WE'RE NOT GOING BACK

By Addie Scharff

May the progress women who came before us made, or the rights they went without, never be forgotten or taken for granted.

Inspired by the likes of Susan B. Anthony, Madam C.J. Walker, and most recent... more

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June 13, 2023 EP 81 - MARRIAGE IS HARD, AND EASY
How long can one be perpetually contented anyway, or in a “perfect” anything? Like no darkness, only sunshine 24/7/365!
I love the Spring, but I wouldn’t give up all the other seasons and have it be Spring year-round.
We need change, even when it could mean extreme heat or cold. It’s nature.
How many couples do you know who have a “PERFECT” marriage 24/7 since day one? I don’t know a single one! Not even my marriage fits that description, even though it’s amazing!
Too often we fool ourselves (why?) into believing that just because we don’t “see” couples go through difficult times, that their marriage is “perfect," without trials… but that’s not the case, and it’s in fact impossible. And thinking that is to our marital detriment.
Although each one of us was created perfect (in the image of God) and was born perfect (for our purpose), life came along and shaped us into the person we are today.
Each one of us is unique and different, so it’s only natural that from time to time, no matter how much we love each other, we will have disagreements (snits, as my husband & I call them). Even heated arguments/fights, it doesn’t have to mean anything, because we’re humans.
Where we get it wrong:
Expecting our husbands to do what we want, how we want, when we want.
“Do the dishes like I do them, fold the laundry but do it like I do it, give the kids a bath but not like that, cook dinner but…” It’s like saying that the way I do things is the BEST & ONLY way to do things!
What to do instead:
Imagine allowing your husband to do things exactly the way he wants to do them (or knows how to do them), just the way you like to be left alone to do things the way you want to?
Unless ordering him around doesn’t upset him, of course by all means ask away… this can be very freeing once we try it… but it does take practice!
Try it a bit at a time and see for yourself. You can always revert to your way if it doesn’t work out for both of you.
I think in general we all want to be free to do as we please, and this applies to our husbands too!

IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more

Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
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27min
June 06, 2023 EP 80 - CIRCUMSTANCES BE DAMNED
Excuses we use/I’ve used to not do what we want to do.
Very often when we “have” to do something… like go do a
job we don’t like, we do it.
But then when we want to do something we let
circumstances get the best of us!

Here are a few:
Not enough time… this is my excuse when it comes to
reading “I read too slow” I tell myself… my solution, Audible!!
What’s your excuse, and what’s the solution?
Not enough money… one solution could be DIY it, budget
it, make extra money!! Now-a-days it’s so easy to make extra money any time we
want!!
Being “too tired”… why are we tired? Not enough sleep?
Find the source and work on it.
It’s “their fault”… this is a useless excuse, and it’s
not true! The state of life and our affairs is always our own doing.
It’s “not my” fault… we use this a lot when we argue with
someone, WE are always right and they are always wrong.
It’s too hot, too cold, that’s why I don’t go for a walk.
It’s too wet, too dry, that’s why my garden is a
mess.

No!! None of this
is true… but we make our truth because
that’s the story we’re telling ourselves, so let’s change the story and let’s
get things done regardless of circumstances!!

Here’s proof we can do hard things fast, that a lot of us
can relate to:
Someone says they’re coming over in 30 minutes… come
on!!
What else??

Resources mentioned
here:
Ep 40 - The Power of
*Personal* Power
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-40-the-power-of-personal-power/id1597656935?i=1000577774098

IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel
safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic
Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7.
Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more

Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY:
WomenRisingTogether2021
Women Rising Together | Facebook

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20min
May 30, 2023 EP 79 - ARE YOUR STORIES HOLDING YOU BACK?
Are the stories of your life helping you grow or holding you back?
Some, not all, of our stories come mostly from our
upbringing, our relationships, and our circumstances.
And to a point, shaped our personality.
But in reality our personality does not need to be permanent… grumpy, short-tempered, rude, inpatient… etc.

So if you ever find yourself listening to stories like “I
can’t do that”, “I’m just not good at that”, “it was because”, “if only I had”…
stop and pay attention. Ask yourself if these statements are actually true?

Our whole personality is not set in stone! It’s only that
way at time because I think it is. But if we are willing to change, to grow, to
evolve… there is no limit as what you can change in your life, or what you can achieve.

The trick is WE must be willing
to change, have a desire to change, and be brave enough to try to change and
grow.

Resources mentioned here:
The Story of You (and How to Create a New One)
by Steve Chandler
Ep 6 – How Do You Tell Your Story?
Ep 40 - The Power of *Personal* Power
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-40-the-power-of-personal-power/id1597656935?i=1000577774098

IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and
200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more

Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM:
@women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE
& FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021
Women Rising Together | Facebook
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22min
May 23, 2023 EP 78 - WATER YOUR OWN "GRASS"
Be the ONE with the greener “grass”!
As we become disenchanted with our husbands, we start
thinking about the grass being greener elsewhere.
Try refocusing on what you love about your husband.

