etc. 

You don't often think about what is truly shaping your decisions, but your worldview is impacting how you see and respond to situations every single day. 

Factors that shape worldview: 

• Environment
• Parents 
• Culture 
• Education
• Spiritual/Moral Principles

Transformation Application: Think of a topic you have a strong opinion about or affiliation with and then ask yourself “What or who shaped that belief or affinity towards that thought”? Trace it backward and recognize if that root is healthy or unhealthy. 

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Transformation Tip: “It ain’t what you know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.” - Mark Twain

It is essential to keep growing as a leader and as a mature adult

Alvin Toffler said: The illiterate of the future are not those who can’t read or write but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn. 

What to do with your old thinking when confronted with new evidence: 

• Scrap it 
• Edit it 
• Augment it 
• Create a new category 

Transformation Application: Is there an old mindset that isn’t serving you well? Take time to articulate it and ask yourself if you should scrap, edit, augment, or create a new category. 

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Transformation Tip: “It is an acknowledged fact we perceive errors in the work of others more readily than in our own”  - Leonardo DaVinci

The more we understand how our brains are wired, the better decisions we can make.

3 Types of Cognitive Bias: 

• Anchoring Effect - influenced heavily by the first piece of information you’ve received about something
  • Not taught, but caught 
• Confirmation Bias - favoring information that conforms to your existing beliefs and discounting information that doesn’t.
  • Hardwired into your brain 
• Affinity Bias - unfair favoring towards your own group, tolerating errors, and making excuses for our “in-group”

Transformation Application: Be aware of the information you receive, stop, and ask if you have an anchoring effect. What do you truly believe? Are there people you are continuously judging?  Be careful about labeling and aware of bias.

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Transformation Tip: “We judge ourselves by our intentions and we judge others by their actions.”

Mindsets: Don't react with fight or flight. Face it. Don't let things fester. 

• Practical Tips: 
  • Practice relational hygiene 
  • Grow in emotional intelligence 
  • Be curious
  • Own your emotions 
  • Strike three process 
  • Weigh the consequences 
  • When you get a resolution, it can become a coaching moment 

Transformation Application: Information + application = transformation. If you’ve been stewing on a conflict choose to address it. Start the conversion with curiosity, not anger. 

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Whether we realize it or not, many of us have inner conflicts that affect our relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode, Steve and Pete offer practical tips for putting relational conflict behind you to find full freedom. 

Transformation Tip: If you own this story, you get to write the ending. 

Roots of conflict that cause us to get off track 

• Involuntary: what people have done to cause conflict to you
• Voluntary: what you have done to cause conflict to others

How to bring ourselves back into alignment:

• Involuntary 
  • Forgiveness
• Voluntary 
  • Taking responsibility 
  • Forgiveness
  • Accepting yourself 

Pete’s Poem: “Should” 

When I take stock of who I am and see that things are good. 

A thief comes in to steal my joy accusing me, “but you should”. 

You should be more productive. Your body should be slim. 

That guy right there is so well-liked. You should be more like him.

So now there's a rubbly where my esteem once stood, knocked down with cruel intention by the wrecking ball of should. 

“How dare you be contented! Your best will never do.”

“Try harder still”. His voice demands, “become a different you”.

I get back on the hamster wheel determined to improve 

but hear him say to my dismay, “the finish line has moved”.

Then in a time of clarity, I see I have a choice. 

I can choose to tune him out and hear a different voice. 

I hear I am accepted. I hear I am enough. 

And where I lack, God’s got my back, I'm covered by his love. 

I'll celebrate my talents working hard at what I do. 

I'm doing fine with my design my limitations too. 

I don't do super exploits. Sometimes I wish I could, 

but I accept me as I am. I've had enough of should.

Transformation Application: Write your list and complete the forgiveness exercise discussed in the podcast. If you need more guidance on this topic or want to dive deeper, go  buy Steve's book “Free to be Me” :) 

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Transformation Tip: Everywhere you go, there you are. 

How do I know I have inner conflict?

• Lacking motivation 
• Can’t stop thinking about it 
• Self-doubt 
• Short temper

What causes inner conflict?

• Offense
• Anger
• Rejection
• Failure 
• Disappointment 

Questions to help you identify the cause of your inner conflict: 

• When did these feelings start? 
• Are you seeing any repeated patterns?
• What was the message about yourself that was being sent to you?

Transformation Application: Take your situation and see if you can identify the source of conflict. What did that situation speak to your value and your security?

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Greg Wallace joins the show to talk about resolving cultural conflicts and diffusing stereotypes.  Greg has been a labor and employment lawyer, an executive at a Fortune 500 company, a ministry leader, a consultant to non-profits, an author, an adjunct professor, and an academic dean. He’s now president of The Wallace Group, a firm focused on developing leaders and aligning their organizations.

Transformation Tip:  “Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.” – Stephen Covey

Transformation Application: Take time to greet someone who you normally don't. (Example: cashier, neighbor, someone at work, etc.) 

Get in touch with Greg!

The Wallace Group: thewallacegroup.org

Email: [email protected]

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Transformation Tip:  Action begets clarity 

Ask yourself these questions to help you start moving forward:

• What do I need to let go of? 
• What do I want to see happen? Envision it!  
• What do I need to accomplish this goal?
• Work out a simple plan

It doesn’t always have to be a leap. Focus on a single step forward! 

4 practical questions to journal: 

• What are you doing that you need to stop doing? 
  • What needs to be eliminated 
  • What goals can you give up on 
• What do you need to keep?
  • A good routine 
  • Something that is serving you well 
  • Where are you finding joy and thriving?
• What do I need to adjust? 
  • Doesn’t need to be cut out but needs to be tweaked 
• What do I need to add? 
  • What will help me reach these goals? 

Transformation Application: Commit to giving yourself time to disconnect. Map out the changes you want to see (the question prompts that were given above). Go try it out!

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