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- EP 18: Setting Boundaries
In this episode, we explore boundaries and how we’re learning to set them. Boundaries are a big part of creating a healthy relationship. We were taught that boundaries are not for your loved ones, which isn’t true! It’s actually a great way to build a strong foundation of a relationship. Boundaries help us love each other the way we need. It creates connections and understanding of one another. We’re unlearning and relearning how to set boundaries in our every day lives; at work, with our families/friends, with each other, and ourselves! The goal isn’t to get it perfect, but to keep trying.
Book Mentioned: Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover TawwabUNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKSFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcastMusic Production: LAZYASSKID51 min - EP 17: Mother's Day
In this episode, we reflected on our relationship with our moms. Charlotte's mom had her young and was a single mother for a period of time. Thony's mom raised him in a traditional household. As we got older, our relationship naturally evolved. We've learned to humanize our moms by listening to their stories and seeing the many roles they play. We are grateful for the sacrifices they've made and for the life they have given us. The relationships we have with our moms aren't perfect but we wouldn't want to go through this process of unlearning without them. Our moms did the best they could with the knowledge they had. To all the mothers and mother figures listening, thank you for all that you do!
UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast
Music Production: LAZYASSKID
39 min - EP 16: The Point of Awareness w/ Gloria Chavvez
On this episode, Gloria Chavvez joins us to chat about all things healing, codependency, and being an introvert. Gloria is a mental health advocate and a Latinx creative that enjoys sharing perspectives that inspire and help others on their healing journey. We appreciate the time, stories, wisdom, and advice Gloria shared with us. This episode is just a glimpse of the amazing content Gloria makes on TikTok for her 39.7K followers. Please be sure to follow Gloria on the links listed below and support her merch!
GLORIA CHAVVEZ’S SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gloria_chavvez
Instagram: https://instagram.com/gloria_chavvez
Gloria’s Merch: https://www.bonfire.com/grow-as-you-go-gloriachavvezmerch/
UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast
Music Production: LAZYASSKID
56 min - EP 15: Healing
In this episode, we shared what we’re trying to heal from and how it looks like for us. As a couple who are own their separate healing journey, we are still figuring out how we can support one another. One thing we’ve learned is to just meet each other where we are and respecting the differences we have when it comes to healing. Whether it’s giving each other the space to practice our self-care or creating time/capacity to listen and validate. We hope this episode makes you feel less alone as you’re processing your healing. Be proud of yourself and give yourself grace. We’re in this together!
UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast
Music Production: LAZYASSKID
34 min - EP 14: Get Ugly with MaileeOn this episode, Mailee interviews us…. but no really, how did she turn the tables on us? Mailee is many things but what we love most about her is that she is unapologetically herself. Her raw honesty of the “ugly” sides of healing was a reminder to us that we never have it all figured out but it doesn’t mean we aren’t healing. Creating the awareness of the “ugly” is what helps us bloom. She made us dig deeper, laugh and learn more about each other. This episode is a perfect example of what a conversation with Mailee is like. Don’t forget to follow Mailee and listen to her podcast for vulnerable conversations! Mailee’s links are listed below.TW: sexual assaultMAILEE’S SOCIAL MEDIA LINKSPodcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2HuSDP30SJP0rsmeLYX1Jl?si=-baNTPUITlieqGep1jjOUgFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100077033616406UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKSFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcastMusic Production: LAZYASSKID1 hr 9 min
- EP 13: the time we almost broke upIn this episode we reflected on the time we almost broke up. Sometimes the best way to heal a relationship is by taking the focus off the relationship and to start looking within ourselves. We spent a lot of time reflecting on how we contributed to the challenges and the work we need to do to heal our past in order to move forward. One thing we’ve learned is there’s not a wrong choice when it comes breaking up or staying together. We all have different capacities when it comes to the things we can tolerate and grow from. We can only hope that the relationships you’ve chosen to continue make you feel safe, respected and loved. And that the relationship you have with yourself is evergrowing!UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIAFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcastMusic Production: LAZYASSKID39 min
- EP 12: Embrace, Expand & Explore w/ Nakita Vang
Our first guest of 2022 is the one and only, Nakita Vang! We think you’ll immediately feel the warmth and honesty that she embodies. Nakita shared her experiences and reflections about relationships, self-love, single-hood, how we show up and much more. She also helped us understand each other more, something we didn’t expect but it just goes to show how amazing Nakita is. We hope you enjoy all the gems and laughs we shared with Nakita.
