Unlearned

Unlearned

By Jaime Mahler and CA RhoadesHealth & FitnessMental Health
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Unlearned episodes

  • Ep. 43: Privacy or Secrecy

    We have the right to a little bit of privacy in our relationships, but do we have the right to secrecy? What’s the difference? Join CA and Jaime as they explore how secrecy and privacy affect relationships through a thoughtful discussion full of various scenarios.

    Notes:

    • Privacy or Secrecy - an example
    • Hallmarks of secrecy
    • What is secrecy?
    • How to have the conversation around privacy
    • When privacy turns into secrecy
    • Do you owe people an explanation?
    • Why do people need to have secrets?
    • Where consent comes into play
    • When privacy gets violated
    • Links:

      • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
      • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
      • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
      • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
      • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
      • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
      • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
      • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
      • 1 hr 6 min
      • Ep. 42: Complex Trauma Basics

        There is a lot of discussion about trauma on social media nowadays, but what is it? Are there different kinds? Can one type of trauma hurt more than another? In this episode, Jaime and CA explore the different types of trauma, how to identify and recognize it, as well as how to process it.

        Notes:

        • End Scene
        • Learning how to recognize and then name traumas
        • Why recognizing complex trauma is so difficult
        • The difference between big T trauma and little t trauma
        • Using the DRIP acronym to identify complex trauma
        • Defining incidental trauma
        • Defining PTSD
        • Processing your trauma
        • How to handle triggering moments
        • Links:

          • Episode 1: Self-Consent During Healing
          • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
          • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
          • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
          • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
          • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
          • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
          • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
          • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
          • 1 hr 8 min
          • Ep. 41: Letting Go of Old Stories

            Our trauma can create certain narratives in our brains. What happens when we encounter similar, but not identical situations in relationships that have nothing to do with that trauma? CA and Jaime explore why we need to create new narratives based on current events, not our past, and exactly how to do so.

            Notes:

            • How the brain builds narratives
            • How the brain interferes with current or new relationships
            • Building the skills that allow me to write narratives in a new way
            • When we should and shouldn’t ignore the issue
            • How to practice processing tension
            • “Yeah, but remember….”
            • The importance of pattern recognition
            • How to put this all together
            • Links:


              • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
              • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
              • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
              • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
              • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
              • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
              • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
              • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
              • 58 min
              • Ep. 40: Ultimatums & Boundaries

                We hear a lot about boundaries, but what are they and how do we put them into practice? What happens when someone pushes them? Join Jaime and CA for an in-depth exploration of both ultimatums and boundaries by not only explaining, but with their signature style of roleplaying, as well.

                Notes:

                • What are boundaries?
                • What are ultimatums?
                • How boundaries create safety
                • How to set boundaries while respecting other people’s boundaries
                • Boundaries versus politics
                • How to handle boundaries regarding personal beliefs
                • What happens when boundaries are weaponized?
                • Links:

                  • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
                  • Episode 22: https://open.spotify.com/episode/57iIaflPAoZk7CnhOVYvhr?si=dc9e8e8694b64980
                  • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
                  • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
                  • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
                  • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
                  • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
                  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
                  • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]

                  • 48 min
                  • Ep. 39: The Justification Trap

                    You will make some changes during your healing journey. What happens when your loved ones question these changes? What if they don’t agree with them? CA and Jaime explore how to have these conversations without falling into the trap of justifying our healed selves with an in-depth exploration and a bit of roleplay.

                    Notes:

                    • Justification versus clarification during dialogs about our recovery
                    • Why conversations around recovery and healing tend to be cyclical
                    • Navigating the traps
                    • Why do we feel the need to justify our decisions?
                    • Why justification tends not to work
                    • Finding peace and accepting differences
                    • When to walk away
                    • Clarifying without seeking approval
                    • Links:

                      • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
                      • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
                      • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
                      • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
                      • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
                      • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
                      • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
                      • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]

                      • 1 hr 3 min
                      • Ep. 38: Holding Yourself Hostage in Your Own Recovery

                        So you’re on your way to recovery. What about the people who only recognize the old you? What about those moments of panic where you feel yourself slipping back into the person you once were? Jaime and CA explore how we can hold ourselves hostage during the recovery process as well as how to negotiate our way out of the situation.

