Unladylike

By Unladylike and Stitcher

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What's Unladylike about?

Find out what happens when women break the rules - those unwritten but all too real bullsh*t expectations of how we should live our lives. Cristen Conger and Caroline Ervin (formerly Stuff Mom Never Told You) tackle questions through their trademark obsessive research, stories from rule-breakin’ ladies and a solid dose of delightful feminist rage.

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Winter Break: How to Feel Sad

12.10.2019

For the month of December, Cristen and Caroline are revisiting some of their favorite Unladylike episodes. First up, they dive into the feels. Women's anger is all the rage, but why does showing our sadness feel weak? Nora McInerny (Terrible, ...

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12.10.2019 Winter Break: How to Feel Sad For the month of December, Cristen and Caroline are revisiting some of their favorite Unladylike episodes. First up, they dive into the feels. Women's anger is all the rage, but why does showing our sadness feel weak? Nora McInerny (Terrible, ...
12.03.2019 How to Flush the Poop-triarchy By listener request, Caroline and Cristen go full potty mouth on the ladylike poop taboo and its real-deal side effects. With help from a sh*t-talking doctor and a pair of "poop friends," they find out why women are twice as ...
11.26.2019 How to Take Fashion Seriously Before Mari Kondo-ing your closet, consider this: the average American throws away 80 pounds of clothes each year, and only a fifth of what's donated survives secondhand. Unladylike producer Sam Lee takes Cristen and Caroline along on her mission to ...
11.19.2019 How to Marry Off Maiden Names Women marrying off their "maiden names" is one of the most enduring gender traditions — and feminist conundrums. Cristen and Caroline pop the questions: What's it really like to choose your maiden name choice, and how does family, race and ...
11.12.2019 How to Spell 'The L Word' with Ilene Chaiken In early 2000s Hollywood, Ilene Chaiken did the seemingly impossible, co-creating and running a hit TV show entirely about lesbians and queer women. But the iconic television writer, producer and occasional director is no one-hit wonder. Caroline and Cristen talk ...
11.05.2019 How to Unbridle Horse Girls with Lisa Hanawalt Saddle up for a ride through horse-girl country. First, Bojack Horseman designer Lisa Hanawalt shares her personal horse-tery and why horse girls' passion is so often misunderstood. Then, Cristen and Caroline ride along with writer Gray Chapman to one of ...
10.29.2019 How to Demystify Vaginas with Dr. Jen Gunter For most of medical history, vulvas and vaginas have been mythologized as too dirty, dainty and/or deformed. But gynecologist Jen Gunter is on a mission to detox that douchebaggery. Cristen and Caroline get a check-up on what it really takes ...
10.22.2019 How to Take on Politics with June Diane Raphael & Jessica Yellin When politics feels like dumpster fire, how do we still take it on without losing our minds? Actor and activist June Diane Raphael is here to help us reconsider what running for office looks like and how to get started. ...
10.15.2019 How to Be 'The Bisexual' with Desiree Akhavan When queerness is out of the closet, what does bisexuality even mean? For bisexual Iranian-American filmmaker Desiree Akhavan, the answer is . . . complicated. Cristen and Caroline talk to Desiree about fitting in, coming out and unlearning rom-com lies ...
10.08.2019 How to Dive Into Fear Underwater cave explorer Jill Heinerth has dived deeper inside Earth's inner space than any other woman in history, pursuing one of the most dangerous jobs on the planet. This episode, Caroline and Cristen channel their inner mermaids to discover what ...
10.01.2019 How Score Equal Pay in Soccer The US Women's National Soccer Team might be wrapping up their World Cup victory tour, but their equal pay lawsuit is far from over. With assists from Meg Linehan of The Athletic and Maya Raghu from the National Women's Law ...
09.24.2019 How to Be Da Baddest Bitch in Hip-Hop Rap queens are rarely allowed to reign more than one at a time, but Megan Thee Stallion and City Girls are leading a whole stable of up-n-coming female emcees and hip-hop artists blowing up that ladylike standard. Bottom of the ...
09.17.2019 How to Own Your Talent with Ashley Nicole Black Comedy writer and actor Ashley Nicole Black knows what she's good at. But that almost derailed her path to landing "Full Frontal with Samantha Bee" and now co-starring on HBO's "A Black Lady Sketch Show." Find out how Ashley flipped ...
08.06.2019 How to Self Help Yourself What happens when you live out self-help advice? Cristen and Caroline find out from By the Book co-hosts Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg. The pair has done exactly that with more than 50 self-improvement books, including The Secret, Girl Wash ...
