The Alli Worthington Show

Join Me To Build Your Best Fall – https://buildyourbestfall.com/

You did the thing. You hit the goal I’d been chasing for months, maybe years. And the text back was a thumbs up and one exclamation point, and something in you sank.

A very specific loneliness can come with growing into your calling, and almost no one names it. You’ve felt it more than once. When you work so hard to become stronger and braver, it can hurt when the people you love don’t always know how to celebrate it.

In this episode, I talk about why loneliness happens, why it’s more normal than you think, and how to widen your circle so you stop carrying your wins alone. By the end, you’ll know how to receive your wins with more ease, less loneliness, and a little more celebration.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why love and understanding are two different things, and why the closest relationships are the ones that sting when someone can't picture where you're going
• The "orange tree" reframe that will change how you handle one-sided friendships and flat responses for good
• How to tell the difference between people who can't celebrate you and people who won't, and why sorting that out isn't your assignment
• What actually changes when you find a table of women who get it before you finish the sentence
• How to become the woman who celebrates other women out loud, on purpose

Timestamps:

(00:00) — The text that deflated you: when a big win gets a thumbs up

(00:53) — What happens to nearly every woman as she grows

(01:31) — "Not everyone can go where you're going, and no one's asking them to"

(02:56) — Love and understanding are two different things

(04:12) — The loneliness ambitious women aren't talking about

(04:31) — The women who can't celebrate you vs. the ones who won't

(05:31) — You don't owe anyone a smaller version of your joy

(05:31) — The orange tree: asking for apples from a tree that grows oranges

(06:45) — The caution: this isn't permission to leave the people you're bound to

(07:23) — Widening your circle (and the day Alli stopped expecting her husband to get it)

(08:41) — Rachel's story: the coat she didn't know she was wearing indoors

(09:40) — Why Alli built the Catalyst Mastermind

(10:19) — Become the woman who celebrates other women out loud

(11:00) — An invitation to Catalyst

(11:58) — The random thing Alli loves this month

(13:00) — The flat response was never a verdict on your dream

Links to great things we discussed:

• Alli’s Product Recommendations: 365 by Whole Foods Market Facial Moisturizer & Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Mineral Sunscreen Stick
• Catalyst Mastermind
• Function Health - Use code AWORTHINGTON10 for a discount on comprehensive lab testing
• Wise Woman Method on Substack
• Take the Secret Superpower Quiz
• Join the Uplift Community
• Follow Alli on Instagram
• Don’t forget to watch Alli Worthington on YouTube!

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!

xo,

Alli

Join Me To Build Your Best Fall – https://buildyourbestfall.com/

You wake up, and your hand goes straight to your phone before your feet even touch the floor. By ten in the morning, you’re wired and foggy at the same time, reaching for sugar, caffeine, and one more scroll I already know will make me feel worse.

That pattern has a real reason behind it, and it comes down to four brain chemicals that shape how we feel every day: dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. Neuroscientist TJ Power calls this system DOSE, and understanding how these four work together helps explain why your midlife energy, your focus, and that low hum of anxiety you've carried for years start to make sense in a whole new way.

I have been trying to get TJ Power on the show for eight months. This is my favorite episode in eight years of recording.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why dopamine gets all the attention while oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins quietly run your mood and your capacity
• The one morning habit that sets what your brain craves for the rest of the day
• Why boredom is one of the most restorative things you can give your brain, and what your default mode network does with those quiet minutes
• How decision fatigue actually builds in your brain, and how fast it clears
• Why motivation shows up after you move, not before
• The simple body check question TJ asks every morning before he touches his phone
• What rest has to do with performance, and why athletes figured this out first

Timestamps:

(02:09) — What DOSE stands for and why all four chemicals matter

(03:50) — Oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins in plain English

(06:14) — How dopamine actually builds, and the 15 minute rule for reading

(07:31) — Golden retriever puppies and what they do to your nervous system

(08:36) — TJ's 36 hours without a phone and what he and his wife did instead

(10:40) — Where he keeps his phone all day (it isn't near him)

(12:35) — The 9-to-9 detox: one woman's Saturday without a phone

(15:51) — What 50 of Alli's clients named as their biggest time waster

(16:49) — Instagram Reels, Coca-Cola, and how much we're really scrolling

(17:43) — Your default mode network: the wise guide you stopped listening to

(19:24) — Decision fatigue, glutamate, and the ache behind your forehead

(23:02) — Alli's hour-long walk and the 15 minutes that are always rough

(24:08) — The 60-minute headphone-free walk that changes lives

(25:16) — Motivation is an outcome of behavior, not a prerequisite

(26:47) — Endorphins, hills, saunas, and roller coasters

(32:38) — Serotonin lives in your body, and 90% of the vagus nerve runs upward

(35:20) — Why scrolling Reels in the afternoon is chemically similar to a glass of wine

