Welcome to the wonderful, messy world of self-sabotage — where we are both the hero and the villain in our own story. And it’s not just you. We all do this. The question is: Why do we sabotage our own success, and more importantly, how do we stop?

Today, we’re diving deep into the psychology behind self-sabotage and breaking down practical steps to get out of your own way. This isn’t about judgment or shame — it’s about awareness, action, and breaking free. And remember, God didn’t create you to live stuck. 

Timestamps:

(02:41) - Why We Self-Sabotage (We all do it!) 

(03:56) - The Biggest Driver of Self-Sabotage

(05:36) - Fear of Success

(06:36) - The Comfort Zone Trap (It’s Cozy, But It’s a Trap!) 

(07:33) - Negative Self-Talk (Your Inner Critic is a Jerk!!)

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Alli

I'm thrilled to be joined by the brilliant Dr. Warren Kinghorn, a renowned psychiatrist and theologian from Duke University.

Dr. Kinghorn bridges the gap between faith and mental health in this must-listen episode. We dive into a universal struggle but rarely discuss and explore how the church can better support our emotional well-being. 

Timestamps:

(1:07) - The Core Elements of a Flourishing Life

(4:59) - Common Obstacles That Keep Us from Truly Flourishing

(11:44) - That One Mental or Emotional Burden We All Carry but Rarely Talk About

(16:56) - The Biggest Blind Spot Churches Have in Supporting Mental Health

(19:43) - Signs It’s Time to Get Professional Help

(23:36) - Warren’s Top Recommendations 

Warren’s Recommendations

A song Warren is loving is from the album Sanctuary Songs - Centering Prayer. The key theme is being where your feet are. The capacity to just be. He’s trying to step into that. 

Warren is watching Ted Lasso on TV right now. It’s been so much fun. The complexity of the characters and the focus on loving people for who they are are encouraging.

One book Warren describes as rich is Christ on the Psych Ward by David Finnegan-Hosey. It’s a beautiful book about his own experience. 

Another faith and mental health book Warren recommends is Dust in the Blood by Jessica Coblenz. She writes about how we can draw from Biblical examples of being in the wilderness. 

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We are in our emotional health series and you know I'm obsessed with increasing our emotional health, not just for us but for the benefit of everyone who crosses our path. Today, I'm sharing 13 things I wish someone had told me in my 20s. 

In my 20s, I thought emotional health was for people who journaled in candlelight and lived in yoga pants, but it's for everyone. Trust me, your emotional health matters way more than you think, whether you're 20, 40, or 60.  

Timestamps:

(01:19) - Emotional Health: It All Starts with Awareness

(04:38) - Healthy Relationships Begin with YOU

(07:59) - Emotional Health Meets Self-Care

(09:21) - Gratitude Changes Everything

(12:17) - Alli’s Must-Have Recommendations

Recommendations:

It’s mid-January and cold and to mix things up a little bit, I’m loving adding a little cinnamon and vanilla extract to my green tea. It makes it taste amazing!

The song I’m playing on repeat right now is Nothing I Hold On To by Jesus Co. It’s a great way to worship God and feel better at the same time.

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Nothing I Hold On To - Jesus Co. 

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Alli

Welcome back! Today, I'm thrilled to have Debra Fileta joining us. You might remember her from Smart Girl Summer last year, and I couldn't think of a better way to kick off the new year because she's written an excellent book on soul care.

In this episode, we're diving deep into the world of soul care. We'll cover everything you need to know: what to focus on, what pitfalls to avoid, and actionable steps to nurture your soul. 

Timestamps:

(01:35) - Why We Christian Women Struggle With Self-Care (It's Not Just You!)

(05:24) - Reading Scripture Through the Lens of Our Trauma And the Traps We Fall Into

(11:55) - Self-Care vs. Soul Care: What's the Difference? 

(19:29)  - Honoring Our Capacity With Jesus as Our Example

(26:25) - Debra’s Top Recommendations 

Debra’s Recommendations: 

The song that Debra is loving right now is On Time God by Women Evolve Worship. It’s really good and is exactly what I need right now.

Her fun TV recommendations are The Great British Baking Show and Junior Bake Off. It is so relaxing and the pace is great. 

Books that Debra has told someone they need to read are Imagine Heaven by John Burke and Heaven is Real by Todd Burpo and Lynn Vincent. It’s a really good conversational piece to talk through the beliefs our kids have.

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Alli

Let’s talk about something big today. What does it mean to live a good life? Is it about success, wealth, and finally figuring out how to fold a fitted sheet without losing your sanity? 

Today, we’re diving into lessons from the longest-running scientific study on happiness ever conducted—the Harvard Study of Adult Development. This study has been running for a whopping 86 years, tracking people’s lives in incredible detail.

