Unlearned

By Jaime Mahler and CA Rhoades

This is a podcast all about deconstructing who we are and exploring who we are becoming.... more

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How many episodes does Unlearned have?

The podcast currently has 74 episodes available.

Unlearned episodes:

December 12, 2022Ep. 33: We Hate Gratitude
Gratitude seems simple, but what about when societal expectations make us feel like we are forced to bypass our feelings to show it? CA and Jaime discuss how gratitude can be used as a weapon, how societal pressures of showing it affects those who are neurodivergent, the importance of authentic gratitude, and more.

Notes:
The origins of gratitude
How the way we are taught gratitude affects how we see it as adults

Gratitude and guilt

Social constructs and neurodiversity

Why bypassing your feelings to show gratitude can be dangerous

Gratitude and gaslighting

What does genuine gratitude look and feel like

Weaponized gratitude
Links:
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/

Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/

Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself

CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/

CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned

Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
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1h 9min
December 05, 2022Ep. 32: Religious Trauma: Part 6 - A Conversation with Rev Karla
Jaime and CA close their series on Religious Trauma by speaking with Rev Karla, an ordained, interfaith, interspiritual minister who helps people who are deconstructing from Christianity to reclaim their spirituality so they can live with authenticity free from the dogma of their religious heritage, about the difficulty of separating from the fear-based, strongly patriarchal, indoctrination of modern day of Christianity.
*This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.*
Rev Karla’s website: https://www.revkarla.com/
Recommended Reading:
Zealot by Reza Aslan How Jesus Became God by Bart Ehrman Resurrecting Jesus by Adyashanti

Why Christianity Must Change or Die by John Shelby Spong What is the Bible? by Rob Bell
Previous Episodes in the Series
Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1 ⁠

⁠Part 2: Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking”⁠

⁠Part 3: Ep. 29: Religious Trauma: Part 3 - The “Hell” Narrative ⁠

⁠Part 4: Ep. 30: Religious Trauma: Part 4 - Is Pleasure Evil? ⁠

⁠Part 5: Ep. 31: Religious Trauma: Part 5 - Skills
Notes:
Introducing Rev Karla

Rejecting the fear-based, strongly patriarchal, indoctrination of religion

Why the language used in the Bible is inaccurate to how we’ve evolved as humans

How going to the seminary opened Karla’s eyes

Books that helped Karla open her mind to the reality of modern Christianity

How do we start to break away from religious indoctrination?

Why some religions fear holistic teachings

How to respond to “the church didn’t hurt you - an individual did”

How to take responsibility as a Christian

Grieving the loss of your faith

A message of hope for those struggling with their faith
Links:
BEYOND THE WOUND -RELIGIOUS TRAUMA CONFERENCE : https://www.beyondthewound.com

Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/

Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/

Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself

CA’s Instagram: https://innstagram.com/embracingdivergence/

CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned

Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
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1h 22min
November 30, 2022Ep. 31: Religious Trauma: Part 5 - Skills
CA and Jaime continue their series on Religious Trauma by discussing the skills needed to start deconstruction by exploring their individual paths to freedom.
*This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.*
Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1 ⁠

⁠Part 2: Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking”⁠

⁠Part 3: Ep. 29: Religious Trauma: Part 3 - The “Hell” Narrative ⁠

⁠Part 4: Ep. 30: Religious Trauma: Part 4 - Is Pleasure Evil? ⁠

⁠Part 5: Ep. 31: Religious Trauma: Part 5 - Skills
Notes:
Where does deconstruction begin?

Why widening your social network is so important

How to create space for your mind

CA and Jaimie discuss their personal journeys

Why curiosity is so important

Vertical versus horizontal morality
Links:

BEYOND THE WOUND -RELIGIOUS TRAUMA CONFERENCE : https://www.beyondthewound.com

Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/

Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/

Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself

CA’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/

CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned

Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
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1h 9min
November 21, 2022Ep. 30: Religious Trauma: Part 4 - Is Pleasure Evil?
Why is Trunk-or-Treating ok while Trick-or-Treating is bad? What’s the difference between yoga and mindful movement? Jaime and CA continue their series on religious trauma by diving into the cross-section of joy, pleasure, and religion by asking why some things are ok while some things are not.
*This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.*
Previous Episodes in the Series
Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1 ⁠