Wives often throw in the towel… they’re done too early.
Treat your husband ONLY as you want him to be, and there's no way he won't become it.

IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive marriage/relationship and feel you
are not safe, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline below right
away!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and
200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
Learn more

Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM:
@women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE
& FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021
Women Rising Together | Facebook
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15min
May 16, 2023 EP 77 - AS WITHIN, SO WITHOUT
Wish I had known long ago that my thinking (not on purpose)
was creating my life!
If you’re unhappy with any area of your current life, might
be for you.

Listen to find out more about:
Learning from your surroundings, in relationships, marriage,
professionally, or life in general.

Is anything in currently in your life (you can change)
contributing to you not being where you want to be?

I have work to do this too still… in many areas, and always will
as long as I live… in reading, self-concept, relationships, etc.

Somethings are working great, the garden, my family (for the
most part), self-acceptance, but the inner work is never complete as long as we
live.

Other areas are in progress, like my willingness to grow, my
courage to show up (this is hard for me), to be willing to change, to be more
visible, and to have an open mind and a teachable heart.

Where are you? This can
be people or things-related… so keep an open mind when it comes to growing and
evolving. Life can never stop getting better!

Inspirational people mentioned on this episode:
Plato
Seneca
Socrates
Emerson
Shakespeare
Jesus
Rumi
Bhudda
Gandhi

In reality we’re never done growing and evolving, so let’s
keep going!!

Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM:
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24min
May 09, 2023 EP 76 - THE WHEEL OF YOUR LIFE
Did you know there’s a “wheel” where you can assess what’s
causing you problems in life?
I did not know that, but when I learned this it made so much
sense!

If you’ve been struggling in certain areas of your life,
this is for you.

When we look the areas that make our life what it is, we can
examine if we’re neglecting any of these areas, which in turn create problems
in other areas.

And when we improve one area of our life, other areas
improve as well, which will bring about confidence in continuing to improve
ourselves.

I hope you find this episode useful. If you do, please share and consider writing
a review as to how it helped you improve your life.

Wheel example 1:
https://www.google.com/search?sxsrf=APwXEdcXKfk6WQELfy1Hyh415S6Cle2HMw:1683562317297&q=WHEEL+OF+LIFE&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjSloSvjub-AhWxk2oFHU8fAHYQ0pQJegQICxAB&biw=1536&bih=664&dpr=1.25#imgrc=azJqIo_fG4qURM

Wheel example 2:
https://www.google.com/search?sxsrf=APwXEdcXKfk6WQELfy1Hyh415S6Cle2HMw:1683562317297&q=WHEEL+OF+LIFE&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjSloSvjub-AhWxk2oFHU8fAHYQ0pQJegQICxAB&biw=1536&bih=664&dpr=1.25#imgrc=RaSrxWDs4PJvfM

Let’s connect on social media!
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19min
May 02, 2023EP 75 - THE LAW OF RECIPROCITY
Ever felt indebted to someone because they did something
nice for you?
Or felt like someone didn’t do something nice for you in
return?
No worries, most of us do or feel that way at time… but
there’s a way to not do that any more.
The law of tithing talks about how we will be blessed by
obeying this law, but it does not say we will get back exactly what we gave,
from the same people we gave to.
It’s more like, we give and we receive. It’s not I give you and you give me… that’s
not how it works.
When it comes to marriages… we almost always want back
what we give from our spouses (“50/50”)… but that’s not how it works here
either. If you’re married you probably know that.
If we ever find ourselves feeling in lack of something,
start giving more. As we give we
receive… often times in just the joy of giving.
But in general when we give, we never know how or when it will come back
to us… but it will. It’s the law.
And reciprocity is not linear… keep that in mind. Give just to give, and give cheerfully.
Ways in which we can give (cheerfully)… think back to
times when someone gave you something you never forgot… that is one way in
which you can also give:
Remembering friends and those we love (b-days, anniversaries)

Keeping in touch

Giving compliments, for talents or unique abilities, etc.

