Affirmations are powerful, yet, if our core beliefs are incongruent, or not in alignment with our affirming, mayhem is likely. This episode explores the problem with affirmations, without doing the deeper healing work that drives our vibe, and therefore what we project into the world. 

Unexplored, healed and transformed limiting beliefs create mayhem and pain in our life.  How can they not?  They are by design limiting to keep us safe, and protected. They are there because sometime in our early life we decided to be adventurous, curious, playful, connected with others wasn't a good thing.  Or we figured is our parents, bugger brothers and sisters, teachers or society said "We can't, shouldn't, mustn't, or not for us" Then they must be right.  "After all, they are older, meant to be wiser and can certainly cause harm if we don't comply."

Affirmations are simply statements of belief.  Even our negative I am statements are affirmations. I can't,  I am not ..... I am ..... in the negative, conservative etc are affirming a belief of what we believe is not for us.  Therefore, to create and make the most of affirmations is to address the limiting, fear-based ones that are holding us back and uncreate the story and emotional entanglement/attachment we have given to the ideas. 

Previous episodes referenced during this one include: 

If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do.  Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.

Fears, those feelings, and thoughts triggered that remind us of unpleasant and painful experiences.  The times when we felt embarrassed, scared, ashamed, guilty, not enough or not belonging etc.  These feelings, memories and thoughts show up so we don't feel or experience the same or familiar.  After all, who wants to feel less than, scared, inadequate etc.?  Yet, when we employ curiosity and are open to hearing the messages behind the feelings. The story was given as a way to protect ourselves.  When we learn 

Being curious, and emotionally detached as possible, we can see things in a different light. We can make different choices and test newer ways of living based on the character we choose to become.

Previous episodes mentioned and encouraged you to relisten to include: 

If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do.  Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.

In this episode, the concept of self-care is considered.  Self, is how you treat, regard and interpret your experiences in line with your truth. 

Using life as a mirror, and engaging a curious mind to explore how you do or do not self-care in uplifting ways.

Self-care includes, but not limited to:

Other episodes to revisit to support your self-reflection include 

Ideas of how to self-care and celebrate yourself can be downloaded here 

If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do.  Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.

I love doing this activity, even though at times it also feels a bit tongue in cheek.  I love that it opens up possibilities, can stretch the boundaries, expose limiting beliefs and enables permission.  Re-wiring of the brain can start as the seed is planted in a different direction of 

What if xyz does happen, what if I succeed, and if I can evolve and become what I chose!

The challenge in this activity is to give yourself permission to daydream and even consider, ever so slightly, something else is possible for you.  

It is a great activity to combine with the Wheel of Life, and the information gathered in this activity is used in future episodes. An excellent activity to create a dream /vision board or even brainstorm your upgrades and changes you would like to create in the future. 

If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do.  Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues. 

This episode is to create a baseline awareness of how you see your life at the moment. As you label the roles or parts you have in your life, you also start to evaluate the meaning these have in your life and why.

Common segments include: health and wellbeing, adventure, friendships, family relationships, finances and investments, relaxation and self-care.  You can label the segments as you choose, as this is your life. 

Exploring the segments, exploring if you are living them from your conscious choices, they are of value according to your or others' values, or life scripts enables you to make empowered choices from here on.  Ultimately the questions raised filter if you are living your life on your or other's terms, explore whose expectations are you striving to meet and why.  With this information, you may choose to make changes subtle or profound to align your choices with your values and the character you want to become during your life. 

If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do.  Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.

In this episode, I walk through an activity that engages both the left and right brains, exploring the thought/memory and feeling parts of memory.  Your dominant/writing hand asks the question, and the less dominant/non-writing hand gives the answers. In essence, you access the folders in the subconscious, and with the adult, mind make sense of what happened of the hurtful experience from all those years ago.  

Combining the technique with powerful questions, forgiveness, and insight into why people do what they do, this episode is an excellent refresher of ways to reclaim your power and create beliefs that work for you. 

If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas for ways to reduce the impact at the moment.  Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.  

This is one of my favourite strategies to use to help make sense of situations that are triggering me.  In essence, I ask my observer and director characters (Episode 6) to come in and shine. 

Reflecting on situations without emotional entanglement or judgement a lot of data can be collected, and interpreted for more accurate interpretation.  The upside - 

Sound good?

It takes time and practice. I will also encourage you to seek professional help to navigate through and objectively reflect in this manner.

If big emotions come up and you are triggered, tap it out, journal, or yell into a pillow.  Get into nature, forgive yourself and hold space for yourself to feel and heal.  Ask your judgmental voice to talk with you, but not to judge, explain their take on what and why you are feeling the way you do.  Encourage yourself from a loving space, if you can, what you might say to your best friend.  

This episode is not therapeutic advice, and listening to this episode you are taking the responsibility for the process, outcome and reactions you may experience

Continuing with the value of asking quality questions, this episode explores the type of daily questions one can ask to explore the wins, challenges and how to live closer from chosen value and character than from historic habits. 

Many of these questions are included in both the book What the Mind Sees, the Body Creates, Feels and Attracts, and the Awareness and Accountability Journal.  They are the regular questions I ask myself and clients as we move with curiosity through the why, what and how of both historic and future roles. 

Greater clarity creates structure and a life of purpose. 

There is a guided meditation asking questions for your Life Mission, to explore the type of person you want to be known for by a future date.

If you wish to work with Leah, you can choose the type of support and book online at www.stepstochange.com.au

Caveat - do not listen to the meditation while driving, or when required to be fully present in an activity, care of another or operating machinery.  

If you are triggered by this information, then be sure to reach out to your local mental health organisation or support person. 

The information in these podcasts are generic in nature, and the listener takes on the responsibility for the outcomes. The information shared is not intended to be medical or psychological advice. 

Questions, in my opinion are the key to life. 

Asking questions provides so much valuable data, about who we think we are, and the world we interact with.  Questions literally give us the answers we are looking for, if you know how to use them wisely.  Focused questions provide detailed answers, curious questions are expansive, some can be double-sided drawing positive of negative data into our thought awareness. 

One of the biggest secret when asking questions about ourselves is to be curious, welcoming of all data and non-judgemental.  Ask your critique, judge and juror and shamer to leave the room or go on holidays for a bit while you take time out to receive data of how to create your life on your Terms

For instance 

These questions are not in this episode, but a teaser of what to come.  

Join me in this episode as we explore these concepts, more and ask some potent questions to kick start your self awareness.

Download your free 20+ Pivotal question ebook that has even more great questions, and explore more of how I can support your self-awareness journey, check in with my website www.leahmarshall-marmulla.com

Also, one of my books is an Awareness and Accountability Journal. If you are looking for powerful, clarifying and defining questions, this is one book to purchase.  Available Internationally through Amazon.  

Character roles, in this episode are the parts of us that step in and support us.  Unexplored, they control and act from our beliefs, which as you can imagine can empower, neutralise or disempower our experiences.

In this episode, we explore journaling as a form of exploration, in particular 6 primary and common roles present in our behaviour 

The ones discussed include:

You may identify with others, and that is ok.  The principle is the same for the each character role that presents themselves.  With a curious, non-judgemental approach, each can provide you with invaluable insight into their role, function and purpose, and how to maximise their expertise for your growth and towards the life you choose to create, on Your Terms. 

Trust you enjoy this self-exploring exercise, and answer the questions provided for each character role to answer.