PART ONE: Special Guest Zoe Schacht shares her story about being molested at age 7 and talks about how child PTSD can manifest over time. Being pinned as a "survivor" from a young age forced her to grow up faster than most, and led her to being hyper sexual as a teenager. From dating older men whom she had no interest in being vulnerable with, to realizing she is a queer woman who can't receive oral sex... Zoe has been through the wringer. But, she has spent thousands of hours in therapy to make it out on the other side of her trauma. Tune in as she shares her personal experiences and wisdom on how to move towards reclaiming parts of yourself after trauma and accepting the rest. Cheers!

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The ladies have a conversation with the Chief Operations Officer of the Gulf Coast Children's Advocacy Center; Brent Patrick. They discuss what the organization does, the relationship they've built with law enforcement and why it's making big change, and therapy bunnies. Cheers!

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Gulf Coast's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gulfcoastcac/

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Lauren & Shannon respond to YOUR sexual assault stories and answer a question from a listener "How often do you think about your sexual assault?" Two stories are shared from two different listeners. One is an example of medical assault; how several doctors took advantage of their power, pushed the boundaries of their patients, and the long-lasting impacts of it. The other is about someone who was assaulted in college, and how being sexually assaulted can cause a victim to recreate the scenario over and over again in an attempt to gain control. Not to mention all the substance abuse that comes after sexual assault. It is such an honor to be able to share personal stories from audience members and we are so proud of all of you. Thank you for letting us be a part of your story. Listen to this episode with the same respect you would your own personal stories. Cheers!

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Happy Valentine's Day you sexy people! We know today is supposed to be all about love, self love, and relational love... but we can't talk about those things when some of you incredible people are dating an emotionally abusive narcissist. Today the ladies discuss what being in a narcissistic relationship actually is, the telltale signs, and how to get out this type of relationship. Is your partner not who they were at the beginning of your relationship? Do they rarely express empathy? Are they incapable of doing wrong? If these things sound familiar, tune in to see if you are in a relationship with a full-blown narcissist. Grab an ice-cold beverage, your boo, and buckle up for a reality check. Cheers!

Some super informative stuff on narcissism: https://www.jordanharbinger.com/dr-ramani-how-to-protect-yourself-from-a-narcissist-part-one/

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In this week's therapy session... Lauren candidly shares her journey to break free from her routes of relationship stubbornness and toxicity, emphasizing that in a healthy relationship you can't hide beneath your old ways of toxicity. The gals explore the idea that being in a truly healthy relationship requires continual self-improvement, rejecting toxicity, and embracing the need for therapy. Shannon tackles the challenges of securing a "big girl job" in a society that tells you your value lies in what you do for work. She also discusses unwanted encounters with people connected to her past of a cheating ex-boyfriend and how going to the gym is not a good time. Get cozy with your favorite cup of tea because it's therapy time. Cheers!

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In this episode, the ladies delve into the unsettling reality of friends behaving unexpectedly during the sexual assault court process. Join them as they share two personal scenarios where friends either disappeared, hired attorneys to evade subpoenas, or painted victims in a bad light while testifying. They even read a portion of a witnesses testimony and break it down in attempt to understand why people might act that way. You want and hope your friends will be there through thick and thin... but that's not always the case. Court, investigations, and sexual assault can make people act way out of the ordinary. Grab yourself your favorite bubbly beverage and give this episode a listen. Cheers!

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Shannon shares her story on how she was sexually assaulted. Hear her truth. Cheers!

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Shannon and her surprise guest "Code Monkey" talk about how to navigate relationships, sex, and traumaversaries after learning your partner has been sexually assaulted. They are answering the burning questions: How do I react after hearing this? Will I ever be able to use handcuffs during sex again? What does it mean to actually trust your partner? Dive into this intimate conversation about communicative sex, traumaversies, and of course some personal stories. Grab a beverage and your boo thang and give it a listen! Cheers! If you're impatient skip the intro:

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(5:43) The rest

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Lauren shares her story on how she was sexually assaulted. The ladies discuss how their perpetrator displayed immense manipulation skills, and was able to worm his way into their entire family who fell for his facade of a "true gentleman". Sharing your story isn't easy, but it can lead to healing and a sense of community. Here is Lauren's truth. Cheers!

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Whether it's New Year's Eve or any festive gathering, facing large crowds can trigger anxiety for many whether you've experienced trauma or not. Lauren and Shannon share personal experiences and practical tips on navigating social anxiety in bustling party settings. From the buddy system to quick exits, join the conversation on coping strategies and finding comfort in the chaos. Cheers!

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