                        Notes:

                        • Why looking back at who you used to be is so difficult
                        • Why it’s important to hold yourself accountable
                        • How do we learn to trust that the newer version of ourselves is the default?
                        • Interacting with people who only know the old you
                        • Getting stuck in the worse parts of our past lives
                        • Making amends with your past self
                        • How shame can both help and hurt you
                        • The importance of being both understanding of and forgiving to your past self
                        • Reaching out to make amends and leaving that shame space
                        • Moving forward with curiosity and compassion
                        • The importance of context
                        • Links:

                          • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
                          • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
                          • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
                          • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
                          • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
                          • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
                          • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
                          • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
                          • 53 min
                          • Ep. 37: Intention vs. Impact

                            If someone does something that hurts you but they didn't mean to hurt you are they at fault? What if they know those actions hurt you? What if they don't agree? CA and Jaime explore these questions and more as they discuss people's intentions vs the impact of their actions.

                            Notes:

                            • An example of intention vs impact
                            • The importance of communication about expectations
                            • The difference between actual unintentional acts versus lies
                            • How even simple expectations can become imprisoning
                            • How each party is responsible for the intentions and impacts in a relationship
                            • Why do we not just tell people what bothers us?
                            • Why authenticity and accountability are so important
                            • When does ignorance become manipulation?
                            • How do we navigate all of this in a healthy way?

                            • Links:

                              • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
                              • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
                              • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
                              • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
                              • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
                              • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
                              • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
                              • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
                              • 49 min
                              • Ep. 36: Why You Hate Your Resolutions

                                On the first episode of 2023 CA and Jaime start 2023 with an in-depth exploration of why New Year’s Resolutions hardly ever seem to work out. They discuss the differences between internal and external resolutions, healthy and not-so-healthy ones, wantingness and willingness, burnout, and more.

                                Notes:

                                • We’re back!
                                • Sharing this year’s vision for the podcast
                                • New Year - New Resolutions
                                • Where do New Year’s resolutions come from?
                                • The difference between healthy and nonhealthy resolutions
                                • Internal versus external resolutions
                                • Wantingness versus willingness
                                • Where does burnout come from?
                                • How to choose the right New Year’s resolutions
                                • Links:

                                  • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
                                  • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
                                  • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
                                  • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
                                  • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
                                  • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
                                  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
                                  • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
                                  • 57 min
                                  • Ep. 35: 2022 Wrapped

                                    We did it! Jaime and CA jump on the mic for one final episode of the podcast for 2022. Join them as they take a look back at their first year of podcasting, explore some of the themes of the previous episodes, and look forward to 2023 and beyond.

                                    Notes:

                                    • We did it!
                                    • 2022 Spotify Wrapped
                                    • Favorite Episodes
                                    • Jaime and CA’s Favorite Clips
                                    • Links:

                                      • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
                                      • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
                                      • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
                                      • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
                                      • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
                                      • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
                                      • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
                                      • 1 hr 11 min
                                      • Ep. 34: Failed Classes And Lessons Learned

                                        In this freewheeling, personal, and at times hilarious episode, Jaime and CA sit down for a game of “We're Not Really Strangers” a purpose driven card game and movement all about empowering meaningful connections during their last official podcast of 2022.

                                        Notes:

                                        • What fast food restaurant do you think I'm most likely to drive through and what's my order?
                                        • What subject do you think I thrived on in school? Did I fail any?
                                        • Have you ever told someone, “I love you” and didn’t mean it? If so, why?
                                        • What lesson took you the longest to unlearn?
                                        • Links:

                                          • “We’re Not Really Strangers:” https://www.werenotreallystrangers.com/
                                          • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
                                          • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
                                          • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
                                          • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
                                          • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
                                          • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
                                          • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
                                          • 1 hr 10 min

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