07.30.2019 How To Wear Too Much Makeup What happens when we wear makeup like war paint? Best-selling author R.O. Kwon confronts 'China doll' stereotypes with eyeshadow. Then, activist Jacob Tobia flips off the gender binary with a bold lip and five o'clock shadow. Unladylike: A Field Guide ...
07.25.2019 Introducing The Secret Lives of Black Women Here’s a new podcast for you! On The Secret Lives of Black Women, join close friends Charla Lauriston and Lauren Domino on their hunt for the ‘secrets’ that have helped black women flourish through the bullsh*t. They connect with guests ...
07.23.2019 How to Kick Off High Heels at Work After Nicola Thorp was fired for refusing to wear high heels on the job in 2015, she called bullsh*t all the way to British Parliament. Because from banks to bars, it’s not unusual for workplaces around the world to expect ...
07.16.2019 Unladylike Hotline Advice-A-Thon Find out what happens when C&C open the Unladylike Hotline to take listeners' calls, live 'n' unrehearsed. From politics and pregnancy to breakups and bridesmaid bad vibes, y'all asked, and we answered . . . and probably overshared. Unladylike: A ...
07.09.2019 How to Be a Phone Sex Operator Like stripping, commercial phone sex is a form of legal sex work—AND you can do it from home in pajamas. But what does the job really entail? C & C called up longtime phone sex operator and CEO Sera Miles ...
07.02.2019 How to Get Schooled on Title IX Sexual harassment is a typical part of the K-12 school day, so why do we only talk about it on college campuses? Even though Title IX enshrines harassment-free education for all students -- from pre-k through higher ed -- most ...
06.25.2019 How to Create Feminist Superheroes Sana Amanat has been called the "Shonda Rhimes of Marvel Comics" and an IRL superhero. C&C explore how this awkward-teen-turned-visionary-VP has helped lead an inclusive superhero comics revolution and what it takes to create actually feminist sheroes — whether fanboys ...
06.18.2019 How to Say What You Want with Geena Davis Geena Davis is so outspoken about Hollywood's women problems, she founded a think-tank to bring the research receipts. But speaking up didn't come naturally for the Academy Award winner and feminist pop cultural icon. Live from the Bentonville Film Festival, ...
06.11.2019 How to Solve Math Probs Caroline and Cristen are going to couple's therapy — for math — with educator and stereotype-disrupter, Vanessa Vakharia. Bad-at-math baggage is easy to pick up, and Vanessa's here to teach C&C and some unladylike callers how to put it down ...
06.04.2019 How to Wear Body Hair, Part 3 For Sikh women like Sukhjit Kaur Khalsa, head-to-toe hairiness isn't just normal - it's sacred. In the final episode of our three-part body hair miniseries, we follow Sukhjit as she navigates faith, feminism and baring her hair from the schoolyard ...
05.28.2019 How to Wear Body Hair, Part 2 Hairy feminists have haunted pop culture since the suffrage days, but is it time to give up those ghosts? In part two of a three-part miniseries on body hair politics, Caroline and Cristen explore how feminism and body hair became ...
05.21.2019 How to Wear Body Hair, Part 1 with Sasheer Zamata Pit hair might be having a moment, but more than 90 percent of American women still choose to remove it. In the first episode of a three-part miniseries spilling all our body hair secrets, Cristen and Caroline talk to comedian ...
04.17.2019 Embracing Swimsuit Season Pep Talk: Jessamyn Stanley Help us win a Webby Award! Vote now at wbby.co/vote-pod16 We're bringing you something special in the feed today... a pep talk! Nothing summons the body blues quite like “swimsuit season” (yes, even if you're a feminist!). So, yoga queen ...
04.09.2019 How to Zine It Yourself DIY zines are having an IRL revival, but it's not the riot grrrl 90s all over again. Cristen and Caroline go on a cross-country zine-quest to find out why these handmade mags mean so much to today's creators, fans and ...
04.02.2019 How to Curse Like a F*cking Lady Why is cursing still considered so effing unladylike, and how does swearing affect how women are heard? Caroline and Cristen decode the unspoken gender rules in our taboo talk with Australian linguist Kate Burridge who knows pretty much everything you’d ...
03.26.2019 How to Toot Your Own Horn From band class to the orchestra pit, girls are rarely encouraged to toot their own horns. In fact, brass sections are one of the boys-clubbiest corners of the musical world. To find out the wild reasons why, Cristen and Caroline ...
03.19.2019 How to Free the 90s Bitch The 1990s were supposed to be the "decade of women," but it became all about the bitches instead. Caroline and Cristen put on their velvet chokers for a feminist 90s-nostalgia trip with journalist Allison Yarrow, author of 90s Bitch: Media, ...
03.12.2019 How to Be Brutally Honest BFFs with Allison Raskin and Gaby Dunn How do you stay honest with your besties - even when the truth might hurt? Few know better than comedy partners Gaby Dunn and Allison Raskin. Through their popular YouTube channel and new podcast, Just Between Us, Gaby and Allison ...
