Two Bi Guys

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We've often talked about the solidarity and understanding shared by the bi and trans communities, but there's also a lot of overlap -- many bisexual people are trans or non-binary, and vice-versa. Today, we're spotlighting three bi trans men living in the UK, interviewed by guest-host Gabriel Novo.

Gabriel spoke with Max, a psychotherapist in training; Ash, who's working to make the funeral industry more inclusive for queer and trans folks; and Etienne, an audio engineer who works in film and television. They discussed how and when these men realized they were trans and bisexual (sometimes not at the same time), the coming-out process for each, the value of supportive friends and family (and therapy!), how their bi and trans identities intersect and influence each other, what it's like to transition both emotionally and practically within the UK healthcare system, shifting perspectives and feelings on masculinity during transition, how various facets of identity can affect one's sense of self, TERFs (but only briefly, because they're scary and dumb), the effects of the pandemic on their identities and transitions, and much more!

Thank you to Max, Ash, and Etienne for sharing their stories so openly and authentically, and thank you to Gabriel for his thoughtful and caring interviews.

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham (formerly IFP)

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More links to follow and support Gabriel: https://beacons.page/bisexualnomad

Get ready for a hopeful, optimistic episodes about the casual cruelty of our heteronormative society!

I spoke to my friend Gabriel Novo, aka the "Bisexual Nomad", a Bi+ writer, artist and activist currently living in the UK (and another Birequest alum!). We spoke about bisexual communities we've found (or struggled to find...), how those personal connections helped us go from knowing we "like everyone" to fully embracing a "bisexual" identity, Gabriel's previous marriage to a woman and the difficulties of not being fully out, the "life-changing" mental health benefits of coming out (and the privilege of being able to), the struggle of remaining in the closet at work to protect your livelihood, Gabriel's experience with a cancer diagnosis and treatment and how it related to his queer journey, how to navigate poly relationships and communicate clearly, and the importance of mutual aid and being there to support our chosen queer families.

We also dove into the "casual cruelty of heteronormativity", the harmful constraints of masculinity, the violence resulting from conformity and repression, the difficulty of shaking off expectations (and self-criticism when we play into them), detoxing from being in the closet and from het-masculinity as we become "more" queer, and most importantly the positive benefits of interrogating all those issues, both for ourselves and for our community, as part of a commitment to dismantling patriarchy and white supremacy. It's all possible if we lead with empathy.

Then we answered some listener-submitted questions about masculinity, fear of rejection, being open about our feelings, and media we're consuming with bi themes. So this episode covers... a lot!

AND -- we have a sponsor now! Thank you to MANSCAPED for their support, and check out the episode to hear about our groin-trimming experiences. (Spoiler: smooth balls are actually pretty nice!) Plus get 20% OFF + Free Shipping with promo code TWOBIGUYS at MANSCAPED.com! #ad #manscapedpod

Gabriel will be back next week as a guest-host, so stay tuned!

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham (formerly IFP)

Queerness isn't without its challenges -- many of them serious and potentially harmful -- but at the same time, it's also a gift, one that forces us to look inward and get to know ourselves, one that connects us to a likeminded and supportive community, and one that helps us build the tools to survive and thrive as we move through the varied challenges life throws at us.

In our season 3 premiere, Alex is back and joins Rob to discuss our Pride experiences back in June, how the pansexual movement has been beneficial in making bisexuality more inclusive, the wide spectrum of gender non-binary identities (and how those with cis-passing privilege can use it in solidarity), the special relationship between bisexuality and trans/non-binary identities (yes, again), and the trouble with "chasing". We're also answering listener questions! This week we answered Qs about bi-romantic aces, what "bi-dentifiers" we use in the world to signal our bisexuality or queerness, what media is in our "bi head canon" right now, and more.

Expect episodes on a more regular basis this season! And stay tuned for some bi-conic guests! (And apologies for the poor audio quality on Rob's end -- we're trying out a new system this year, and the issue has been fixed for future episodes.)

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham (formerly IFP)

In our season two finale, Two Bi Guys presents: Three Bi (Married) Guys!

