One of the things we say time and time again is that the “perfection infection” happens when we compare our insides to other people’s outsides. When we do this, we often come up with inaccurate conclusions about ourselves AND others.

Falling into the trap of the perfection infection is especially easy when you’re on social media. Not only are your favorite influencers putting the best parts of their lives on public display, but all your friends and family are often doing the same. It’s natural to want to highlight happy moments, but constantly scrolling through everyone’s best bits can sometimes make you feel like you’re not measuring up.

This is one of the reasons why we share so honestly and openly about the real stuff in our lives…even when that stuff is ugly, hard, or imperfect.

Our guests today can certainly relate to this sentiment. Rebecca St. James and her husband, Cubbie Fink, illuminate the heartaches and triumphs that have shaped their story as a married couple, as parents, as musicians, and—most of all—as Jesus followers in their first co-authored book, Lasting Ever.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How authenticity shows both the highs and the lows of life
• Where to find security in who we are
• What to do when you are going through a dark season
• And so much more…

We so enjoyed having Rebecca and Cubbie share their story and we hope it helps to take some of the perfection infection’s weight off your shoulders today.

Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/rebecca-st-james-235

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