(36:32) — "Hey body, what would you like right now?" The morning practice

(38:48) — Chasing what feels good instead of escaping what feels bad

(41:12) — Do I deserve to rest? What elite athletes understand, and Alli on Sabbath

(43:11) — ADHD, dopamine, and what phones are really doing

(49:07) — "Dopamine diabetes": the new diagnosis TJ thinks we need

(50:42) — If you only have 20 minutes a day, spend them like this

(52:36) — Whatever your first dopamine hit is, that's what your brain craves all day

(55:29) — The phone-free first hour and how to build a life around it

Links to great things we discussed:

• The Dose Effect
• Function Health
• Uplift App
• Join me on Substack: Wise Woman Method
• Alli on YouTube

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous!

xo,

Alli

Join Me To Build Your Best Fall – https://buildyourbestfall.com/

Two women came to me in the same week. One had just made a partner. The other finally launched the business she’d been afraid to start for years. Their lives couldn’t have looked more different, but they were circling the same question: Who am I becoming while I’m building all of this?

If you’re in a hard season and building something, this episode gives you a different way to see it. Finding your calling was never only about the work. The work has been building you all along. And the woman you’re becoming is the most valuable thing you’ll ever build.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why your work acts like a mirror, surfacing the fear, perfectionism, and people-pleasing you thought you'd handled years ago
• How building confidence happens underneath the visible skill, one hard conversation at a time
• Why the right questions move you faster than more information ever will (and why you can't see your own story clearly alone)
• The cast iron skillet principle: how the hot, hard seasons are the ones God uses for His deepest work in you
• The one question to pray into next: "Who does my work need me to become?"
• Why what you're building needs a stronger woman to run it more than it needs a better plan
• Alli's current favorite supplement for falling asleep faster and waking up with less morning fog

Timestamps:

3:02 – The work you're building is building you

4:20 – Your work is a mirror (and what it reveals is a gift)

5:22 – Entrepreneurship as a personal development plan in disguise

5:45 – What you're really building underneath: courage

6:25 – Why better questions beat more information

8:30 – The cast iron skillet: how you get seasoned

9:08 – The growth that never lands on a scoreboard

10:22 – The question to pray into: who does my work need me to become next?

11:14 – Why your work needs a stronger woman, not a better plan

12:15 – What "work that matters" actually means

14:53 – Catalyst Mastermind: building alongside other women

Links to great things we discussed:

• Standing Strong
• Glycine
• Oura ring
• Catalyst Mastermind
• Function Health - Use code AWORTHINGTON10 for a discount on comprehensive lab testing
• Wise Woman Method on Substack
• Take the Secret Superpower Quiz
• Join the Uplift Community
• Follow Alli on Instagram
• Don’t forget to watch Alli Worthington on YouTube!

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!

xo,

Alli

Join Me To Build Your Best Fall – https://buildyourbestfall.com/ 

You love your home. You chose things that matter to you, yet it can still leave your shoulders tight by day’s end. Myquillyn Smith, known to many as The Nester, offers house hushing, a gentler way to help your home feel calmer.

She calls it house hushing. It’s for women who care about beauty and want their homes to feel calm again. The goal isn’t to empty your rooms; it’s to quiet them so your body and mind can settle, too. House hushing can clear your countertops and leave your home feeling more peaceful.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Timestamps: 

(00:00) — What house hushing is: decluttering for women who love beauty 

(01:52) — Cozy minimalism, and why "get rid of it all" scares beauty-lovers

(05:13) — Backwards decluttering: the room-by-room reset 

(06:37) — How to do it: pick two rooms and live with less for 48 hours 

(08:37) — Bringing back only what's needed, and why decisions get easier 

(09:47) — Alli hushes her kitchen: what she found and how it felt 

(12:05) — Closed storage, moving furniture, and the power of small changes 

(14:51) — Letting your functional, beautiful things be the decor 

(18:33) — The two things that change a room's volume: contrast and scale

(21:06) — Three things that make any big room cozy: rug, drapes, lamps 

(22:10) — Lighting, lamps, and the case against overhead lights 

(25:04) — Spicy takes: clocks, fake plants, tiny decor, and ceiling fans 

(29:58) — Decorating trends worth ignoring, and the "order of decor" 

(32:25) — Fun favorites: shows, a book, and the perfect puzzle 

Links to great things we discussed: 

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous! 

xo,

Alli

Join Me To Build Your Best Fall – https://buildyourbestfall.com/ 

Most of us were raised to be careful with money. Save it, stretch it, wait for the sale. Those habits matter, but nobody ever taught me the other half: how to make money grow while I sleep.