Acknowledging/giving praise for good deeds, talents, etc

Sharing of your talents (cards, cooking, flowers from your garden, teaching a special skill)

Showing gratitude/appreciation for deeds done for you, or for gifts received

Not expecting/demanding reciprocity

Not comparing (he does so much for his wife, her children show more love)

Inspiring others by being more positive and less critical

Resources featured in this episode:
The Richest Man In Babylon by George S. Clason: https://www.amazon.com/Richest-Man-Babylon-Original-1926/dp/1508524351/ref=sr_1_11_sspa?crid=SI03PBWS2X5J&keywords=the+richest+man+in+babylon&qid=1682994238&s=books&sprefix=the+richest+%2Cstripbooks%2C185&sr=1-11-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUFYV1NQMFVEVVBaUkkmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTA0ODAzNDcxWFNIUzRHRU1NSTImZW5jcnlwdGVkQWRJZD1BMDE2NjE1MzExVUlSQ0dUNjJSNDAmd2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9tdGYmYWN0aW9uPWNsaWNrUmVkaXJlY3QmZG9Ob3RMb2dDbGljaz10cnVl

A Course In Miracles: https://www.amazon.com/Course-Miracles-Combined-Quality/dp/1883360242/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1682994182&sr=1-1

The Ten Bridges of Transformation by Marianne Williamson
(on Audible)

IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive marriage/relationship and feel
you are not safe, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline below
right away!
National Domestic
Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7.
Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
Learn more

Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY:
WomenRisingTogether2021
Women Rising Together | Facebook
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29min
April 25, 2023 EP 74 - TRUE LOVE ACTIONS
Often you hear that it’s not what we say, but what we do
that shows our true feelings.
Often we focus on the pettiest of things, or on inaction,
to judge what others are feeling.
But too often we miss the important things (actions) that
mean true love.
But we can choose what we focus on.
What we focus on grows, IN us and AROUND us, so let’s
focus on what we want more of.
Focusing on others’ best qualities is the sure way to get
of what we want from them.
So try to always focus on what you want MORE of.

IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive marriage/relationship and feel
you are not safe, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline below
right away!
National Domestic
Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7.
Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
Learn more

Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY:
WomenRisingTogether2021

...more
23min
April 18, 2023 EP 73 - THE GIFT OF GIVING
Gift giving, and receiving in general, can be tricky, difficult, and sometimes even downright not a good experience.
Nowadays a lot of us are opting to have less “stuff” anyway.
People who truly know me know that I am NOT a good gift RECEIVER, or giver… I get overwhelmed by the process.
My “gift” expectation, from anyone, including my husband… is ZERO. If I ever need something I let people know, I’ll ask.
I also do not believe in “gift reciprocity”. I often give out treats, as I like to bake, and the receiver feels they have to give me something in return. But I’m only giving to give, not so you’ll give me something back in return.
Here are my top tree “best gifts” to give others:
1ST:
The gift of LOVE… a win win, especially for the giver. I especially love loving my husband and our grandchildren. They are the best givers and receivers of loves I know.
Love includes the gift of time (as supposed to stuff), which for many of us, including myself, it’s the most precious resource we have. But
I think that for those of us for whom it’s hard to give our time, we also do not require it of others, unless we needed it due to illness or some other actual necessity.
2ND:
The gift of INSPIRATION… this is like giving wings to someone. When inspiring others they’ll never forget it and it costs us nothing except to see the best in others.
3RD:
The gift of ADVISE or CRITICISM (constructive)… one of the BEST gifts I’ve been given it’s been advise/criticism. I try to not get
offended, but instead have an open mind and a teachable ear to know how to accept advise/criticism in a way that helps me become a better person. I think too often people are afraid to give constructive criticism (fearing offending us) and it’s not helpful to us to not know how to learn from others.
If I disagree with criticism I do my best to tune it out… rarely (not never) do I get offended. And if/when I do I don’t hold on to it for very long.
Overall, the best thing to do is to ASK what others need from us and give according their needs, and our ability in a way that it’s good
for both of us.
Mentioned:
The Gift of the Magi, a short film
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YUZIVxQ0lIE
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive marriage/relationship and feel you are not safe, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline below
right away!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7.
Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
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24min
April 11, 2023 EP 72 - THE ENDING IS UP TO YOU
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”
- C.S. Lewis (suggested by my husband for a podcast topic)

How do we go about changing our end? Have a listen… hope you like it.
I love this quote because it reminds us that all is not lost, and that we have a great deal of control over the shaping of our future.
The past plays a part in our life, but it does not have to dictate our future, UNLESS we allow it to.
We can apply this to any and all areas of our lives… and when we change one thing, we change everything else.
When we use our personal power, much can be accomplished in life, even when circumstances are not ideal.
Although it’s better to take advantage or good circumstances… as in “the best time to get a new job is while you have a job”, there will be times when we’ll have to do our best in spite of what going on in our lives that’s beyond our control.

Mentioned:
Ep 6 – How Do You Tell Your Story?
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-6-how-do-you-tell-your-story/id1597656935?i=1000546865842
Ep 23 – Write Your Own Story
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-23-write-your-own-story/id1597656935?i=1000559441629

IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive marriage/relationship and feel you are not safe, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline below right away!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7.
Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
Learn more

Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY:
WomenRisingTogether2021
Women Rising Together | Facebook

...more
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FAQs about WE'RE NOT GOING BACK:

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The podcast currently has 162 episodes available.