When your partner blames your snoring for everything.

Dearest Not Doctors,

Love the pod, need your help. Here's the deal: I snore and I think it's ruining my marriage?

I've done a sleep study and I don't have any medical issues like sleep apnea, so using a CPAP machine is off the table. Sleeping in a separate bedroom is also not an option because we can't afford another bedroom. Sleeping on the couch isn't either, because apparently I snore loud enough that it wakes her up in the other room.

My partner wakes up tired every day and lately my snoring gets blamed for anything that goes wrong. If she forgets a task at work? Misses an exit on the highway while driving? It's all because of my snoring. She tried wearing ear plugs, but they fall out. I've snored my entire life, so my partner's complaints feel like an attack on something I can't change, like my eye color or my voice. It really bums me out. I am well rested, so I feel super guilty about that too. 

I want her to feel good and be happy. I want to feel good and be happy. What should I do? I know this is a tough one, so bad answers are welcome. At least laughing about my situation might be nice.

Jenna from Snorth Dakota

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