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  • Ethical Non-Monogamy 101 with Gabrielle Smith

    This week, writer and polyamory ethical non-monogamy resource Gabrielle Smith joins me to discuss how to navigate opening a relationship to polyamory and/or ethical non-monogamy and how to set appropriate boundaries to ensure success in your relationship. We chat about the issues that don't allow people to comprehend opening a relationship, including insecurity and pressure, and why we're conditioned societally to think that jealousy is just a part of being with someone.

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    Resources on polyamory and ENM mentioned on this episode:

    • Michelle AKA Polyamorous While Asian
    • GabAlexa
    • Shrimp Teeth

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      49 min
    • Sex Magick & Witchcraft

      This week, I had author and certified witch Gabriela Herstik on to discuss Sex Magick (not to be confused with "magic") and how sexual energy is crucial in her work. We also explore how Magick can work for everyone in their everyday lives, no matter what your background or what you believe in, and how to use your energies to find love and success.

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      49 min
    • Cuckolding, Sex Ed & More With Liz Goldwyn

      This week, I'm joined by author and host of "The Sex Ed" Podcast, Liz Goldwyn to discuss how there is no such thing as a late bloomer, the many short-comings of modern sex education, and why most of the concepts around virginity are just social constructs. Plus, Liz answers some listener-submitted questions, including how to explore new avenues of sex with your partner & whether you should sleep with your ex (spoiler alert: you probably shouldn't).

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      52 min
    • “Hot Guy” Stereotypes: The Rockstar

      This week, I chat with musician Ryan Scott Graham, a member of State Champs (and Gabby's boyfriend)! We talk about why people fall for musicians, what that does to their egos and personalities, and Ryan's personal experiences on how his life completely changed when he became a musician, including how being left on read was a thing of the past.

      Follow Ryan: Instagram.com/ryanscottgraham

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      53 min
    • OnlyFans & Sex Work In Today's World

      This week, I had actress, musician and OnlyFans creator Erika Heidewald on to discuss the recent takeover of OnlyFans by millionaire celebrities (Bella Thorne, Cardi B) and why they're attempt to help is actually harming sex workers and adding to the stigma. Erika and I also discuss how just because Erika has an OnlyFans, that doesn't mean she, or any sex worker, is less deserving of love and meaningful relationships.

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      53 min
    • Incorporating Cannabis Into Your Sex Life

      This week, I had journalist and author of two sex & cannabis books, "The Little Book of CBD for Self-Care" & "Finding Your Higher Self: Your Guide to Cannabis for Self-Care", Sophie Saint Thomas in the studio. We discuss the many benefits of introducing weed into your sexual relationships, including anal and vaginal suppositories, enhancing your orgasms, and reducing pain during sex. She also give tips on how to introduce pot to others who might be nervous about it, and we explore the stigmas against people who use marijuana for medical reasons versus recreational uses, and why both should be generally de-stigmatized.

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      40 min
    • The Stigma Of Young Marriage (& Divorce)

      This week, I'm joined by my friend Morgan Grimes who was married (and divorced) at a young age. She discusses how people, both older relatives and peers, viewed her own marriage and divorce and explains why it's not much different than people getting together and breaking up. We also discuss the stigma behind multiple marriages and how it's time we rethink these prejudices.

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      42 min
    • The Madonna-Whore Dichotomy

      This week, I had the lovely Shani Long on to discuss the double standards when it comes to owning your sexuality. We discuss the Madonna-Whore Dichotomy and how Kim Kardashian's status and perceptions made people ignore the fact that her sex tape was nothing more than revenge porn.

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      56 min
    • How Sex Work (And Sex) Are Being Changed By Quarantine
      This week, Raya talks with writer Ashleigh Gray to discuss how taboo industries, which already dealt with struggles before the pandemic, are dealing with physical restrictions that they relied on. Ashleigh sheds some light on how OnlyFans and other services like it are now rising during quarantine and she also offers up advice on how to navigate dating and physical relationships when being physical is not allowed. Plus, Raya and Ashleigh discuss the troubles with posting sexy content that could possibly cost you a job later.
      Read Ashleigh's article on Refinery29 here!
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      Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future topics? Give Raya a call at (424) 245-5102 or email her at [email protected] and you might hear your call/email on the next episode!
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      38 min
    • Factoring Astrology Into Dating With Colin Bedell!

      This week, I'm joined by Astrologer Colin Bedell AKA QueerCosmos to discuss how no two signs are ever incompatible when it comes to relationships, sometimes you just need to work on yourself first. Colin also brings astrology into the 21st century by explaining how gender and sexuality shouldn't factor into your readings and how only finding "compatible" signs could actually land you in a terrible relationship.

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      47 min

    About Was That Good For You?

    From the publisher's feed

    Was That Good For You? is a guide to all things sex and relationships. Every week, sex educator Raya Carmona talks openly and honestly with guests on topics ranging from navigating interracial dating to normalizing kinks in the bedroom to the trajectory of becoming a sugar baby. Through candid conversations with friends as well as interviews with leaders in the sexual health field, this show works to destigmatize the sexual journey we are all on. Recurring guests include Raya’s partner Kelen Capener and her best friend Gabby, who help answer listener-submitted sex and relationship questions. For more, follow the show on Instagram at @wasthatgoodforyou.

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