**We apologize for the echos. You also may want to turn the volume down for this episode, we got a little loud and excited!WHERE TO FIND NAKITAFacebook: https://x.facebook.com/nakitacvang/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nakitavang/Blog: https://www.nakitavang.com/Newest Youtube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vx3GcW6oqEw&ab_channel=NakitaVangUNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIAFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcastMusic Production: LAZYASSKIDtime stamp:03:25 - How would you describe yourself as a partner?04:12 - From your past relationships, is there anything you sacrificed to make it work?06:29 - Were there any examples growing up that taught you how to be in a relationship?12:38 - Did you ever feel like you lost a sense of self?18:08 - How did you pick up the pieces of your identity after your relationships ended?23:21 - How did you cultivate love and happiness from within?30:05 - Discussing being in a relationship vs being single35:54 - How will you maintain your sense of self in your future relationships?38:15 - Do you have any past tendencies/behaviors that you fear will carry into future relationships?41:46 - Charlotte & Thony reflect on their similarities with Nakita45:56 - How does creating stories of others rob you of the present moment?53:40 - Nakita reflects on what it’s like to have an anxious mind while in a relationship1:05:00 - What are you unlearning about relationships with romantic partners and yourself?1:06:55 - What are the qualities you’re looking for in a future partner?1:10:28 - How to keep up with Nakita’s work1 hr 17 min - EP 11: FriendshipNo more seasons, just new episodes every other Monday! In today’s episode, we discussed friendship. What kind of friend were we, did we consider ourselves a good friend, how are we redefining friendship, and what kind of friend do we hope to become? We hope you’ll give us grace as we’re still learning and unlearning what it takes to be a good friend to ourselves and others.Unlearning Patterns Podcast Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcastMusic Production: LAZYASSKID34 min
- EP 10: Relationship, Podcast, & Self-ReflectionsIn honor of our two year anniversary and season finale, we chose to answer some questions from our listeners! We hope you enjoyed this last episode of the season. Make sure you subscribe/follow so you’ll be updated when we come back for season two. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year from us!Unlearning Patterns Podcast Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcastMusic Production: LAZYASSKIDtimestamp:1:00 - what advice would we give to our past selves?13:08 - what have we learned about ourselves?17:50 - what have we taught each other?21:30 - what do we hope to become in our third year?23:36 - closing30 min
- EP 9: Life UpdateAfter a long break, we are back with a life update! There has been a few changes and we wanted to share how we've been processing them. Please remember that rest is not earned but something we simply deserve. Take time to rest and find gratitude for yourself. We're all trying our best and that's enough!Unlearning Patterns Podcast Social Media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcastMusic Production: LAZYASSKID1:07 - the move in process and grieving period10:02 - how did we adjust to each other’s habits?14:45 - Thony’s journey to his new job25:42 - Thony bought a new car!32:00 - Charlotte’s journey of self43:58 - what do we appreciate about living together?46:29 - closing48 min
About Unlearning Patterns Podcast
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Charlotte and Thony co-host the Unlearning Patterns Podcast, engaging in open and vulnerable conversations. From sharing insights from therapy sessions to navigating challenges as a couple and individuals, we explore topics like building adult friendships, finding joy, and understanding life.
Join us on our journey of unlearning patterns and rediscovering ourselves. We hope this podcast reassures you that you're not alone in your own unlearning process – we're learning alongside you!