03.05.2019 How to Feel Sad :( Women's anger is all the rage, but why does showing our sadness feel weak? Nora McInerny from the podcast Terrible, Thanks For Asking shares how she started claiming her sadness space, even while falling in love again. Then, Therapy for ...
02.26.2019 How to Tie the Knot Birth control is relatively easy to come by — so long as it's temporary. But if you're young and/or childfree, permanent birth control (aka sterilization) remains a stunningly controversial choice to choose. To find out why, Cristen and Caroline join ...
02.19.2019 How to Turn 30 with Amanda Seales Comedian and actor Amanda Seales is having a breakout moment - on her own terms. Cristen and Caroline talk to the hilarious gem-dropper and self-identified late-bloomer about why turning 30 was a major milestone for finding authentic success and reclaiming ...
02.12.2019 How to Fall in Love with Herpes Herpes is super common and manageable but it's constantly the butt of jokes. And that punchline stigma can throw a major wrench into romance. So, this Valentine's Day, we're unpacking the herpes rom-com with help from two Unladylike listeners who ...
02.05.2019 How to Slay Sexism Like a Professional When workplace sexism smacks us in the lady lumps, we can't always just clock out. So how can we handle it like a pro? Cristen and Caroline talk to author and podcaster Hillary Frank about her skirmish with the "special ...
01.29.2019 How to Leave Dietland, Pt. 2 In part two of our unladylike diet culture detox, Cristen and Caroline confront how body issues bond mothers and daughters and the subtle slimming messages we're fed by our families. They also uncover an historical bombshell about white feminism and ...
01.22.2019 How to Leave Dietland, Pt. 1 with Joy Nash Each new year serves up a new season of empty weight-loss promises and pressure to size down. But what if we could detox from diet culture and claim our space instead? In this first episode of a two-part series, Cristen ...
01.18.2019 BONUS - Focus On: The Equal Rights Amendment We've got a brand new season coming your way starting January 22! But in the meantime, we're sharing something we think you'll like. Our friends at Focus Features have a podcast episode all about the Equal Rights Amendment. And it's ...
12.04.2018 How to #FreeTheVibrator Y'all, we are on a mission to #FreeTheVibrator from society's ladylike hangups. Because even though women founders, designers, and engineers are increasingly claiming their space in today’s booming, $15-billion sex toy and sextech industries, the biz behind the buzz is ...
11.27.2018 How to Find a Lesbian Bar Did you know that San Francisco, aka America’s queer capital, is currently home to ZERO bars exclusively for queer women? Ditto for Los Angeles, Portland, Chicago, New Orleans, and a growing number of cities around the country. So why have ...
11.20.2018 How to Slam Dunk To dunk or not to dunk? For women's basketball, this has long been the question. It’s the ‘wow factor’ that WNBA haters often point to as proof that the women's game doesn't deserve the fandom, fame and fortune that the ...
11.13.2018 How to Get A Rape Kit This is not another depressing AF story about the rape kit backlog. Instead, unladylike hero and sexual assault nurse examiner Trisha Sheridan tells Cristen and Caroline everything we didn't know we needed to know about what's in a rape kit ...
11.06.2018 How to Run for President Even if women sweep the 2018 midterm elections, they will still occupy less than a third of congressional seats. So, what does the political pipeline look like for today’s Tracy Flicks and Olivia Popes who are dreaming about running in ...
10.30.2018 How to Be Positively Morbid As morticians, funeral directors, taxidermists, and all-around mortality enthusiasts, women of the death-positive movement are out to radically disrupt — and reclaim — our end-of-life culture and care. Order of the Good Death director Sarah Chavez helps Caroline and Cristen ...
10.23.2018 How to Diagnose Gaslighting Docs Women go to the doctor more often than men but our aches and pains tend to be taken less seriously by physicians. To learn more about why patients are losing their patience, Cristen and Caroline talk to Allison Behringer about ...
10.16.2018 Unladylike Presents: This Is the Author As y'all know, we released our book a couple weeks ago, Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space. And as part of recording our audiobook, we were invited to make an episode of This is ...
10.16.2018 How to Change A Tire Don't know jack about loosening lug nuts and swapping in a spare? You're definitely not alone. But why don't more women know how to change a tire? And where did the boys-only rules about car care come from anyway? Today, ...
10.10.2018 Unladylike Presents: Sold In America Here’s something new from the team here at Stitcher: Journalist and activist Noor Tagouri grew up thinking she knew everything about sex trafficking in the U.S. But when she embarks on a deeply personal, deeply reported journey, taking listeners into ...

