Episode 105:  Emotional Discipline

How are you handling the pressures of life?  Does it feel like you are spinning on a hamster wheel?  You are in good company!

Lisa and Kelly dove into the topic of “Emotional Discipline.” Lisa found this term in a recent podcast, The Seven-Figure Standard, with Arash Vossough.  Here is the link to that podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/seven-figure-standard/id1684349810?i=1000644322568 

Lisa shared the internal pressure she had been putting on herself this last week.  She has high standards for herself, and this last week she “hit the wall.”  And this brought about awareness of her thoughts and feelings, and her need to “take a pause” and take an assessment of your thoughts/feelings.

It is so important to pause and check in with ourselves.  Sometimes we need to just push through, but it is also very important to check in and take time out to do something that brings you joy!  Kelly encouraged us to make a list of the things that bring you JOY, so that when you are feeling overwhelmed, you can use this list as a “tool in your toolbelt.”

We would love to hear what things you have on your list that bring you JOY!  Be sure to reach out to us and tell us how this episode helped you!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

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Think back to the people who impacted you most?  Lisa started out summarizing a Mel Robbins podcast episode where Mel shared this recent study about who is having the most influence on your life, depending on your age and what decade of life you are in.  Mel said that after age 18, the influence parents have on their children decreases significantly. She noted that from age 26-46, we are most influenced by our co-workers and work community.  If you are interested in listening to her podcast, you can check it out here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000644164038

These research findings prompted us to talk about the people that have influenced us most, and the importance of making sure you are surrounding yourself with the people that will make you better, and not buy into the lie that you are stuck in that job or relationship.  We can make all the excuses we want, but the truth of the matter is, we DO have a choice!

Sara shared a book she recently finished called The Five-Star Weekend by Elin Hinderbrand.  In the book, the main character shares a weekend with friends from each season of her life: a friend from her elementary and highschool years, a friend from her college years, a friend from the baby raising years, and then a friend from now when kids are all grown……the dynamics and potential conflict that would arise when all these people go away for the weekend.

Connections and communities can change and evolve, and we may even “outgrow” some of those relationships, and that is ok.  That is not a bad thing.  You get to choose.  

We want to encourage you to take a “community audit” and evaluate if your community is the best fit for you!   Be sure to reach out to us and tell us how this episode helped you!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

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Who’s voice is inside your head?  Is it telling you that you are amazing?  More times than not, that voice inside our head are telling us just the opposite.  These voices may be voices from our childhood, remembrances of what a significant parent, teacher, friend, etc. said to you, and those words still play loudly inside of your head!

When we live in awareness of our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, we can come to an understanding that we have the CHOICE of what thoughts, feelings, and beliefs we choose to hang onto and let have residence inside our heart and mind!

Living in alignment with your heart means figuring out what is important to YOU, and then taking action in alignment with that truth.  Honor the feelings that come up when you take time to pause, reflect, and become aware of your thoughts and self talk.  

And sometimes we are too enmeshed with those thoughts, feelings, and beliefs to make an accurate, objective observation concerning them.  And that is where community and connection comes into play….and that is what we are talking about on our next episode, so stay tuned!

Are you ready to take charge of the thoughts inside your head?  Be sure to reach out to us and tell us how this episode helped you!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

Sara Carlisi:

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Lisa Taylor: 

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Do you journal?  If so, how do you journal?  What do you journal about?  Do you have a specific purpose and goal for your journaling?

In today’s episode, Kelly shares that she has always journaled her goals using Rachel Hollis’ Start Your Day journal, where you write 5 things you are grateful for, and then 10 goals written in present tense, as if it is already done/accomplished.  But just recently, Kelly was challenged to approach journaling in a very different way.

She was challenged to take some time and reflect back on all the “wins” (big and small) from 2023, and just start writing.  To allow the thoughts and feelings to come up, the roadblocks, the friends, the struggles, the things you accomplished ....but the magic happened when Kelly paused for a simple prayer, and then said to herself:  “ But if I am honest….”  and then she just let her pen start to move and the thoughts just poured out on the page, unfiltered.

