Unhinged and Healing

She's back — and what a way to return.

In this episode Terri sits down with coach, speaker, and full-blown activator Aymie Alexandra for a conversation that goes there.

Together they unpack the real difference between high standards rooted in self-worth versus ones built as walls to keep love out — and how to tell which one you're living.

They dive deep into the nervous system, why so many women have been dysregulated their entire lives without knowing it, and why shaking your ass to your favorite song might actually regulate you faster than a 20-minute meditation ever could.

Aymie breaks down her powerful framework connecting money and men as mirrors of your internal world — and what your attachment style is quietly revealing about your bank account.

They also get honest about pain kinks, radical accountability, and the part of us that chooses the dynamic we say we hate.

In this episode:

• The difference between expansive standards vs. protective walls Oxytocin as the master regulator for women's nervous systems
• How to know if you're dysregulated (and what to actually do about it)
• Why movement beats meditation for most women
• The money-men mirror and what your patterns are telling you
• Pain kinks, shadow work, and taking radical ownership of your life

Aymie Alexandra is the host of The Full Range Feminine podcast and can be found on Instagram and TikTok @aymie.alexandra

Hey friends — I know it's been a minute. In this episode, I'm catching you up on everything that's been going on behind the scenes. Life threw me a few curveballs, and I wanted to be real with you about why I've been so quiet lately. Thanks for sticking with me — let's get into it.

Episode Highlights:

election, politics, Canada, COVID, media, Trump, Biden, political awareness, conservative, liberal, dossier, political hoaxes, Trump, civil unrest, election, media bias, digital nomadism, migration, political division, leadership

Summary:

In this episode of the Unhinged and Healing Podcast, Terri and Jarrod discuss the current political climate in the US and Canada, reflecting on the impact of the recent elections and the awakening of political consciousness among citizens, particularly during the COVID pandemic. They explore their personal journeys of political awakening, the role of media in shaping opinions, and critique current political figures, including Trump and Kamala Harris. The conversation highlights the confusion and clarity that many have experienced in their political views and the importance of honest dialogue in understanding differing perspectives. In this conversation, Jarrod Evanyshyn and Terri discuss various political themes surrounding Donald Trump, including the concept of a dossier, the perception of Trump in the media, potential civil unrest due to political division, and the importance of the upcoming election. They also touch on the impact of the political climate on migration and the rise of digital nomadism as a means to achieve personal freedom. The discussion emphasizes the need for critical thinking regarding information consumed from media and the opportunities available for individuals seeking to escape traditional work structures.

Takeaways:

• Election day brings a mix of excitement and anxiety.
• The political landscape in Canada is shifting, with surprising support for conservatives. COVID has awakened many to the realities of politics.
• Personal political journeys often involve a process of awakening and questioning.
• Media plays a significant role in shaping public opinion and political views. Confusion about political issues is common, especially during crises.
• Critiques of political figures often reveal deeper societal issues. Honest conversations about politics can bridge divides between differing views.
• Awareness of political realities can lead to greater civic engagement.
• The importance of questioning mainstream narratives in politics.
• Many claims against Trump have been proven false or misleading.
• Civil unrest is a potential outcome of the upcoming election.
• Trump's leadership team is seen as capable and solid.
• People are increasingly seeking to escape the political climate.
• Digital nomadism offers a path to freedom and flexibility.

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Find more of Jarrod: Instagram: @thejarrodevan @thenextdaynomad Linkedin:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jarrodevanyshyn?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=android_app

Episode Highlights:

perfectionism, relationships, shame, self-awareness, personal growth, emotional health, communication, parenting, self-care, mental health

Summary:

In this engaging podcast episode, Terri and Kayla delve into the complexities of perfectionism, its impact on personal and relational dynamics, and the journey towards self-awareness and healing. They explore how perfectionism manifests in various aspects of life, particularly in relationships, and discuss the importance of recognizing shame and fostering self-compassion. The conversation emphasizes the significance of communication, self-care, and the gradual process of personal growth, highlighting that perfectionism is not about achieving flawlessness but about embracing imperfection and learning to navigate life's challenges with grace.

Takeaways:

• Perfectionism can be a protective mechanism developed from childhood stress.
• Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing perfectionistic tendencies.
• Shame often stems from the 'shoulds' we impose on ourselves.
• Consistency in actions is more beneficial than striving for perfection.
• Micro habits can help rebuild trust in oneself.
• Perfectionism can negatively affect relationships and parenting.
• Repairing relationships after conflicts is essential for building trust.
• Every person in our lives reflects our own qualities, both good and bad.
• Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts in relationships.
• Self-care and personal growth are vital for healthy relationships.

