What if queerness was infinite, instead of limited by the strict rules and norms of our patriarchal world? What if we abandoned the binary of tops and bottoms, gays and straights, women and men, and embraced the idea--nay, the reality!--that all of us are fluid, ever-changing beings with deep wellsprings of desire and turn-on we would never know about if we didn't get curious and explore? I talk about all this and more with my guest this week, James Patrick Nelson, or as I call him, Jamie.

In this episode:

• Why Jamie thinks the world would be better if more straight men got fucked in the ass
• The surprising emotional power of being sexually receptive
• Jamie’s chaotic, joyful anal debut story (yes, it involved a threesome)
• Why “top” and “bottom” are wildly insufficient ways to describe human desire
• The queer loneliness of trying to fit into tiny little boxes
• How the pandemic changed Jamie’s understanding of intimacy, beauty, and self-worth
• Why joyful, consensual anal sex is still almost absent from mainstream media
• The difference between humiliation and vulnerability—and why patriarchy confuses the two
• Jamie’s very horny origin story for wanting a tattoo
• A sexy game for exes that honestly might fix modern dating
• Why the best sex is often about feeling truly seen and worshipped
• The making of Jamie’s sensual new indie film Something to Surprise Me
• How queer people are reclaiming sexuality from shame, binaries, and bad storytelling
• Ass worship, emotional intimacy, and the radical act of yielding with joy

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WATCH FOR YEARS TO COME: https://www.youtube.com/watch?si=-Tu7iceWO2px5pPU&v=jMrHzo03fxE&feature=youtu.be

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Samia

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