Have you ever journalled like this?  There are several ways we can approach journaling:

• Goal setting and visualization

• Gratitude

• Process emotions and challenging circumstances

• Reflection on past accomplishments and struggles

• Recount daily activities

• And many more…..

The main message from today’s podcast is don’t be afraid to try a new way of journaling.  Allow your heart and pen to lead you and just start writing.  We think you are going to enjoy the discoverings and truths you will uncover!

Are you ready to try this?  Be sure to reach out to us and tell us how this episode helped you!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

Sara Carlisi:

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Kelly Armstrong: 

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Lisa Taylor: 

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In today’s episode, we get up close and personal with Sara on fears around snowboarding! Because of a broken arm she got her first season, Sara has been carrying around in her subconscious mind the fear of going too fast and falling. She enjoys ski season each year but feels like she’s missing out on some of the fun because of her fears. BUT…..not this year!  

Maybe you don’t have a fear of skiing fast or falling, but our guess is that you do have something that causes anxiety and fear in your mind and heart, probably from a past experience and a belief you have acquired because of it!

Check out this episode and I know you will be challenged and encouraged as Sara “walks” us through the mental steps she embraced as well as the physical action steps she took, all to move her away from fear,  away from passing this fear onto her boys, and move her towards releasing fear and embracing new thoughts, new beliefs, and creating new memories because of it!  Well done Sara!

Are you ready to face that fear that is holding you back?  Be sure to reach out to us and tell us how this episode helped you!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

Sara Carlisi:

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Kelly Armstrong: 

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Lisa Taylor: 

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Episode 100:  Take Action & Watch your Confidence Rise!

Yahoo!  We are celebrating the 100th episode of “Wake Up and Dream” and we are SO grateful for YOU, our faithful listeners!  We have been on this amazing journey of growth and becoming the best version of ourselves, and we would love to reach even MORE people, so thank  you for sharing these episodes with your friends and family, following us on Instagram and/or Youtube!

Today’s episode was all about taking ACTION as a way to build confidence!  Taking action, making decisions, stepping out in the direction you are feeling lead in can be uncomfortable and even down-right scary at times!  But trusting our intuition and mustering up an ounce of bravery is all we need to do to take the next step.  Lisa shared the analogy of the flashlight as a visual tool to help us realize we do not need to know the end result.  A flash light illuminates the “next step” not the entire pathway.  In the same way, we want to encourage you to simply get brave and take that next step.  Release fear, perfectionism, and just take that next step!

Life is about taking that next step!  We want to evolve into a better version of ourselves, not get to the end of our life realizing we are pretty much the same as decades before.  Life isn't’ just about breathing until we breathe our final breath.  Life is about living, evolving, becoming, and that all requires us to take that next step, take action!  And the beautiful result will be increased confidence to take another step!

Are you ready to do this?  Be sure to reach out to us and tell us how this episode helped you!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

Sara Carlisi:

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Kelly Armstrong: 

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Lisa Taylor: 

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Ok, we seriously need to hear from YOU on this topic, because in today’s episode, we took a topic that is familiar to all of us, and dug into our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs around the activity of shopping!  Yep, this was such a fun discussion, because as Sara and Lisa shared their past thinking around shopping, they soon discovered that Kelly had the very opposite belief!  Amazing how the same task or experience can be approached in a totally different way because of what we are speaking to ourselves and what we are feeling and believing about it.

We used shopping as an example, but this literally can be an awareness exercise you do about anything.  What are your thoughts, feelings, and core beliefs around such things as making meals, household chores, your relationships, your time, your money, etc.  Having that “heart to heart” with yourself or a coach could help you to identify those deep inner, often hidden, beliefs that keep us stuck feeling and believing the same old things!  Time to “flip the script” and start thinking thoughts in alignment with who we want to be and how we want to show up for ourselves and others!   You got this, girl!

Are you ready to do this?  Be sure to reach out to us and tell us how this episode helped you!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

Sara Carlisi:

@saracarlisi1 

Kelly Armstrong: 

@kellyarmstrongofficial 

[email protected]

Lisa Taylor: 

@lisa.kay.taylor

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Did you pick a “Word of the Year” for 2024?  This is the lively topic we tackled in today’s episode.   We always want to encourage you to do what works best for you!!!  Picking a word might just help to keep you focused and growing!  Kelly and Lisa both shared how their “word of the year” has been much better than doing resolutions, and really helped them to stay in awareness and unlock their potential and purpose.  Sara suggested putting your word of the year on your wall, and perhaps even words you have used in the past to remind you of where you have been and your growth.

