It's my first episode of the new season! Solo episodes are hard for me. I suffer from serious imposter syndrome. As you can see from the title of the episode, this is basically a stream of consciousness in regards to the pressure I (and most people) put on ourselves - whether that's in relationships, the bedroom, or just life in general. I talk about accepting every version of myself and the pressure to perform on social media. We get deep.

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This week, I'm joined by Portia - the founder & creator of Froetic Sexology. We discuss the ways in which we were taught about sex as well as how it can be improved for generations going forward. Portia explains how to bring mindfulness and meditation practices into sexual experiences, and how it can lead to even better orgasms. Toward the end, we dive deep into the importance of looking at sex as a co-creative experience versus a performance, which we find many women and femmes struggle with.

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This week, I'm so excited to be joined by Charles & Shelley Wininger. Over the past 20 years, Charley, 71 years old, and Shelley, 69 years old, have found MDMA to act as a kind of romantic glue for them. They've used it intentionally to enhance and deepen their bond, with its positive effects on their marriage accumulating over time. They explain that they’ve done MDMA carefully and responsibly together over 70 times. We chat through how the drug has rejuvenated them both emotionally and sexually as they’ve entered their senior years. 

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I had porn collage artist Lisa Be and photographer Rina Mov on to discuss what it means to be a "nasty woman." We debate the best time to start being open about bodily functions with a new partner as well as the standards women are held to when it comes to those things. We also discuss why men are uncomfortable around women who openly like sex and swap stories of the times we've had to get "nasty" in front of our sexual partners.

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This week, I chat with BDSM educator & 24/7 collared submissive Lina Dune to dispel some myths surrounding BDSM and the kink community, including how safe it is, how it stresses consent and communication, and how aspects of kink can help with everyone's sexual experiences, even those not interested in BDSM.

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This week, I'm joined by musician Bonavega to discuss coming from a religious background and breaking out of that shell. Bonavega details how he's found himself through his music, including not conforming to any gender or sexuality norms and even the subject matter he sings about, as well as how this personal exploration has actually led to healthier relationships.

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This week, I had my friend and musician almondmilkhunni on discuss her dating life and explosive career, the pressure she feels from being on social media, and how she became a de facto voice for dancers and sex workers. We also discuss the divide among OnlyFans users and she explains why she avoids dating Cancer men.

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This week, I talk with sex journalist and sex toy enthusiast Gabrielle Kassel to chat about masturbation, sex toys, and so much more. Gabrielle explains where and how a beginner user can start incorporating toys, and gives her recommendations for toys you may have never heard of. We also discuss Doomsturbating, talking about sex outside of the bedroom, and how Covid may make conversations about STI testing easier in the future. 

Sex Toys & Companies mentioned on this episode:

Cute Little Fuckers

Fun Factory

Le Wand Bow Stainless Steel Toy

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