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Unladylike episodes:

Winter Break: How to Feel Sad

How to Flush the Poop-triarchy

How to Take Fashion Seriously

How to Marry Off Maiden Names

How to Spell 'The L Word' with Ilene Chaiken

How to Unbridle Horse Girls with Lisa Hanawalt

How to Demystify Vaginas with Dr. Jen Gunter

How to Take on Politics with June Diane Raphael & Jessica Yellin

How to Be 'The Bisexual' with Desiree Akhavan

How to Dive Into Fear

How Score Equal Pay in Soccer

How to Be Da Baddest Bitch in Hip-Hop

How to Own Your Talent with Ashley Nicole Black

How to Self Help Yourself

How To Wear Too Much Makeup

Introducing The Secret Lives of Black Women

How to Kick Off High Heels at Work

Unladylike Hotline Advice-A-Thon

How to Be a Phone Sex Operator

How to Get Schooled on Title IX

How to Create Feminist Superheroes

How to Say What You Want with Geena Davis

How to Solve Math Probs

How to Wear Body Hair, Part 3

How to Wear Body Hair, Part 2

How to Wear Body Hair, Part 1 with Sasheer Zamata

Embracing Swimsuit Season Pep Talk: Jessamyn Stanley

How to Zine It Yourself

How to Curse Like a F*cking Lady

How to Toot Your Own Horn

How to Free the 90s Bitch

How to Be Brutally Honest BFFs with Allison Raskin and Gaby Dunn

How to Feel Sad :(

How to Tie the Knot

How to Turn 30 with Amanda Seales

How to Fall in Love with Herpes

How to Slay Sexism Like a Professional

How to Leave Dietland, Pt. 2

How to Leave Dietland, Pt. 1 with Joy Nash

BONUS - Focus On: The Equal Rights Amendment

How to #FreeTheVibrator

How to Find a Lesbian Bar

How to Slam Dunk

How to Get A Rape Kit

How to Run for President

How to Be Positively Morbid

How to Diagnose Gaslighting Docs

Unladylike Presents: This Is the Author

How to Change A Tire

Unladylike Presents: Sold In America

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