You think you know what you want in a partner, but behavioral science says attraction doesn’t work that way. Relationship scientist Paul Eastwick breaks down why dating apps and checklists fail, how attraction actually forms, and why real compatibility grows through interaction, timing, and shared history.

[0:00] Introduction and Speed Round with Paul Eastwick

[8:21] Why dating checklists and apps fail us

[14:45] The myth of universal attractiveness

[21:03] How attraction develops over time

[27:29] Is “love at first sight” a lie?

[38:13] The ‘best’ way to meet people

[47:04] The Stroop effect

[54:50] Attraction, identity, and history

[1:01:11] Desert island music picks

[1:03:55] Grooving session: trust, attraction, and relationships beyond dating

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Pink Floyd - Hey You

Nobuo Uematsu - One Winged Angel