In Part 2 of my money mindset series, I’m closing that gap with the four decisions wealthy women make with every dollar, and the one question that quietly changes how you spend. Not “can I afford this?” but “what kind of future does this build?”

Because every dollar you spend is either building your future or buying you a nice moment. And wealthy women learn how to tell the difference.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Timestamps:

(01:19) — The money skill nobody taught us: holding money vs. building it

(02:05) — The question hiding inside every purchase: what future does this build?

(02:23) — Decision 1: Buy back your best hours (and the "Wednesdays" math)

(04:12) — Decision 2: Pay for speed, coaches, masterminds, and the fear underneath

(06:21) — Decision 3: Protect your energy first, while you still feel good

(07:41) — Decision 4: Buy assets before upgrades

(08:51) — What wealthy women refuse to buy: approval and guilt

(09:37) — Your one decision this week

(10:31) — Why women of faith build wealth: freedom and generosity

(12:12) — On the Wise Woman Method, plus this week's recommendation

(13:39) — Redefining wealth: freedom and provision from the Lord

Links to great things we discussed: 

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous! 

xo,

Alli

Join Me for the 90 Day Reset – https://buildyourbestfall.com/ 

You’re eating clean, sleeping more, doing everything you’re supposed to do for your health, and your body still isn’t getting the message. In part 2 of this conversation, Harvard psychologist Dr. Ellen Langer explains why “chronic” doesn’t mean permanent and shares a simple, science-backed mindfulness practice that has helped people with MS, stroke, Parkinson’s, and chronic pain see real improvement.

This episode picks up right where part 1 left off, so start there if you haven’t listened yet. Dr. Langer breaks down what it means to learn something mindfully instead of absolutely, why judging yourself and everyone around you keeps you stuck, and why the years running together aren’t always a bad thing. She also gets personal about turning 40, what she’s doing to stay sharp, and why she believes life gets better as you get older.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Welcome back for part 2 with Dr. Ellen Langer

(00:26) – Why investing in your mindset matters beyond just you

(00:44) – Learning mindfully vs. mindlessly, and why the rule-writer's perspective matters

(01:37) – The tennis racket story: why "the way you do it" isn't the only way

(03:01) – The bell that should go off every time you're judgmental

(03:47) – Why every judgment has an equally strong, opposite version

(05:41) – Why the years blurring together isn't only a sign of aging

(06:00) – Stop counting years, start adding life to them

(08:00) – "Sticks and stones" had it backwards

(09:33) – The label "chronic" and what it really means

(10:05) – The two-question exercise that reduced chronic symptoms in real studies

(11:59) – How to try the exercise yourself, step by step

(13:38) – AI as a tool: the brilliant graduate student metaphor

(14:03) – The 45-year-old research on self-induced dependence

(17:28) – What Ellen wishes women understood about getting older

(20:07) – What Ellen does to stay sharp and creative

Links to great things we discussed: 

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me!

Take care, and keep shining bright! 

xo,

Alli

Join Me on Substack – https://wisewomanmethod

You’ve stood at the kitchen counter with your phone in your hand, looking at the price of the one thing that would actually move your business forward, and talked yourself into waiting until next year. I’ve stood there too. 

After all these years of coaching women who went on to build real wealth, the thing that surprised me was never the size of their accounts. It was how much they all thought the same way, like someone handed them a tiny list of money rules and forgot to give everyone else a copy.

In Part 1 of this two-part series on money mindset and building wealth, I walk you through all seven of those rules, and most of them don’t cost a thing.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Timestamps:

(00:00) — The woman whose "irresponsible" decision turns out to be genius

(00:25) — The kitchen counter and the "maybe next year" moment

(01:21) — What women who build real wealth all have in common

(01:48) — The seven secret rules of money

(02:08) — Rule 1: Wealth starts with identity, not income

(03:34) — Rule 2: Learn offense, not just defense

(05:08) — Rule 3: Ask better questions

(06:16) — Rule 4: Think in decades

(07:33) — Rule 5: Buy freedom before comfort

(09:14) — Rule 6: Invest in rooms that stretch you

(11:35) — Rule 7: Build a life, not just a bank account

(12:28) — This week's practice: your "affordability moment"

(13:52) — Book recommendation: The Psychology of Money

(15:42) — Where your steadiness actually comes from

Links to great things we discussed: 