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Find more of Kayla on instagram @themedicalperfectionist

Episode Highlights:

autoimmune disease, lupus, journey, lifestyle changes, diagnosis, challenges, blood clots, kidney failure, holistic approach, diet, exercise, blood pressure control, healing, alternative solutions, lupus, autoimmune disorder, remission, lifestyle changes, self-care, stress, trauma, victim mentality, medical system

Summary:

Alex shares his journey with autoimmune disease, specifically lupus, and how he has been able to improve his health through lifestyle changes. He discusses his initial diagnosis and the challenges he faced, including blood clots and kidney failure. Alex emphasizes the importance of a holistic approach to healing, including diet, exercise, and blood pressure control. He also highlights the need to challenge the belief that autoimmune diseases are incurable and encourages others to explore alternative solutions. Alex shares his journey of managing lupus and achieving remission through lifestyle changes and self-care. He emphasizes the importance of knowing your body and being proactive in managing symptoms. Alex also discusses the impact of stress and trauma on autoimmune disorders and the need to take control of your health. He challenges the victim mentality and encourages individuals to empower themselves in their healing journey.

Takeaways:

• Autoimmune diseases, such as lupus, can have a significant impact on a person's life, causing symptoms like blood clots, joint pain, and fatigue.
• A holistic approach to healing, including diet, exercise, and blood pressure control, can help improve symptoms and overall health.
• It is important to challenge the belief that autoimmune diseases are incurable and explore alternative solutions.
• Support from family and a mindset shift can play a crucial role in overcoming the challenges of living with an autoimmune disease.
• Success stories of others who have healed their autoimmune conditions can provide hope and inspiration for those struggling with their own health.
• Lupus can be managed through lifestyle changes and self-care, leading to remission and improved quality of life.
• Knowing your body and being proactive in managing symptoms is crucial for long-term health.
• Stress and trauma can contribute to autoimmune disorders, and it's important to address these factors in the healing process.
• Taking control of your health and empowering yourself is key to overcoming the challenges of living with a chronic illness.
• The medical system often focuses on diagnosing and prescribing medication, rather than prevention and holistic approaches.

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Find more of Alex on instagram @thealexgnydjenko

Episode Highlights:

loss, grief, siblings, drugs, addiction, healing, fentanyl, tragedy, support, rehabilitation, MC, bodybuilding shows, addiction, volunteering, criminal record, drugs, alcohol, rock bottom, coping mechanism, self-sabotage, personal growth

Summary:

Terri and Cory discuss their experiences of losing siblings to drugs and the healing power of sharing their stories. They reflect on the birthdays of their late siblings and the impact of their losses. Cory shares the tragic circumstances of his brother's passing and the challenges his family faced afterward. They discuss the changing landscape of the drug industry, particularly the rise of fentanyl and its devastating effects. They also explore the complexities of addiction and the need for comprehensive support systems and rehabilitation programs. Cory Ossum shares his journey of becoming an MC for bodybuilding shows and his struggle with addiction. He started volunteering for bodybuilding shows and eventually became the MC for multiple shows in Canada and the United States. However, his past history with drugs and a criminal record posed challenges for him. He was arrested for selling cocaine and needed a pardon and waiver to enter the United States. Cory also opens up about his personal struggle with addiction and how it affected his life. He emphasizes the importance of taking control of one's life and making positive changes.

Takeaways:

• Sharing personal stories of loss and grief can be healing and provide support for others who have experienced similar situations.
• The drug industry has changed significantly in recent years, with the rise of fentanyl and its devastating effects.
• Addiction is a complex issue that requires comprehensive support systems and rehabilitation programs.
• Losing a sibling to drugs can have a profound impact on family dynamics and relationships.
• Reintroducing purpose into one's life and surrounding oneself with a supportive community are crucial for recovery from addiction.
• . Cory shares his personal struggle with addiction and the impact it had on his life.
• Taking control of one's life and making positive changes is essential for personal growth and overcoming addiction.

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Find more of Cory on instagram @theossumlife

Episode Highlights:

Burnout, Coaching business, Isolation, Environment, Belief in oneself, Dating as a business owner, Dating, Building a business, Balance, Boundaries, Self-worth, Authenticity, Supportive partners, Perfectionism, Personal growth, Professional growth

Summary:

In this podcast episode, Terri interviews Robyn Clark, a jewelry business coach and mentor. They discuss topics such as burnout, the challenges of building a coaching business, and Robyn's experiences dating as a businesswoman. Robyn shares her perspective on burnout, emphasizing that it is often caused by doing tasks that don't energize you. She also highlights the importance of not isolating yourself and the impact of environment on your well-being. In terms of building a coaching business, Robyn acknowledges that while the strategy may be simple, it is not easy. She emphasizes the need for unshakable belief in yourself and the value of surrounding yourself with supportive people. The conversation then shifts to dating as a business owner, with Robyn sharing her experiences of being both supported and intimidated by men she has dated. In this conversation, Terri and Robyn discuss the challenges of balancing dating and building a business. They share their personal experiences and insights on finding the right balance, setting boundaries, and shifting perspectives in dating. They emphasize the importance of working on oneself, having self-worth, and being authentic in relationships. They also highlight the significance of supportive partners and the need to let go of perfectionism in dating. Overall, the conversation explores the intersection of personal and professional growth in the context of dating and building a business.