The experience of bisexual people in straight-appearing marriages is one of the most prevalent and yet still invisible among the queer community. Bi+ men are even less likely to be out than women, sometimes keeping the secret from their wives. In this extended episode, Rob interviews three Bi+ men who are (or have been) married to women, plus one of their wives (who is also bisexual), about the challenges and joys of this unique experience. We'll meet Austin from Ohio, who grew up in a conservative Mennonite culture that repressed his same-sex attractions for years; Rene from Chicago, a first-generation Mexican-American bi guy who had a perfect "Disney family" before coming out to his wife; and Howard and Elizabeth from New York, who skipped a few steps by meeting at a bisexual play party and continue to practice ethical non-monogamy.

We discussed how they all came to understand their bisexuality, why and how the men came out to their wives (or future-wives), how their wives dealt with the news and how the relationship moved forward (or didn't), why and how some of them stuck with monogamy while others negotiated opening things up, the importance of queer community within and outside the marriage, biphobia and bi-erasure from friends and family, how their identity affected their kids, and the many other aspects of marriage that intersect with a fluid sexuality.

If you're a bi married guy and are interested in sharing your story anonymously for Rob's ongoing oral history project, please send a message to @TwoBiGuys on Twitter or Instagram with a little bit of your background and story -- but keep in mind that not everyone can be included.

Two Bi Guys will be back for a third season after a summer hiatus! We're planning on bringing in some guest hosts so you can hear from a wider variety of Bi+ and non-binary voices, and we may tweak the format to help get more content out faster, so stay tuned. We are also developing ways to grow this project and develop a community for Bi+ men and all bisexual people -- subscribe and follow us on social media to get updates on all our plans. Thanks for listening to this season of Two Bi Guys!

Two Bi Guys is created and hosted by Alex Boyd and Rob Cohen

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

Season 2 is executive produced by Rob Cohen and produced by Alex Boyd and Moxie Peng, with support from IFP

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You figured us out -- this podcast is just an excuse to talk to our favorite bi porn stars. Can you blame us? Next up is the "king of bisexual porn", Wolf Hudson. We chatted about how porn helped him to discover his own bisexual identity, the struggles of being a "crossover" performer (between the worlds of straight and gay porn) and the benefits of dedicating himself to Bi+ porn specifically, the increasing market for bi porn recently, the persistent and harmful stigma of HIV in the industry, the blurring line between professional and amateur content, all the juicy details about why Wolf enjoys group sex and especially MMF threesomes, and of course how to create a bisexual aura and immerse others in it.

Two Bi Guys is created and hosted by Alex Boyd and Rob Cohen

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

Season 2 is executive produced by Rob Cohen and produced by Alex Boyd and Moxie Peng, with support from IFP

Follow Jacob Engelberg on Twitter at: @criticalprvrsn

Two Bi Guys is created and hosted by Alex Boyd and Rob Cohen

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

Season 2 is executive produced by Rob Cohen and produced by Alex Boyd and Moxie Peng, with support from IFP

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Two Bi Guys is created and hosted by Alex Boyd and Rob Cohen

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

Season 2 is executive produced by Rob Cohen and produced by Alex Boyd and Moxie Peng, with support from IFP

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Two Bi Guys is created and hosted by Alex Boyd and Rob Cohen

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

Season 2 is executive produced by Rob Cohen and produced by Alex Boyd and Moxie Peng, with support from IFP

Two Bi Guys is created and hosted by Alex Boyd and Rob Cohen

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

Season 2 is executive produced by Rob Cohen and produced by Alex Boyd and Moxie Peng, with support from IFP

Two Bi Guys is created and hosted by Alex Boyd and Rob Cohen

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

Season 2 is executive produced by Rob Cohen and produced by Alex Boyd and Moxie Peng, with support from IFP

Mental health and wellbeing resources:

Trevor Project (suicide prevention for LGBTQ+ youth): https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

Suicide Prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

BEAM - Black Emotional And Mental Health: https://www.beam.community/

SAGE - Advocacy & Services for LGBT Elders: https://www.sageusa.org/

Psychology Today (find a therapist): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us

RAINN - Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (& National Sexual Assault Hotline): https://www.rainn.org/

National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/

National Child Abuse Hotline: https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/

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