⁠Part 2: Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking”⁠

⁠Part 3: Ep. 29: Religious Trauma: Part 3 - The “Hell” Narrative ⁠

⁠Part 4: Ep. 30: Religious Trauma: Part 4 - Is Pleasure Evil? ⁠

⁠Part 5: Ep. 31: Religious Trauma: Part 5 - Skills

Notes:
The reason why religion teaches people to be leery of joy and pleasure

How faith makes you believe that joy and pleasure are evil

Questioning what makes you feel happy
How religion closes off the conversation about non-religious things
Links:
BEYOND THE WOUND -RELIGIOUS TRAUMA CONFERENCE : https://www.beyondthewound.com
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/

Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/

Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself

CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/

CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned

Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
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55min
November 14, 2022 Ep. 29: Religious Trauma: Part 3 - The “Hell” Narrative
CA and Jaime continue their series on religious trauma by digging into how the black-and-white “Hell Narrative” can be incredibly dangerous to our relationships and psyche.
*This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.*
Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1
Part 2: Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking”
Notes:
The moment you realize that you need to start having conversations about religion
The problem with the “if you’re not with us you’re against us” belief system
Getting censored for wanting to have authentic discussions about your faith
How religion can cause you to be your own bully
Links:
BEYOND THE WOUND -RELIGIOUS TRAUMA CONFERENCE : https://www.beyondthewound.com
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
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53min
November 07, 2022 Ep. 28: Religious Trauma: Part 2 “The Sin of Thinking”
Jaime and CA continue their series on religious trauma by exploring how religion’s attempts to control our thoughts and emotions affect us both now and in the future.
*This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.*
Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1
Notes:
Recapping part 1
How repressing “sinful” thoughts and emotions damages you
What is spiritual bypassing and how is it harmful?
What about exploratory thoughts?
Links:
BEYOND THE WOUND -RELIGIOUS TRAUMA CONFERENCE : https://www.beyondthewound.com
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
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55min
November 03, 2022 Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1
CA and Jaime introduce us to a series of episodes based on religious trauma. In this episode, they define religious trauma and explore where it comes from and how it happens.
*This episode and the series on religious trauma as a whole may be especially triggering to certain listeners.*
Notes:
Defining trauma
Defining complex trauma
Defining religious trauma
Why religious trauma is so harmful
Why religious indoctrination at such a young age can damage your sense of self
Understanding righteous anger
How religious indoctrination starts
How religion moves from love to fear and how that can affect us
Links:
BEYOND THE WOUND -RELIGIOUS TRAUMA CONFERENCE : https://www.beyondthewound.com
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
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1h 16min
October 24, 2022Ep. 26: Relationships Are Earned Not Owed
Some relationships stay on the surface level and that’s ok, but sometimes we want to experience deeper intimacy with specific people. Jaime and CA explore what happens when we seek out more authentic relationships, what to expect, how to handle the emotional changes, and more.
Notes:
Seeking out deeper and more authentic relationships

What happens when we seek deeper relationships with people who aren’t ready

Why roles don’t automatically define the deepness of a relationship

How to authentically participate in a relationship by changing your expectations

Understanding where tension comes from and how to navigate it

What you may face when you decide to show up authentically
Links:
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/

Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/

Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself

CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/

CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned

Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
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1h 17min
October 20, 2022 Ep. 25: When You Are Ready And They Aren’t
Truth is not always black and white and as we grow and learn (or unlearn) our definition of it changes. At some point, we may be ready to step and tell our truth, but what happens if the people we are speaking to aren’t ready or willing to hear it? Join CA and Jaime as they discuss the challenge of not only living our authentic lives but sharing that authenticity with others.
Notes:
Why living authentically is important
Being ready to talk when others aren’t ready to listen
The challenge of speaking your truth to people who may not be ready to hear it
How self-preservation affects telling your truth
The reality of truth
Allowing people to evolve without trying to own their identity
Links:
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
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1h 2min
October 10, 2022 Ep. 24 When Love=Control
Control can take many forms in relationships. One of those is by putting up boundaries and saying, “no” as an attempt to control, often without even realizing it. In this episode, Jaime and CA explore the role of control in relationships, where it comes from, and what we can to do break the cycle.
Notes:
Where do we learn to love?
How love can be controlling
How do we approach shifting dynamics in a relationship?
How shifting dynamics provide opportunities for growth
The importance of asking ourselves why we say “no”
The importance of knowing your asks
What to do when your partner refuses to stop controlling you?
Links:
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
...more
51min

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How many episodes does Unlearned have?

The podcast currently has 74 episodes available.

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