Unpacking Myself

One of the biggest challenges in relationships tends to be that they are not behaving in the way we expect. The question we fail to ask is - did their behavior change from the past or is it the same? Where did our expectations of them come from? Changing others is rarely the solution because, as we all have probably experienced, its not an easy thing to do. So what do you do in this situation? Complaining about it year after year is exhausting and, honestly, pointless. When I took a minute to change the focus from them to myself, I realized where I was going wrong in my way of thinking. And when I figured out the shift I needed to make in my mindset, the frustration and disappointment dissipated. It's that transformative and instant. Check this episode out as I share my own journey and discoveries around this topic.

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I recently did two of the most physically strenuous things I have ever done in my life and of course, I had a lot of realizations and unpacking that I wanted to share with you. From why you should do things outside of your comfort zone to the bonding that happens when you do hard things together to what true character means and so much more. You may not care about hiking for 15 hours like I did but the realizations are applicable to whatever speaks to you. It taught me and reminded me of a lot of life lessons and I am hooked on getting outside of my comfort zone more and more - you dont know what you dont know until you do it. So many parts of us want us to stay in the comfort zone but something incredible happens when you tap into a part of you, you didn’t realize was there.

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Its very easy to ignore our gut because of peer pressure, FOMO, wanting to be liked, expectations others have on us and many more reasons. When this happens we often make all our decisions just with the chatter and information in our mind but our gut, heart and body can be an incredible resource in helping us make decisions that are right for us and serve us better. The greatest benefit of learning to listen to your gut is greater peace of mind as you navigate life. Listen in as I share how I realized I was ignoring my gut and how I started tapping into it more and more. 

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Out with the old, in with the new - sounds like a harsh saying especially if you are talking about relationships or people but depends on how you look at it. Many of us get attached to the things in our life - people, work, etc. and even when we have an inkling in our gut that we have outgrown these situations in our life, we don’t let it go. We get complacent, we get FOMO, we get sheepish on making bold decisions but there is a consequence that can change the trajectory of our lives. The consequence is not allowing space in our life for new things to come in, for change to happen - things that we actually wished we had. The universe will wait until you have had the courage to let go because that is when you become the person worthy of the change you want. This is what I dive deep on in this episode - check it out!

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I noticed over the past 5-10 years there was more content out there that was dark, serious, intense, and it was popular. What happens when we pause and notice how the content we are consuming, whether its movies, shows, social media or music affects our mind and overall energy. Yes, its just supposed to be entertainment but there might be a bigger influence on our overall well-being than we realize. In this episode, I dive into this and how I discovered the need to be mindful and intentional about the content we consume.

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The biggest job we have as human beings is getting as close as we can to being our authentic selves. Somehow the universe has a way of pushing us to be our authentic selves and shaking our lives up if we are straying. An important part of this is whether the people you are surrounded by are pushing to be more of your authentic self vs stray away. Do they make you feel insecure and make you feel self-doubt or do they make you embrace your authentic self. This is what I dive into this episode - why who you hang with matters beyond just subconsciously copying their good and bad, and how they can move you closer to your authentic self or away. 

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I heard someone say this line recently - that seeing the world solely through our minds might be the biggest issue humanity is facing right now. This caught my attention because it feels like it is getting to the crux of the many issues we are facing in the world today. I can spot moments where I’m leaning towards the mind more so than the heart - and the correlation to suffering and challenges is quite interesting. The mind plays an important role but it is also something that feeds the ego. I dive into this in an effort to better understand myself, others and the world today. Listen in so you can be aware the next time you are living through your mind versus heart.

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There are a lot of great things and a lot of change that happens in this world because of people who are passionate. Passion is a wonderful thing but passion can breed healthy involvement and also unhealthy entanglement. Both often appear to be the same on the outside but on the inside we can tell the difference if we pause to notice. When we go from entanglement to healthy involvement, we tend to be in a better mental space and avoid making bad decisions. We also can be more effective when we are not entangled. In this episode, I share how I noticed this within me, what the difference is and how to keep your passion but without the entanglement. 

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 The power of female friendships is not a new concept but does everyone have that in their life? I think every woman wants it in their life but while it may be easy for some to cultivate, it isn’t always easy for everyone. Its not a matter of luck, it often has more to do with what you are bringing to the table. There are certain things that are a must in order to cultivate deep friendships. While we may be close with our spouse, parents, siblings, there truly is something that just hits differently with a good female friendship. A recent podcast I listened to with some powerful women such as Melinda French Gates, Oprah, Gayle, Michelle Obama on this topic also helped validate for me how important certain traits are in cultivating strong friendships. Listen in !

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We all tend to play a certain role in most of our relationships or interactions - the nice one, the loud one, the understanding one, the emotional one, etc. I recently was thinking through what this was for me and realized that rather than seeing what I bring to the table as a strength, it was starting to feel like a burden. The whole “why do I always have to be the emotionally strong one?” In this episode, I unpack my journey through this so that I could express my strength from a genuine and authentic place versus resentment over always having to play that role. 

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