Sometimes we invalidate our own experiences of an environment because it’s easier to do that then to acknowledge the reality of how things are.  So as a result we internalize it all and blame ourselves for not being good enough.

The more we are able to trust ourselves and tune into our internal world AND VALIDATE our emotions… the more power we have to make decisions about what we want.

When we can see how our beliefs are driving the way we show up… we can start to see that we may have been avoiding the truth of what we see so that we can survive.

Listen for the signs!

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It's counterintuitive, but beating ourselves up will never actually lead to what we want.

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1. YOU DON’T TRUST YOURSELF

When we don’t trust ourselves our brain will spent all of it’s time overthinking, problem solving…worrying about all the terrible things that could go wrong.  You’re stuck in your head trying to make sure that you can prevent something from happening.

When you trust that no matter what you are going to be okay, your brain will stop analyzing and controlling constantly.

2. YOU HAVEN’T LEARNED TO PROCESS EMOTION

When you’re stuck in fear, and you don’t learn how to feel —you’ll stay in the same thought loops over and over.

3. YOU NUMB EVERYTHING WITH OVERWORKING, FOOD, OR ALCOHOL

Yeah, I’ve been there. All these things prevent you from seeing the reality of your life. You use them to cope with what’s going on internally but you never actually deal with that shit.

Your brain becomes addicted to this false pleasure. 

4. YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN YOUR WORTH

When you don’t believe in your worth there’s always an underlying anxiety of having to DO something, or change something. You never learn to fully relax.

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Comparison is the thief of joy.  In this episode I talk about how comparison comes from scarcity mindset.

How do identify WHY you may be comparing and what it creates for you.

Questions for reflection and how to move out of comparison.

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Confidence doesn't mean pretending you have it all figured out.

In fact, if you're a high performer you are probably avoiding the very things you need to TRULY feel confident and trust yourself.

1. High expectations and not celebrating your progress
2. Not processing your emotions -- instead you are pushing them away
3. Trying to change how you feel ONLY through action

Download your free meditation to start processing emotions right now -- to start to feel real confidence in yourself and TRUST you can come back to yourself and feel through your emotions.  DOWNLOAD HERE.

What story are you telling yourself around saying no and protecting yourself.

Guilt is option based on your beliefs. 

Here's how to start to rewire so you can honor yourself first.

is your self-care actually moving the needle or is it just another to-do for you?

find out how to integrate self-care in a way that actually helps you FEEL good.

There is an in-between in the place from "this is not happening" to accepting all outcomes with peace.

This is the greatest time for your transformation and growth.

Listen to this episode to learn how you can move to acceptance in the times where you are questioning everything.

We are so afraid to slow down in our society -- 

Even when our bodies send all the signals we need to slow down... 

We don't listen.  Instead we tell ourselves something is wrong with us and keep pushing through.

Here's how slowing down can actually get you to where you want to go faster.

How to rewrite your life story so that it empowers you.