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous! 

xo,

Alli

Join Me on Substack – https://wisewomanmethod

You are doing everything right for your health, and you still don’t feel like yourself. Dr. Ellen Langer, the Harvard psychologist known as the mother of mindfulness, has spent fifty years showing that the mind and body are not two separate systems. They are one. And when you understand that, it changes everything about how much influence you actually have over your own well‑being.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Why Dr. Langer is called the mother of mindfulness

(00:58) – What has surprised her most about her own work after 50 years

(02:06) – The history of mind-body unity research, and why "mind-body connection" undersells it

(05:06) – The two pancreas stories from her book, "The Mindful Body"

(07:15) – The coffee experiment that shows how belief creates physical reality

(09:36) – The "how much is one plus one" question and what it teaches about mindlessness

(13:06) – Making peace with uncertainty as a business owner

(16:03) – A nursing home story on why running risks is the essence of being alive

(18:56) – Reframing failure: the glue that became the Post-it Note

(22:50) – The Counterclockwise Study on reversing signs of aging

(23:47) – The chambermaid study on mindset and exercise

(25:04) – The wound-healing study on perceived time

(27:24) – The "borderline effect" in medical diagnosis

(29:06) – Why fatigue is largely a psychological construct

Links to great things we discussed: 

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous! 

xo,

Alli

Join Me on Substack – https://wisewomanmethod.com

You’re in the bathroom brushing your teeth, already three meetings ahead in your mind, when that familiar thought slips in: I should be further along by now. If that feeling has been circling you lately, this episode is for you. I break down why real growth is so easy to miss, why your brain is wired to overlook it, and what you can do this week to see the progress you’re actually making.

Timestamps:

(00:26) — The 3 a.m. brain: why "I should be further along" keeps showing up

(01:00) — The real thesis: your scoreboard is broken 

(01:08) — The bamboo story: years underground, then 90 feet in weeks 

(03:08) — Why it's biological: dopamine, cheap hits, and why scrolling feels "productive" 

(04:00) — Meet Becky (the amygdala) and why she wants receipts 

(05:07) — The gradient problem: why slow change goes undetected 

(05:49) — The reframe: it's your capacity that's compounding, not your results

(06:49) — A client story: same revenue, completely different woman 

(07:45) — Where faith comes in: trusting God with what you can't measure yet

(08:24) — This week's homework: the "I can't believe you" letter

(11:00) — Alli's recommendation: get your lab work done

Links to great things we discussed: 

xo,

Alli

Join Me on Substack – https://wisewomanmethod

What does a neuroscientist actually think women in their forties and fifties should be doing for their brains? Dr. Kay Linker has real answers, and they are probably not what you expect.

I sat down with Dr. Linker, a neuroscientist, researcher, and founder of the female longevity supplement brand Aeonian, for one of the most practical and science‑rich conversations we have ever had on this show. We talk about brain health in midlife, the hormones that protect your neurons, the supplements that are worth your time, and the wellness trends that genuinely frustrate Dr. Linker.

No fluff. Just real science explained like your brilliant friend who also happens to have a PhD.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Timestamps:

(03:07) — The dinner party brain fact that makes people put down their forks

(04:04) — Common brain myths smart people still believe (including the 10% myth)

(04:38) — Brain health for women in midlife: creatine, HRT, and what changes at menopause

(06:55) — Alli and Dr. Linker on testosterone: energy, emotional sensitivity, and what surprised them both

(08:33) — The blood-brain barrier explained simply, and why it declines as we age

(10:03) — How omega-3s protect the brain (including from air pollution)

(11:10) — What it means that 90% of brain blood vessels are thinner than a strand of hair

(12:22) — The most damaging things women in midlife are doing to their brains without knowing it

(13:07) — Why leg day is better for your brain than arm day (myokines explained)

(13:45) — The sedentary trap: why working out in the morning doesn't undo sitting all day

(14:51) — Dopamine, estrogen, and why you start new habits in your follicular phase

(16:18) — Why you temporarily cannot stand your husband in your luteal phase (science-backed)

(18:25) — Wellness advice Dr. Linker is tired of seeing spread online

(18:50) — The cycle-syncing productivity trend and the subtle misogyny hiding inside it

(21:09) — Creatine at 10 grams: dreams, afternoon focus, and why women need more

(22:05) — Spermidine vs. urolithin A: autophagy, mitophagy, and longevity explained

(24:41) — Peptides for longevity: the good, the promising, and the ones to know about

(26:01) — GLP-1 microdosing: what the research says beyond weight loss

Links to great things we discussed: 

I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous! 

xo,

Alli