Takeaways:

• Burnout can be caused by doing tasks that don't energize you, not just by working too hard. Isolating yourself can contribute to burnout, so it's important to maintain connections and seek support.
• Building a coaching business may have a simple strategy, but it requires inner work, vulnerability, and consistent action.
• Having unshakable belief in yourself and surrounding yourself with supportive people are crucial for success in building a coaching business.
• Dating as a business owner can be challenging, with some men feeling intimidated by a woman's success while others are supportive and understanding.
• Finding balance between dating and building a business requires intentional effort and prioritization.
• Working on oneself and having self-worth are crucial in attracting and maintaining healthy relationships.
• Being authentic and setting boundaries in dating is essential for personal growth and fulfillment.
• Supportive partners play a significant role in creating a fulfilling relationship. Letting go of perfectionism and being open to imperfections in others can lead to deeper connections.

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Find more of Robyn on instagram @robynclarkcoaching

Episode Highlights: separation, divorce, healing, emotions, self-compassion, vulnerability, dating, divorce, fun, funny, humbling, open, detached, lead, appreciation, authenticity, rejection, self-discovery, growth

Summary:

In this conversation, Terri interviews Diera about her experience with separation and divorce. They discuss the decision to split, the challenges of navigating the separation, and the process of healing and moving forward. Diera shares her insights on the importance of feeling and processing emotions, finding self-compassion, and embracing vulnerability. The conversation highlights the beauty and growth that can come from difficult experiences. Dating after divorce can be fun, funny, and humbling. It's important to remain open and detached from the outcome, allowing for new connections and friendships to form. Taking the lead and showing appreciation for men can create a positive dating experience. Authenticity is key, as it allows for genuine connections and attracts those who appreciate the real you. It's important to remember that rejection is a part of dating and shouldn't be taken personally. Overall, dating is a journey of self-discovery and growth.

Takeaways:

• Separation and divorce can be challenging, but it is important to prioritize the well-being and happiness of both individuals involved.
• Feeling and processing emotions is crucial for healing and moving forward after a breakup or separation.
• Self-compassion and self-care are essential during this time of transition. Vulnerability and open communication can lead to deeper connections and understanding in relationships.
• Difficult experiences can provide opportunities for growth and self-discovery. Dating after divorce can be fun, funny, and humbling.
• Remaining open and detached from the outcome allows for new connections and friendships to form.
• Taking the lead and showing appreciation for men can create a positive dating experience.
• Authenticity is key in attracting genuine connections.
• Rejection is a part of dating and shouldn't be taken personally.
• Dating is a journey of self-discovery and growth.

Find more of Diera on instagram @itsdierastory

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In this episode of Tea Time with Terri, Terri and her guest Cory discuss various topics including authenticity, relationships, and the impact of porn on sex life. They share personal experiences and insights, providing a mix of humor and honesty throughout the conversation. The conversation covers the topic of OnlyFans and the normalization of selling one's body on the internet. The speakers discuss their personal views on the platform and the potential consequences for individuals involved. They also touch on the power of salesmanship and the tactics used by Jehovah's Witnesses. The conversation ends with a lighthearted discussion about potential podcast names.

Find more of Cory on instagram @theossumlife

Lance Essihos shares his impactful story of overcoming adversity and finding meaning and purpose in life. He discusses the power of storytelling and how it can heal and connect people. Lance emphasizes the importance of gratitude and how it can shape resilience. He also talks about his journey of personal growth and transformation, including going sober, changing his habits, and embracing practices like meditation and journaling. Lance believes that everyone has the ability to overcome challenges and that adversity can be a catalyst for personal growth and making a difference in the world. In this conversation, Terri and Lance discuss the importance of authenticity and being true to oneself. They explore the idea that everyone is working through their own challenges and that no one has it all together. They emphasize the power of letting go, choosing empowering thoughts, and finding solutions rather than dwelling on problems. They also discuss the fear of stepping into one's power and playing small, and the importance of being confident in who you are. They conclude by highlighting the importance of authenticity in attracting the right people and opportunities in life.

Takeaways:

• Stories have the power to heal and connect people.
• Gratitude can shape resilience and empower individuals to overcome challenges.
• Adversity can be a catalyst for personal growth and finding meaning and purpose in life.
• Changing habits and embracing practices like meditation and journaling can lead to personal transformation.
• Everyone has the ability to overcome challenges and make a difference in the world. Authenticity is a powerful frequency that attracts people, opportunities, and success.
• Everyone is working through their own challenges and no one has it all together.
• Letting go, choosing empowering thoughts, and finding solutions are key to overcoming obstacles.
• Fear of stepping into one's power and playing small can hold people back from reaching their full potential.
• Being confident in who you are and embracing your authenticity is essential for attracting the right people and opportunities in life.