Sara rocked the boat by telling us that she has chosen intentionally to NOT have a “word of the year,” and explained why she was feeling a lot of “shoulds” in 2023 so as to get rid of the pressure to “have a word.”  Do what feels right for you, and give yourself permission to do what feels right and good for you!  It’s your life!

Be sure to reach out to us and tell us what your word of the year is!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

Sara Carlisi:

@saracarlisi1 

Kelly Armstrong: 

@kellyarmstrongofficial 

[email protected]

Lisa Taylor: 

@lisa.kay.taylor

www.linktree.com/lisa.kay.taylor

The NEW YEAR is the perfect time to heighten your awareness by looking back over the past year and making some observations (not judgements) about what went well and also the things that were struggles.  Kelly suggested doing a “calendar audit” and becoming aware of how you spent your time and energy in 2024.  Questions to ask might be:

• How did I spend my time?
• Who did I spend my time with?
• What patterns do I see?
• How do I feel about this and what would I link to continue doing in 2024?
• What would I like to do differently in 2024?

We often forget all of the wins that will catapult us into awareness as to what is possible in the coming year.  So take the time to note the WINS, the times when you “showed up” for yourself or someone in need.  And as we recall the struggles of 2023, create some awareness around the feelings, knowing that feelings are often habitual.  So we can take control of how we want the future to look by creating new ways of thinking, new traditions and new action steps!

There is no script!  You get to make it whatever you want!  You only get ONE life, and we get to decide!  This is empowering! If you want to heighten your awareness, be sure to check out Episode 96 where Lisa shared some easy tools to help us stay in awareness.

We become what we think about, so stay in awareness of the thoughts that you are choosing, and make a conscious effort to make 2024 better than any other year to date!  It is your choice!

Be sure to reach out to us and tell us how this episode is helping you!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

Sara Carlisi:

@saracarlisi1 

Kelly Armstrong: 

@kellyarmstrongofficial 

[email protected]

Lisa Taylor: 

@lisa.kay.taylor

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We have spent the last 2 weeks hearing some great tips on increasing “AWARENESS” in our daily lives as women who may be struggling with past thoughts and beliefs, women trying to stay AWARE of the thought patterns that are impacting parenting on how we show up as a mom.  And today, Lisa rounds out the AWARENESS discussion by introducing an acronym for AWARE, to give us practical “tools” we can use in our everyday life.

In summary, the acronym AWARE reminds us to:

A: Stay in AWARENESS.  Set an alarm to remind you several times a day to check in and ask yourself, “What are my dominant thoughts right now?  How am I feeling right now?”  Or every time you go through a door frame, use it to remind you to check in with yourself and stay in awareness.

W:  WRITE out your thoughts, feelings, so that you “stop the spin” and uncover the core beliefs behind all of it.

A:  ACT as the third person in the room, observing your thoughts/feelings/actions/results without judgment and full of compassion for the girl with your name.  Become that compassionate scientist saying, “Hmmmm, that’s interesting.  I wonder why I am thinking/feeling this way?”

R:  RELEASE the thoughts that don’t serve you, and REPLACE them with the opposite thought/feeling.

E:  EMBRACE the journey, because this is truly a lifelong journey of growth and discovery.

Our aim each week is to help you start living the life you desire and deserve, and we hope this week give you some practical tools to help you do just that!

Be sure to reach out to us and tell us how this AWAREness Acronym is helping you!  Give us a “shout out” on your social media platforms!  Thank you!  Drop us a message, LIKE, SHARE, and leave us a review!  Follow us on Instagram @wakeupanddreampodcast.  You can also connect with each of us here: 

Sara Carlisi:

@saracarlisi1 

Kelly Armstrong: 

@kellyarmstrongofficial 

[email protected]

Lisa Taylor: 

@lisa.kay.taylor

www.linktree.com/lisa.kay.taylor