Waking Up From Breaking Up

Sometimes to find peace and happiness within ourselves, we have to distance ourselves from the people we love the most.

Enda shares his journey to find happiness in his life, and for him to do that, he unfortunately had to love his father and brother from a distance. Sometimes the hardest decisions are the right ones. Enda made the decision to move to Canada and distance himself from his family to heal himself mentally. He made this decision to move at the hardest time, when his father and brother were also on their own difficult journey to healing. 

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This interview was an intriguing conversation about women, the dating culture, and how to keep a guy after sex. Enrique provided some insights and a different perspective. Great listen if you are dating and looking for long term, committed relationship. The structure of this episode is completely different. It has nothing really to do with Enrique finding himself, if anything, it altered my way of thinking and approach to dating.  In September he will be launching a course with his friends. 

Check out the website keephimaftersex.com for more! 

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This father day special focuses on Marissa Rodriguez's, the author of Whispers of Me, as she embarks on a journey in building relationship with her father.

Marissa has a beautiful soul who has built the strength to be vulnerable in her book, on social media, and in this interview. She takes us on an emotional journey with finding her father and how she talked about the struggle of re-wiring her mindset and letting go of the belief that she was abandoned. Which is difficult because for the longest time she believed that her father didn’t want to be part of her life. 

Like she said in our interview her relationship with her mother has been strained from her decision to build a relationship with her father. She talked about how difficult it is to have lost one parent but yet gained another. When all we truly want as someone’s child is to have both parents support us throughout our lives. When we are young we want to believe that our parents are our hero’s and that they are unbreakable and what they say or do is right.  But in reality our parents are human and that they have their own struggles they’re going through, and that insecurities and how they deal with different situations isn’t perfect. And unfortunately sometimes their actions and decisions, whether those decisions were made out of love, have unforeseen consequences to us, as their child.

Marissa's book can be purchased on Amazon and check her out on Instagram @Cosmicsoulartist

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In this episode, Noe gets vulnerable and talks about codependency and how it has affected his life and relationships. He opens up about how he came to the hard realization and what he is doing now to better himself and drop his codependent tendencies.  

We dig deep in trying to understand where the codependency tendencies arise from our childhood experiences, and societal belief that men have to provide for their partners to feel important and contributing in the relationship. 

This was an intriguing conversation with an emotionally intelligent man, who has the strength to be vulnerable and acknowledge his part in the struggle that he brings to his marriage. His willingness and strength to share his story is admirable and inspiring! 

For further reading regarding codependency, visit at Psychcentral.com.  

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What does it mean to create a "banana split sundae kind of life?" 

It's about building a life that you love and a life that you don’t want to escape from. It is about finding happiness on your own without needing someone else to complete you, because REAL life and REAL love is not a Jerry McGuire movie. 

In this episode it talks about how to create a life that is delicious, full of flavour, and confidence in yourself before getting into a romantic relationship. Your partner should not be your everything, but only the cherry on top, an addition to your already amazing life. If the relationship doesn't work, and the cherry on top falls off, your life is still this delicious banana split sundae. 

Getting over breakups doesn't start when the relationship ends, but should have began before the relationship even started. And that starts by creating a life that you love and confidence in yourself.

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If you have done the work, you may already know how difficult it is to break up with your inner child. Todd shares his experience with his parents, particularly his relationship with his mother, and how he handled his parents divorce when he was 12 years old. He opens up how that experience as a 12 year old has affected his adult relationships. 

To move on from his inner child experience, Todd had to come to the realization that his parents are just humans and are trying their very best. Todd talks about the duality that he had gone through as a child, when he was a kid, but also was an emotional caregiver when his parents divorced and it gave a whole different perspective and dynamic of his relationship with his mother, his romantic relationships with his partners, and even his platonic friendships, including myself (Yra Jai). 

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Having an adventurous life is defined only by the individual living that life. And in the words of the happy go lucky, Mike Brako, “happiness is what you make of it.” 

Mike strives to live his life to the fullest with his own definition of adventure. A life that may not conform to the standard of societal normality. A life that pushes him beyond his comfort zone, and constantly learning and extending his limiting boundaries. Building a life we love means avoiding complacency and at times learning life lessons in the hardest and toughest ways. However, those lessons are what builds character. 

Check out Michael and his adventurous life on Instagram @wanderplanetearth. 

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David gets open about how anxiety, inner thoughts and feelings, and fear of death has affected his physical body through his eczema. His biggest self discovery was learning to let go of his suffering from his own inner making, and finding peace within himself. He let go of his victim mentality and was able to start his healing journey, which in turn has helped manage his eczema.  

David has created a mindset where he believes that everything happened exactly the way it needed to happen in order for him to be who he is today. He has become accountable for his life and no longer plays the victim in his mind, which has helped redefine his happiness and purpose in life. 

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Having conversations with people with different opinions and perspectives is already tough. Imagine having a conversation that pushes the boundaries of social norms regarding sexuality with anyone, let alone your family. Chad Evans, admitted to his family at a young age his sexual identity when he realized he did not identify the same as the majority of the population. With the lack of information and unfamiliarity of different sexual identities, there is a sufficient amount of people who find it difficult to understand how someone, like Chad, identifies differently than they do. 

It is important to educate ourselves, and have conversations about unfamiliar topics, especially topics that push the boundaries of societal norms. Change is good and being open minded is the first step.

Chad has evolved tremendously since revealing his true identity to his family at the young age of 15. However, his WUBU moment came when he first started going to therapy and realized that he was living his life for everyone else and not for himself. He realized that no matter what he was doing, he was focused on everyone else's opinions. He had to get over the fact that everyone has an opinion no matter what and even though their opinions didn't align with his, it shouldn't effect his life.

Check out Chad on Instagram @blamechad. Also check out his marketing and branding company which he runs with his husband, Fero, called @elevin_elevin! They are the creative geniuses behind Waking Up from Breaking Up. 

Items discussed in the podcast episode:

Information on the types of sexuality : https://www.umass.edu/stonewall/sites/default/files/documents/allyship_term_handout.pdf

Brene Brown's YouTube video on the Power of Vulnerability: https://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o

Link to the children's book, "What Do You Do With an Idea": https://youtu.be/oxtvhISKsR8

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Becoming an entrepreneur is an endeavour that is not to be taken lightly. Entrepreneurship takes a lot of hard work, and courage to take the leap of faith, but many will say that it is worth it.  

Kate Bouchard, founder of Loba, shares her processes, fears, and the importance of a support system when stepping out of the corporate world and becoming your own boss. To become more herself and to take on starting her own business, Kate had to let go of the idea of perfection. Her perfectionism manifested in self doubt, low self confidence, and fear of looking bad and it held her back from making moves and taking risks in life. Perfection doesn't exist and Kate learned that and has now created several successful businesses. 

Check out Loba, here and on Instagram @shop.loba for Kate's high-tech pill organizers. Read the magazine that she is a part of, Ripple of Change, on Instagram @rippleofchangemag. And for her personal Instagram account @mskathrynanne. She is one inspiring individual with a lot going on!