Timestamps:

(01:50) - What Does Living a Good Life Really Look Like?

(03:49) - Building the Foundation for a Good Life

(05:54) - Practical Steps to Start Living Your Best Life 

(12:07) - Alli’s Must-Try Recommendations

Recommendations:

I’ll share what I just learned after 15 years - Voice dictation on a Mac Book = double click the function (FN) key in the bottom left corner. I may be the last one to learn this!

Let’s talk about how to get hormone replacement therapy. I used online MidiHealth until I discussed it with my gynecologist, who agreed to write the script. Not all insurance companies will cover MidiHealth. The book Estrogen Matters is a great resource for HRT information.

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Alli

 We’re kicking off 2025 with an extraordinary, must-listen episode. I couldn’t be more excited to start the year with this vital health discussion featuring the incredible Dr. Vonda Wright.

In this episode, we delve into longevity in women’s health and performance. Dr. Wright shares her essential practices for better bone health, proven techniques to banish low back pain, and everything you need to know about navigating perimenopause. 

(02:53) - What is the “Critical Decade” and How to Make the Most of It!

(09:53) - Let’s Talk Bones: Essential Practices for Bone Health

(18:36) - Strengthen and Protect : Building Resilient Bones 

(22:45) - Low Back Pain :  Here’s what you can do to banish it for good.

(26:19) - The Perimenopause Wake-Up Call : Learn what every woman must know

(39:39) - Dr. Vonda's Top Recommendations You’ll Love

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Alli

Happy New Year, friend! Welcome back to the very first episode of 2025! This episode is all about kicking off 2025 with purpose, excitement, and a plan to live fully into the life God has for you. If you’re someone who starts January with big goals but loses steam by February, don’t worry. This year is going to be different.

Today, we’re not just setting a resolution but building a foundation. I’m going to help you shape this year with clarity, courage, and connection so you can finally feel aligned with your dreams, your values, and your faith. 

Timestamps:

(01:12) - Getting Clear on What You Want (and Why It’s Totally Important)

(02:15) - Making  2025 Your Year of Action-Packed Awesomeness

(04:18 - Redefining Failure: Let’s Rock 2025 with Confidence

(07:40) - Building Connections That Truly Matter

(08:54) - Finding Joy in the Journey (Because Life’s Too Short Not To)

(14:31) - My Must-Have Recommendations for an Amazing 2025

Action Steps:

Questions: Take 10 minutes this week to think about these questions.

Recommendations:

What I’m loving this week are H&M tops, which are basically what I've worn since last summer. The fitted H&M Fitted T-shirt look good enough to be worn alone or under a blazer. I probably have four of every color!

I found a collagen I really love, and love it so much I can put it in plain water and drink it. I don’t mess with flavors anymore. It’s Bulletproof Collagen Peptides.

I found a mascara that I love! As of right now, Mile High Club Mascara is my new favorite and is in the top tier category. 

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Welcome back to the show this week. I'm giving you another chapter from one of my books. Fierce Faith.

Fierce Faith is very close to my heart because it's my book on helping women overcome fear, anxiety, and worry. 

So today, we're going to talk about how to overcome the fear of the future, avoid becoming stuck, and stop catastrophizing our future. I want to give you a battle plan to fight fear. 

Timestamps:

(03:19) - I’ve Been There, Felt That —How to Conquer Fear of the Future 

(10:03) - Escaping the Wilderness of Stuckness 

(22:22) - Say Goodbye to Future Catastrophizing

(29;30) - Craft Your Battle Plan: Asking yourself the “right thinking” questions 

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Alli

Welcome to the final episode of our end of the year of our “Finishing Strong Review” Series. As I shared last week, think of these three shows as many coaching sessions. 

Today, I want to talk about clear and meaningful ways that you can step into the new year with purpose and a little bit of excitement.

Timestamps :

(02:03) - My Favorite Fun Tips for Setting Intentions

(03:50) - 5 Power-Packed Questions to Help You Build the Life You Want

(09:14) - The Mystery and Joy of Choosing Your Word of the Year

(11:51) - My Must-Have Recommendations You’ll Love

Recommendations :

A TV show I’m watching on Apple TV is Silo. I love this show so much! It’s a mystery, action, and sci-fi.

The song this week - O Come All Ye Faithful by Josh Groban and the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. I love this! Give me all of the Josh Groban Christmas content!

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Alli

Hey Friend! This is a special one because I am bringing you chapter one of Standing Strong called “You Were Born for This.” I hope you will find it super encouraging. 

In this chapter, I will talk to you about defeating self-doubt and moving on to God's purpose in your life. Why God, I believe, is calling us to be more than enough and how to stand strong in God's power. I hope it blesses you and helps you stand strong in the new year. 

Timestamps:

(02:33) - The Two Things That Keep Me Up at Night

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Alli